I've lived my life thinking I had to be more outgoing and talkative, and that it should feel natural. I was taught that to be successful I had to prove myself to be better then others because getting to the top and making lots of money was the only way I would be successful and happy. Until I read this book I felt that there was something wrong with me because being talkative and outgoing was far from natural for me, and I knew that climbing a corporate latter to look down at others wasn't where I wanted to be. I am an Introvert, I enjoy wondering, contemplating, quiet time, reflecting, and absorbing information about everything this life has to offer. I've never been able to hold down a job for anymore then 3 years because the stress of satisfying the needs of others in a world where it feels like no one is ever satisfied overwhelms me. Susan Cain has written a book that I believe will change the way people will look at Introverts. After reading this book I now feel understood and that being outgoing and talkative doesn't come naturally to me but quietly thinking and listening does. It doesn't mean I can't be successful, it just means I need to do something that is more suited for me. I feel a career change coming on!
I enjoy reading fantasy, science fiction, and horror the most. To improve, I read about language, psychology, spirituality, and art. I read about computer science and business for professional reasons.
I haven't had the opportunity to study much personality psychology. Reading this book has made me sort of regret this limited knowledge, although I think this book has at least added some.
This book is a study of the traits of introversion and extroversion. The book starts with a history of the development of these concepts as defining extroversion as confidence and social strength, with introversion as shy and weak. According to the author, these were false.
Susan questioned why unrelated traits were assigned to people who were simply quiet. She replaced words like shy, weak, and aloof with more complementary terms such as thoughtful, attentive, or private.
The book went on to describe how these concepts and measurements have been used for businesses, organizations, colleges, politics, and more.
Individual examples of people were given to show how many of the stereotypes were false. Examples of great leaders showed that even highly public people still enjoy time to themselves, which is characteristic of introversion. This showed that environments, situations, and circumstances often change how people can strategically apply traits.
Open offices were cited as unproductive environments. Brainstorming sessions were described as reducing the amount of ideas as more participants attended. Certainly, only one person can speak at once, but people can freely write or type ideas very rapidly. Further, social factors such as bossiness, intimidation, and egos were said to be more relevant during large meetings, and perhaps degrade the ideas produced.
Interpersonal interactions and relationships were also covered. A lot of the statements described how people who are more extroverted are one way, while people who are more introverted are another way. Susan described how these people can interact in the three possible combinations with two people, in addition to in crowded situations.
All in all, this was a good book for learning about humans and their personalities in the category of introversion and extroversion. Both of these were fairly new topics, and the book provided a much better grasp.
I've always been an introvert, always needed "downtime" to myself to futz around on the computer or read a book, but now, thanks to "Quiet" I know why. I love being able to look my extremely extroverted husband in the eye and say look, here's the neurological reason why I'm done at a wedding after two hours and you want to stay until they pack up the tables and chairs. I found the historical background of the "culture of personality" fascinating and a bit frightening and the scientific studies of introversion interesting. But perhaps the single most valuable part of the book for me came at the end, when Cain talks about introversion in children and how to help an introverted child. My son has a lot of energy but is also very "slow to warm" and extremely cautious, guess which parent he takes after? Cain's tips on how to help your introverted child once they reach school age will undoubtedly come in handy.
I have to admit that Kathe Mazur's narration did not do it for me. Her voice matches the pace and topic of the book I suppose. I mean having a manic extrovert chirping through the book would have made no sense at all, but her voice was a bit too lulling and I found myself losing focus more than once. Also I found her enunciation to be less than clear which is tough for me because I can listen to my audiobooks at work but must keep the volume low out of respect to my co-workers. Her voice was not a great match for my listening style or situation.
Still, a great listen for any introvert or extrovert. I just wish I could get my husband to sit down for long enough to listen to a few parts of the book.
Excellent! Insightful! Great relationship advice in learning about the thought process of introverts. Relevant!
It was thought provoking and well researched.
Kathe has a great voice for this type of book. It was quite a bit of information but easy to follow with how she read the book.
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Excellent - thoughtful. Listened on audible - would love to see in print because there was so much great information.
A few months ago, I expressed to my brother that something must be wrong with me because in 25+ of professional corporate environment, I have been to lunch with other people a dozen times. All of the other times, I get in my car, grab some food and eat and listen to audio books in the privacy of my personal transportation device.I then listened to Quiet and it all makes sense. I take an hour in the morning before my house wakes up, an hour at lunch listening to audio books, and an hour nap after work because of my severe introversion.
Keep in mind, that when I was brave enough to announce that I was an introvert in a corporate team meeting a few weeks ago, everyone was surprised. I am very outspoken and one of the best people to lead meetings or stand up and give presentations, but I must recharge multiple times a day or woe unto me.Thank you for finally making me understand that my need for recharge time is a normal mental state for people who are introverts.
This book just felt like a compilation of many, many studies done over the years. The author is just regurgitating the results.
You might find this interesting if you are a Psychology student. If you are an introvert, you probably already know much of this and will just find confirmation here.
Kathe's voice was easy to listen to.
I enjoyed the stories about famous people like Rosa Parks and Eleanor Roosevelt.
I have not read the print version.
Susan Cain's discussion of introverts is wide ranging. Her profiles of well known people pique your interest. Her additional discussion regarding leadership styles, cultural differences, interpersonal relationships and resolving differences and conflicts are insightful. I will be mulling over her book for some time and may listen to it a second time to be sure I did not miss anything.
Kind and compassionate are the words that come to mind when I listened to Kathe Mazur's reading of Quiet.
I was struck by finding both my son and myself in Quiet. Generally I am not inclined to describe people by labels, but Susan Cain's description of the "orchid child" explains so many things about my son. I wish that this book had been written many years ago. The insights from Quiet would have been a balm and a relief that he and I were normal, normal introverts.
Susan Cain presents theories of personality in an accessible way for readers and listeners who are not schooled in these fields. She describes the particular bent that we in the U.S. have towards extroversion and encourages all of us to bridge the gaps between individuals, cultures, nations, really all of us, through understanding and reaching across that which divides us. Very highly recommended!
A well written book is a gem.
Introverts are the protagonists in this exploration of PERSONALITY vs. character. Thank you to the author Susan Cain for making us, the introverts feel like the unsung heroes in a world consumed with rewarding the extroverted who exhibit not always appropriate behavior.
I liked this book more than I thought I would. I am an extrovert, although I do share a few traits with introverts. I chose to read this book to better understand my students, colleagues and friends that are introverts. It was eye opening to learn how much extroversion is prized and the stress that can put on introverts. I was pleasantly surprised at how both sides of the introvert/extrovert personality was considered and discussed. I felt that I was able to not only better understand others but also myself. I finished this book with a sense of how important it is to be open and interested in others and to see their strengths in order to create strong friendships and working relationships. And yes, I am trying to slow down, wait, listen, and shut up once in awhile to let the introverts in my life have time to think and share… if they want to.