absolutely. most of it common sense, but it's nice to just hear it in book form.
it's personal. she gives lots of good examples.
the french. i would not have known how to pronounce "cresh"
i will end up listening to it again.
Great plot, great reader, new framework on an old situation and so rational I'd like to start all over- listening to the book and raising my kids.
I'm not a mother or mother to be but I'm interested in how people learn and thought this could be interesting to check out.
I didn't want to stop listening!
I feel like this would be insanely helpful for people with children.
This isn't an American bashing book which is so nice because usually its some kind of 'so and so is better and this is why.' This book isn't like that. It's just a comparison of various aspects of childcare and learning skills of Americans and the French.
This is also a great book for just looking at various cultures and what they view as important.
Very practical advice delivered in an interesting and Enjoyable way.
I loved this book! And i loved the narrator! If only i had this advice when my first child was born. I am definitely applying the French approach. Its hard, for me not the kids. They are more relaxed after only a few days.
Freedom from assumptions
I have heard every terror story about having a child from almost everyone around me. It is nice to know that at least one Mom has succeded in beating the odds.
I admire the Mom, she decided that the assumed fate of mothers everywhere would not be hers, and proceeded to figure out the reasons and details. She makes it seem perfectly reasonable and doable to have a well-mannered child that "does her nights" (sleeps through the night) early, doesn’t throw food, likes to learn, try new things, help, has manners all while still having a sense of self and not "cowed" into submission.
I couldn't say, I laughed through the whole thing. Only later did I realize how much I learned!
From the start the baby is its own self, don't rush to pick him/her up, watch them, and learn from your baby. They will tell you what they need. Wait to pick them up at night, they might be between dreams, watch & learn. Give them the responsibility and honor of BEING from day one. However at the same time as the age of reason sets in, they are as responsible for their actions as any adult. Again, watch learn and let them be a responsible member of society.
I only listened to the audio edition - I thought the reader was great.
I have made some significant paradigm shifts in my views on parenting following this book.
I highly recommend this book especially to working mothers. Much of the guilt of working and raising my son was relieved by this book. I highly recommend this book and only wished that I had read it sooner. My son is 2 1/2.
Avoid the over dramatized french accents
Pam Druckerman clearly states at one point they had four nannies. Then wonders why her kids are obnoxious in public. Rather then coming to the clear conclusion they are desperate for her time and attention, she decides it can't be that since "ALL" frenchwomen go back to work and dump their kids in public daycares for 50 hours a week and they are not brats. Women in our country and France have only been going to full time work for just about 2 generations. The American brat problem did not occur during the 50's when American women actually raised their own kids. The difference between France and here is likely to do with them not trying to make up for neglecting their kids by giving them whatever they want in the 2 hours a day they are home to "pretend to raise" them. Working women parent from a place of guilt here. Guilt only occurs when you know you're doing something wrong. Maybe the fact that the last 32,000 years human type women have been nuturing their own children and it feels wrong not too is because it is wrong not to.
Yes, it's informational and sometimes it's nice to get a little refresher on different parenting techniques. I'm constantly referring to my baby sleep aid book and I imagine I will refer to a few chapters in this book as well.
All the Frenchies!
Refreshing, thought provoking, entertaining
My husband and I are expecting our first baby in about a month and I am so glad I listened to this book before he is born. My husband also loved the book and is the chef of the house so is excited to make a little gourmet out of our future offspring. In comparing french parenting styles to the over controlled, over worried, under 'educated' or disciplined American parenting was eye opening. It really made me relax a bit about our future and how we would parent. Some ideas I dont agree with and many I would love to incorporate into our future life. The story is told as that a story more than a 'how to' guide and that is what we love about it. Many points of view are discussed and lots of research is done but all in keeping to the story line and first hand accounts of an American living and raising children in Paris. I highly recommend it to anyone who has children or will in the future. So interesting and entertaining!
The humor injected into the topic really helps take it all in. There are some truly valid points in this book that like a pill are hard to swallow, however the way she shares the information makes it easier and we only benefit!