I never really read non-fiction because I often end up being bored at point but my God, this book has been a bit of a revelation to me from the very beginning. I 'read' this book in the audiobook format which I can recommend to anyone who, like me, is very interested in the content but has a hard time committing to non-fiction at times (the narrating is good too.)
I feel like this book is a must-read to anyone no matter if you're an introvert yourself. I am not a big introvert but I feel like I learned a lot about myself and other people - some things just make more sense now and I feel like this book has made me wiser.
It raises some good points and cites some excellent examples. If it ended in 5 hrs instead of 10 hrs I would have given it 4-5 stars, but when you continue to drone on about the same thing for the additional time, it subtracts from the book rather than adds to it. Strange how that works.
The thing I liked least was when the author brought her personal politics into it. I guess she has the right, heck it's her book , but that's not what the book was supposed to be about or what I choose to listen to. Fortunately it was minimal.
Absolutely! Even if my friend is an extrovert it is very insightful. We all know both personality types as a whole, this book provides a perspective that we do not normally get.
What I liked was that first of all, it confirmed that I am "normal" HA! But also I loved the discussion on different cultures and what is typical outside of America, such as Asian culture.
This book made me do tons of research and it started a conversation!
Great voice of narrator along with an incredibly well researched and written book.
Extroverts at the Party, Introverts in Stall 9
All extroverts need to LISTEN to introverts to lead better companies and lives.
how the author provided a balanced insight into the introverted mind using both her own observations and experiences combined with scientific literature.
That working alone has proven to be more effective than working in groups at mastering a topic. Ive found this to be true in my own life, and make a point of giving myself time to digest information.
Susan Cain does a great job of highlighting the unsung strengths that tend to accompany introversion. Many parts of the book are highly educational.. i.e. understanding that certain traits we may deem standoffish are actually nothing more than introverted individuals shying away from their fears. It was also great to understand that many of the unlikable political figures and celebrities are introverts who do not have the charismatic people-winning capabilities that the Clintons of this world have.
My main gripe with this book is that Susan (perhaps I'm misinterpreting her introvert natured explanations) tends to trample extroverts in the process. Dale Carnegie is one such victim who's refined tactics and recommendations are dismissed inauthentic and noneffective.
This does little, however, to detract from the accomplishments of this book and I would recommend it in the highest regard.
Software developer (Java, Ruby on Rails, Android) and all-around computer nerd, as well as an avid reader and listener of intercommunication- and psychology-related books. Not much for fiction, but I love cool non-fiction!
Choosing all five stars on all categories is not something that I'm usually quick to do, because, when I see this on others' reviews, there's a little voice in the back of my head that goes "yeah right". At first glance, I expected this book to be more of the same "just stay positive and accept yourself" stuff of inspirational books. Even though I had these expectations, a thorough look at the reviews was enough to cause me to give this book a shot.
Every positive review that I've read on this book is absolutely spot-on. The narration of the book is very pleasing to the ears while--at the same time--not one bit in danger of putting one to sleep. This book caused me to realize that there is *much* more to introversion that can be casually assessed without some thorough reflection and research. The concepts are backed up by solid lab studies and tests. While most books that I read in the area of self-development help me to determine more about others (and how to deal with them) than about myself, this book caused me to gain more insight into *my own* life than that of others.
I am lucky enough to live within walking distance from my office, and usually listen to books while walking there. This book had me wandering outside of my office building, not wanting to go inside because it would deprive me of more listening time. You can truly tell that the author has put her life's work into the making of this material.
Whether you're an introvert, or a friend or family member of an introvert, there is no way that I could possibly convey how much insight this will give you into an introvert's mind. The concepts laid out inside *will* open your eyes and go FAR beyond the simplistic alone; I almost guarantee that there are ideas that you've not considered about introversion in the content of this masterpiece that will change the way you go about your life.
The most powerful thing that I brought out of the wonderful experience of listening to this book is the reversal of the incorrect assumptions that introversion is something to be fixed and of which to be ashamed. I never would have imagined that there are strengths to introversion that have no substitute in the extroverted personality and are strengths to be cherished and *honed*, not *fixed*.
If you're reading the reviews of this book, wondering whether or not to give it a listen, I think you know my vote, but, just in case, I will tell you to GET THIS BOOK. After listening to it, I would gladly pay ten times the price for this book because it's enlightened me--and changed my life--more than ten other self-development books combined.
Yeah, I scored high on the checklist and yeah, I said I'd been through the same thing, had the same thought, knew exactly what she's talking about and wished I'd had this book at age 15 instead of ... OK, let's not go there.
However, my takeaway is a bit different.
I can't think of a better discussion the value of diversity to yourself, your family, community and just about everything else, the discovery of personal strengths and weaknesses, our interdependence on others AND our ability to push our limits and excel outside of our comfort zones.
Excellent stuff for contemplation, exploration and discovery ...
The employee who would rather research the facts than be the first to blurt out an opinion. The child who turns down play dates because she needs time alone to recharge. The neighbor who delights in catching up over a cup of coffee but quickly declines the annual block party.
How do we help these people come out of their shells? According to Susan Cain, author of Quiet, we don't need to "fix" these behaviors, we need to treasure them!
Quiet takes us into the workplace, the classroom, the megachurch, and our own homes to examine what scientific research says about the differences, strengths, and weaknesses between so-called introverts and extraverts.
Cain also explores how these qualities fare in Eastern cultures versus Western cultures, whether groups or individuals demonstrate more creativity when using brainstorming to solve problems, and how you can tell whether a baby is going to grow up to be an introvert or extravert. (Really.)
A gold mine of insights for parents, teachers, friends, managers, spouses, or anyone who's ever chosen the bubble bath over the company picnic, Quiet will leave you wondering, Where has this book been all my life?!