interesting book to compare parenting styles for someone who is relatively confident in the lessons that are being taught to their own children. I appreciate differing opinions, however it caution the listener to not feel negatively towards all american mommies. everyone has their own style and each one lends itself to a child who is loved and cared for in just the right way for them. read with composure and confidence and just appreciate how other women do it different! ;-)
good time filler in my long commute
Yes, anyone having a baby needs to read this if you are from the US.
We are conditioned to think that having a baby means what we see around us. I work in psychology and so many people write about the subject of how to raise a kid, and it has not made this new generation of children any better. Instead, it seems as if we as parents have become more scared of our children and loosing the power of what it means to raise a child.
I wasn't very impressed with this book mainly because the author's own neuroses about raising her children became more and more annoying as the book went on. She wouldn't let her children go to see their father play a soccer game because they might get hit with the ball. Really? Come on!
Anyway, the narrator does a good job in my opinion. She does well with her French pronounciation. And I did enjoy learning about some Fench customs and expectations. It will come in handy when I visit France!
I found this book interesting. I am a first time parent with a 2 yr old and took some notes to apply to my parenting like 4 magic words- please, thank you, hello and goodbye is one example. Now i dont have a bad kid, hes actually the best kid ive known mother favortism aside, but some of the "french ways" seem highly impossible and that the french kids were glorified and perfect.There was a few contradictions within the book. I wont be following this exactly but it did give some good advice, some that will need to be adapted to fit my american life- like "husband first child 2nd" (how bout more on even ground), and then there are the ones that will absolutely not work in america. Like mandatory 8 day "field trips" in the 1st grade to establish "independence". No way.
I was hesitant to get this title at first, didn't know what to expect. I'm so glad I got it. It's a big departure from the normal parenting guides.
It starts out the the author's story, how she went from US to France. At first I thought it wasn't relevant... ok at times there's some filler stuff that isn't related to parenting. But when she gets to the parenting stuff it's eye-opening.
It seems simple on the outset. Instead of going through a list of 10 or 20 things to do, the author picks up a handful of very helpful, yet essential parenting techniques and focuses on why they work... why the french believe in them so much, and at times brings up stats and research to support such claims.
I picked up 2 major tips and agreed with my wife to start to apply them with our 9-month old son. Actually, I wish I got this book earlier cuz it seems to answer things I doubted when my kid was like 3 or 4 months old.
I'm halfway through the program and can't wait to finish it.
I love audio books and this one was no different. I really enjoyed the french accent used by the reader throughout the book it helped you really feel the difference in the French perspective of child rearing.
Aside from being a beautifully executed performance this book was also written really well. It wasn't just a lot of opinions and outside observations. The writter, who is a journalist really approached the topic of why are French children and American children along with their parent so different from a lets investigate and really try to understand the fundamental differences perspective.
I love every French women mentioned in the book.
Lovely book and a great listen, well done! I am not a parent, I heard about this book on NPR and was intrigued. I have a lovely 3 year old neice and baby nephew and for some reason I am find the way of American child rearing mystifying, scary, confusing and a bit daunting. This book even helped me learn more about children in general. Loved it!
Yes. The book is well researched and the author mentions many interesting facts and statistics.
The cultural difference in the way French parents approach parenting is fascinating, and it is interesting that they are so effective in dealing with young children. What concerns me, however, is that the author did not pay attention to the mental and emotional well-being of French adults - seeing that the inevitable outcome of childhood is, in fact, adulthood. If their parenting techniques are superior, I would like to see that portrayed in happier, more well-adjusted adults and not just well-behaved children. This does not seem to be the case.
Reminding children to greet people - something which is easily overlooked.
I like the self-effacing style of writing, the humor and personal experience throughout the book.
By eliminating the Ms. Craden's use of ridiculous British & French accents throughout the book.
Definitely anger! I was hoping to learn the author's view of cultural differences of raising children (I am an American living in France, like her). Instead, the person reading the text, Ms. Craden, felt compelled to demonstrate her incompetent pronunciation of both British and French accents. This made it impossible to concentrate on WHAT was being said, and forced me to suffer through HOW it was being said! When I reached chapter 3, I called it quits and stopped listening -- and promised myself never to buy another audiobook where the reader wants to show off his/her poor acting talents. Tell the readers, especially Ms. Craden, to just read the texts in a normal, native American accent, and stop showing off.
My kids are a little too old for much of this advice but I thoroughly enjoyed this book nonetheless. If you are interested in how others live in other parts of the world, you will enjoy this book.
Avoid the over dramatized french accents
Pam Druckerman clearly states at one point they had four nannies. Then wonders why her kids are obnoxious in public. Rather then coming to the clear conclusion they are desperate for her time and attention, she decides it can't be that since "ALL" frenchwomen go back to work and dump their kids in public daycares for 50 hours a week and they are not brats. Women in our country and France have only been going to full time work for just about 2 generations. The American brat problem did not occur during the 50's when American women actually raised their own kids. The difference between France and here is likely to do with them not trying to make up for neglecting their kids by giving them whatever they want in the 2 hours a day they are home to "pretend to raise" them. Working women parent from a place of guilt here. Guilt only occurs when you know you're doing something wrong. Maybe the fact that the last 32,000 years human type women have been nuturing their own children and it feels wrong not too is because it is wrong not to.