I found the writer of this book intolerable ND I think her quirks were exacerbated by the reader. The book is based on faulty premises and could actually be quite detrimental to child (especially the food section). My husband finally suggested I quit listening to this book because it put me in such a bad mood!
Probably not. I picked up a few quick tidbits (the "pause" which I already do, but it was nice to put a name to it, and the importance of "Bonjour"). Other than that, I felt the author made very generalized comments about parents in America and France alike. I kept waiting for real statistics or proof that what she was saying was more than just her opinion formed from a few encounters with her friends in both countries, but it never came. With the exception of some quotes here and there taken out of context from different child-rearing books, every point she made started with "My friend in the US does this awful thing while my French friend does this." I didn't mind hearing her observations on the differences, however, the very stereotyped "American parent" got pretty old after a while and did not sound like the parents I know.
Wonderful advice. I love parenting books that point out the common sense fundamentals we sometimes forget in the U.S. about such as how children learn patience and self control but still advocates letting children be children- creatures that need to be free to discover, explore and use their imagination. The woman who reads this book is absolutely wonderful! I appreciate the accents she uses! It really brings the story to life!
I also recommend John Rosemond's books to anyone who likes this one, because there are many parallels and his is also a back-to-basics type of view.
Great snippets of wisdom! If only we read this preemptive of our firstborns! Bad habits are generated when we make concessions, and resort to just trying to get by- the hopes of retaining sanity prevailing over too many drowning moments of the vice. Nonetheless, our babes are malleable so there's hope! Will definitely refer back to this one!
I liked this very much. Gives you many things to consider. My 2.5 year old now sleeps through the night with no hassle thanks some insight I gained here. Not everything is inline with my parenting style but I appreciated considering it just the same.
I am German-American and remember much about growing up there. Really, the French way of raising kids is, or at least was, very much like the Germans do it. While I don't want to belittle American mothers, I am very much in favor of allowing kids to experience some frustration - after all, won't they have to go through this for the rest of their adult life? Much better if they have experienced this from early on and much less fuzz for their parents. In particular, this seems to be good for marriages, as the lower divorce rate in Europe does attest to.
One word about the reader: certainly, it is cute that she allows to label French speakers by speaking them with a big fat French accent, but sometimes it does interfere with understanding of what they are saying.
As I prepare for my first child, I want to raise her like I was raised. With limits, structure, and autonomy. Many of the parents of young children, who I know, are controlling without assertiveness, so the children win in the end. Their days are planned to what the parent wants not always what the child wants, and children do not explore. It is nice to see that children continue to be raised with the same values I was. This book is vindication that it is possible to raise her like I want, even if American society does not embrace this strategy anymore. Thank you.