Almost completed with Part 1 and it sounds like she is writing about my life. For me, it has begun to put me at ease at work, after only 21 years, I can now feel comfortable with myself and realize nothing is wrong with me. Thank You! Excited and looking forward to Part 2. Three words:
My life has been very similar in almost all the situations talked about in the book. Unbelievable. Hit it right on the head! Made me giggle and laugh at times as I listened in my vehicle during my long commutes. Anybody who may have seen me, probably thought I was pretty weird. That really doesn't bother me though as my two boys always tell me I am a nerd. :)
Just to hear there are truly other introverts out there going to similar life situations make me feel like I am okay and normal in a wold of extroverts and a society that reinforces and favors those behaviors.
I’m sure some people who were drawn to this book consider themselves ‘misfits’ somehow, and the title of the book brought on an approving smile quite unconsciously. I was one of those people. Even though the title intrigued me before the book was published, I hesitated and waited weeks after the book was available for purchase. I thought it might be yet another new age psychobabble type of “accept yourself as you are”; “pat yourself on the back & there’s nothing wrong with you” type of book. (You think by now, I would have learned not to judge a book by its cover/title, apparently not. Good thing I’m curious & got the book anyway.) This book definitely has those elements, with generalizations such as:
“Introverts were built to inspect, where Extroverts were built to react.”
“Introverts are more accurate but slower, Extroverts are less accurate but faster.”
BUT… (Since I gave it 5 stars, you know there is a ‘but’ coming) the author based her statements on behavior, sociology, psychology, and brain physiology research studies and clearly emphasized that when she used generalizing statements, they are exact that: sweeping generalizations. She set the foundation with these generalizations, then sought out exceptions and showed by examples that Introversion & Extroversion are the extremes of the same spectrum. Both have strengths & weaknesses and both are preserved by natural selection in humans & other creatures because a balance of the two styles is crucial to survival. She highlighted the advantages of ‘quiet strength’ Introverts have (ie. Rosa Parks); the danger of having exclusively extroverts in decision making roles (ie. the perfect storm of the 2008 financial crisis); the role that cultures play in rewarding Introvert or Extrovert characteristics and what happens when one’s culture environment changes (which I interpret as one of the leading causes of high suicide rate among the Asian Americans); the benefits of symbiotic partnership between an Introvert & an Extrovert IF they know how to communicate with the member of the opposite character traits (ie. Jobs/Wozniak, Parks/King). The book is extensive yet Susan Cain managed to keep my interest. The last two chapters brought a ‘personal revelation’ to me which is why I gave it 5 stars. I used to think of myself as an extrovert with a lot of ‘quiet moments’, but instead it makes much more sense that I’m actually an introvert with ‘loud moments’. Read the book & you’ll understand what I mean by that.
Some interesting ideas about innovation and our bias against or about shy people. The first part of the book brought many interesting studies brought up early in the book. Seemed to drag a little when she got too much into anecdotal stories of counseling friends and ice skating better.
The first 2/3 of the book was really quite interesting and good. It was all about the historical and current research regarding the differences between introverts and extroverts. The last 1/3 wasn't very interesting, however. It was more about the author's personal opinions/conclusions and was fairly prescriptive about raising and educating an introverted child. Other's may find that helpful, but I was more interested in the science and research. I am comfortable drawing my own conclusions.
The book was very easy to follow.
Kathe Mazur is just perfect in her presentation and pace.
Quiet helped me to better understand the introverts in my life both at work and personal life.
No; The author is without doubt a liberal Democrat. I was very disjointed when she used Al Gore as a example of a introvert who couldn't get his message across on global warming.
Drop the political messages in this book.
Waste of money
some interesting insights
Overall an interesting book but not really fair. it makes it sound like being extroverted is to have no substance and shallow. I appreciate some of the insight and parts of the book are really interesting, but this present all the "science" from one direction. As a fairly introverted person, i have to say it interesting how the perception of introverts is described and how society does seem to prize being extroverted, but that does not mean the introverted people are the only ones who have something of substance to offer. There was a chapter on how introverted people can become extroverted in certain areas that are passionate about that i thought was very interesting. Overall a good read, somewhat through provoking, but not a book that makes you think "I will think about this topic totally differently from now on.".
Mother of 3
Yes - wether you are introvert or extrovert, this is a must read.
Presentation and communication skills for introverts
Interesting Insightful Helpful
This book was very insightful and I enjoyed learning many different reasons for being introverted. Its logic and sequence were excellent. Example stories throughout the book are very useful.
The speaker says room funny its not a problem but I noticed every time. She says rum instead of room.
Likes: Cozy mysteries (cats a plus), personal memoirs,not too dark fantasy, books about the brain. Dislikes: Torture, animal cruelty.
I would not have selected this book to read on my own. It was a selection of our IT department book club. In retrospect it is a somewhat ironic choice since IT groups tend to be introvert heavy and our management adheres to the "extrovert ideal". As a sensitive introvert myself, I did enjoy that the book is very against the extrovert ideal. That ideal implies that any act which you do not celebrate by marching back and forth in front of a bigwig's office blowing you own horn is of no value. Of course most people like books that are affirming so it isn't surprising that I liked it. The book has several different topics. It discusses introversion and extroversion in the context of brain functioning. I always find books on the brain interesting so I enjoyed that part. I was less interested in the long discussion of the cultural differences between American and Asian views of introversion/extroversion. The beginning talks a lot about the extrovert ideal - how it came to pass that extroversion is prized in current American society above all other things. I found that discussion of interest. I did not realize how much that had changed. The author also discusses her attendance at various events designed to make you more extroverted or celebrate introversion. I did find her stories of interest. The ending section about relationships between extroverts and introverts (romantic or parent child) was also interesting. Although I found the narrator's voice pleasant, I did find it hard to hear when listening in my car, even at full volume.