Yes. Being a young parent myself in a foreign land this book introduces a different perspective to raising disciplined kids.
Reduce repetition ...
nope. Due to repetitive concepts its best to listen in parts
Counter intuitive & interesting
It is all memorable, I keep discussing it with my wife!
Well done, loved the accents :-)
With everyone over the age of 40 telling me that you entire world will change with kids I find this book comforting. Though a child may change things, it does not have to mean the end of your world, but rather an addition to it. This book gives me hope for a well behaved sage kid.
The parenting advice is common sense and not necessarily French. This brings up the question of just what is the deal with the U.S. helicopter parents (as opposed to all U.S. parents), but that is not really explored. 4 stars overall because there is a somewhat funny story with cute kids and the advice could definitely help families who are somehow not getting it otherwise.
Considering that the book is presumably for Francophiles, the narrator's French pronunciation is pretty bad (e.g. "Nouvelle vague" said "vayg" instead of "vog") unless the idea is to sound like the author who spoke bad French, in which case the performance is excellent. But the author's personality is irritating enough with her neurotic cluelessness; one does not need to add in special effects to amplify that.
Professional librarian type, amateur historian.
On the surface this is a book comparing American vs French pregnancy and child rearing. In another way it is a book exploring aspects of French culture through children. The biggest thing I walked away with was the importance of the "Bon Jour" in French culture and a willingness to try making yogurt cake (so easy French children make it). There were aspects of the book that I found annoying. The author expresses self doubt and keeps going on about a need to 'mirror'. To me it sounds like a whiny American. Ignoring that there are several gems and insights in the book about the French, particularly French women, Anglophone women, and attitudes towards children and food.
People who like novels about women - going to work, meeting people, experiencing culture shock in another country, dieting and so forth might like this book...oh, I'm sorry -- was this supposed to be a book about children? Yes, there is a small bit of informal information about kids- it is not researched, it is always just things she sees and hears from her friends. But there is so very little of that kind of information it seems almost knitpicky to scrutinize its quality. This is a book about this woman living in France and her personal feelings about random stuff- mostly involving getting used to living in France with her daughter Bean- that is not a typo- I listened to her say that name hundreds of times- slow-mo and fast forwards and every single time she says Bean- so either the narrator has it wrong or the cover is a typo
There is also a strong emphasis on teaching the language and culture of France. These lessons fall equally into two convenient categories: Obvious and Irrelevant
I can't believe I let myself listen to seven full hours before I decided that she had nothing to say on the actual subject of her book.
I like books about raising kids- maybe one day she can write one of those and keep her personal life stories out of it- and she should source her material like a grown up professional who writes based on research
For the most part she was acceptable except the long spans in which she spoke with a thick French accent even if quoting a written article- I think she was just looking for an excuse to sound bad- It was hard enough to get through this book without having to rewind bits to figure out what she's saying
I would cut her personal stories but then the book would be ten pages long. Again this is a lot more about her personal stories than it is about education and very little has anything to do with children
So here is her advice:
-Let babies cry for five or ten minutes before tending to them- so they might comfort themselves.
-When children over four demand attention, politely tell them to wait a moment
-low carb diets work and can make you as pretty as the women in Paris
-The day cares in France are awesome
- France is a great place
The rest is all filler
I'm a twenty-something lit nerd who enjoys Romance, Fantasy and YA Fiction. I like strong female heroes and entertaining readers.
Pamela Druckerman lived in France. She saw French parents doing a better job than she was and wrote a book about it.
According to Druckerman, French babies are treated like little adults and that is what makes the French wiser and better parents.
I have no children. I did full time nanny work for about two years and lived with and cared for children, but I feel like it's important to point out that I myself am not a parent.
This is an attractive book because it portrays a sort of secret code to getting your child to sleep through the night, eat their food and not to be hellions to other people.
Yet, really, its the culture and the social programs in place that seem to make the biggest difference. Americans are never going to take up the ideas of French parenting because culturally we are so different. In short? It seems to me like the whole book is a kind of utopian fairytale. Great for France, but not so applicable to America.
When I read the description of this book, I thought it sounded like a selfish parent's guide to parenting. But a good friend loved it, so I gave it a chance.
Wow, was it eye opening! Instead of seeing the French parenting style as selfish, I see the benefits of adding more structure to the daily routine and meals, can laugh at an outside perspective on the hyper competitiveness we Americans have in sports and academics, and most of all - in one week I have let go of a great deal of guilt I carry for doing anything for myself. I see the great value in letting the kids just explore for long periods of time, and the value of letting them get bored and learn to be patient.
This book is light and entertaining, reads like a novel. The narrator is fantastic!
I'm now listening to it a second time. Can't wait to try out a lot of these techniques!
Oh, and I'm now laughing at all the commercials on kids TV and ads for kids activities that boast to help your child "get ahead", "get a head start", etc. Sheesh - what is the big hurry anyway??
This was one of the best parenting books I've read (and I've read A LOT). Ms. Druckerman clearly and intelligently highlights the alarming overparenting trend I've noticed committed by both my peers and parents of my students (I'm an expectant mom who works in a school) and offers realistic solutions based on her ex-patriot observations of Parisian parents. She by no means degrades her American counterparts and is often self-deprecating in her inability or unwillingness to take the advice of her Parisian friends. After she makes anecdotal observations (generally couched with disclaimers that not all Americans commit the parenting sins she describes, nor do all Parisian mothers make Americans seem like frumpy/frazzled messes with misbehaved children), she consults the research which often supports her points. Need proof? I listened to this book while concurrently reading "Brain Rules for Baby," another excellent parenting book which was written by a PhD- both manuals came to almost identical conclusions on key parenting issues such as sleep, eating, behavior, and setting boundaries. If there was a way to make sure that my future child's parents read these books before deciding to host a playdate, I would do it!
The narration on this book was fine, although the French pronunciations were a little forced. I prefer a milder accent when quoting non-English speakers, not one that is so strong that I needs to add focused attention to ensure I'm interpreting accurately. For example, the term "education" is pronounced: "edz-ooo-cah-see-o" by quoted Parisians. In sentences like this, I'd prefer to understand the content of the message, rather than be pummeled over the head by the fact that the speaker is French.
While having definite opinions on a touchy topic (child rearing), it does it in a non-pushy/non- judgmental way. Really enjoyed the book!
The cooks at the Crevis (sp?). i.e. the cooks at the state daycare.
The personalized sense--which is part of her ability to deliver the message in a non-judgmental way.
I certainly laughed!
Definitely worth it. I am making my husband listen to it as well.
didn't read the print version
i enjoyed the author's ability to self reflect on american and british practices with the strangeness of the french way. And then bring about the logic about why the french do it the way they do.
i like the whole idea of waiting... the idea that a child needs to be educated and not trained - a small adult.
Sometimes being French is Healthy