Teacher, avid reader/listener, yarn-fiend, romantic cynic.
A graduate professor of mine mentioned this book in passing in class February 2013. Curious, I downloaded it figuring it would be an interesting change to my normal commuter-student fair of light-hearted romances, stolid non-fiction and mind-numbing research articles.
This book captivated me. A mix of narrative storytelling, well-researched explanations and personal reflections, Cain lays out her premise: introversion is not weak, a fault or a social mistake -- it is hidden strength. Through a series of chapters organized around a particular area of research or myth surrounding introversion, she illuminates the way that American/Western societies have come to value extroverted personalities and the cost of that. Do not take this to mean that she is negating the value of extroverts. Instead, she frames and elloquently supports a very balanced view of introverts and extroverts, showing the strengths and weaknesses of each and how in a modern world that values extroversion to the extreme, introverts are the silent tigers with the power for change.
The only downside is one that many audiobooks would struggle with: Cain has created some questionnaires/"guess who" lists that do not translate well into audiobook format. Mazur does a wonderful job with the reading despite this. Her reading is calm, yet carries the subtle humor of Cain's writing. Well done and well-fit to this book.
On a side note: According to Cain's questionnaries, I am a highly sensitive introvert, who chooses to adopt an extrovert persona in her career. This fits both how I feel about myself and how people would describe me and has helped me to consider what choices I make at school, teaching and also with my downtime.
This book is a punch in the stomach of the so called extroverted world
The case analysis approach
To be an introvert is not synonimum of to be shy
Yes. This book helped me to see the person I really am. This book has helped me to see strengths in what I previously felt were weaknesses. It has also helped me to understand people around me.
Insight into introverts
Read in the first person
No specific one
Of the quiet; what it tells us
Informative insight to thought processes of introverts. Comparisons and contrasts to extroverts. Revealing interesting hypothesis.
It's an interesting view into the minds of introverts and extroverts--psychologically, socially, and culturally.
No. Her narration drove me nuts. Just because this book is about introverts does not mean that you have to narrate the book as if you are trying to make someone fall asleep. I'm an introvert. I don't speak breathily (if that's a word).
I really liked the book, but the narration was not my cup of tea.
The best as both the most momentous and the only audiobook I listened to a second time within a week of finishing it for the first.
Intelligent, well-written, and inspiring
I loved it, despite being an extrovert (or at least I thought I was). Surprisingly, introverts and extroverts will gain from and enjoy it.
I thought it was exceptional.
I not only learned a great deal from this book, I found it so interesting and the case studies and examples so enjoyable I couldnt put it down. I am what most would consider a classic extrovert personality. But now I know, that isnt really the case. Who'd a thought a nonfiction could be so interesting and entertaining in addition to thought provoking.
I count myself as an introvert with some traits typical of extroverts. This uncomfortable coexistence of two (often conflicting) extremes have made me awkward for years to put it mildly.
This book will not give you one perfect solution to your issues whether you're an introvert yourself or an extrovert who's having a hard time dealing with introverts. Still, it gives you some insights. And some comfort, too, if you've been trying quite hard to conform to a dominantly extrovert environment and found it very frustrating.
I'd rather some of extroverts who underestimate all introverts all the time read this book.
Well, I think my review has become quite personal. But I can say for sure that this is a very good book.
As an introvert I have often felt out of place in an extoverted world. This book did an incredible job of putting everything in context including the history of introversion in the US, brain science, famous introverts, the special strengths of introverts, and practical advice about living in a world of extroverts. I understand myself a lot better after listening to this book (twice) and no longer feel put down by the attitudes many have about introverts. Awesome book and a great reader. Highly recommended!
Reading scifi and biographys, hmm
Yes I have recommended it to family and friends. Excellent description of how introverted or quiet people do and can live their lives.
The authors descriptions of her personel experiences.
I listened to it until I was done over a few days, didnt get bored or go to a different book.
I wish I would have had this when I was a child or something similar. I also wish I would have had it as a new parent years ago when my children turned out shy and quiet. I dealt with my life the way I saw best and tried to teach that. "Quiet" describes what I did to cope with the world around me but not everyone can do it my way etc...