If you think you have some introvert traits, it a great way to find out you are normal. If you are intimate with an introvert, it's a fantastic way to understand them better. And I would hightly recommend to employers to lean more about their workforce.
Great insights, well delivered…This book is a well composed manual for understanding behavior and relationships for both introverts and extroverts. Long overdue.
I would love extroverts, especially business people, to read this book. Give them an insight to how introverts think. For introverts I think being introverted you pretty much know what she is talking about. I have always been called shy or mysterious but I'm really neither. I like to roll around in my own head. I work better when it's quiet and I can think and I generally like what I find in my own ideas. If I don't like what I find I like to rework it all out. I don't understand extroverts. I loved the whole scene she wrote about Tony Robbins. I've seen him on television a couple times and have to turn the channel. She was spot on how introverts see that assembly of rah rah. Some of the sections, like about the fish, went on too long and my interest waned but for the most part it was insightful and nice to know being an introvert isn't as odd as people like to make it out to be.
This is a must read for anyone in teaching and business. Susan Cain's profound analysis of people who like and need quiet to think and recharge is simply revolutionary. While so much of our society is intent upon valuing perhaps too highly the character traits of "extroverts," we are missing out on the power of introversion. Thanks to Cain, I no longer need to feel guilty about who I am, or wonder why I am successful despite not confirming to the "extrovert" mold. It is not an accident!
The story of the young lawyer, and Cain's grandfather.
In a world that celebrates self-promotion and equates talking rapidly with intelligence, this book presents a different way of being and succeeding. I enjoyed listening to the book, learning its concepts and how they apply in different situations, and will listen to it again.
I listened to this book in the car with my daughters, ages 9 & 11. Both were drawn in by Kathe Mazur's unhurried, gentle voice and listened carefully. They quickly understood the concepts and thoughtfully applied the ideas to themselves. As a parent, I enjoyed the resulting conversation.
Absolutely! Even if my friend is an extrovert it is very insightful. We all know both personality types as a whole, this book provides a perspective that we do not normally get.
What I liked was that first of all, it confirmed that I am "normal" HA! But also I loved the discussion on different cultures and what is typical outside of America, such as Asian culture.
This book made me do tons of research and it started a conversation!
I've lived my life thinking I had to be more outgoing and talkative, and that it should feel natural. I was taught that to be successful I had to prove myself to be better then others because getting to the top and making lots of money was the only way I would be successful and happy. Until I read this book I felt that there was something wrong with me because being talkative and outgoing was far from natural for me, and I knew that climbing a corporate latter to look down at others wasn't where I wanted to be. I am an Introvert, I enjoy wondering, contemplating, quiet time, reflecting, and absorbing information about everything this life has to offer. I've never been able to hold down a job for anymore then 3 years because the stress of satisfying the needs of others in a world where it feels like no one is ever satisfied overwhelms me. Susan Cain has written a book that I believe will change the way people will look at Introverts. After reading this book I now feel understood and that being outgoing and talkative doesn't come naturally to me but quietly thinking and listening does. It doesn't mean I can't be successful, it just means I need to do something that is more suited for me. I feel a career change coming on!
I enjoy reading fantasy, science fiction, and horror the most. To improve, I read about language, psychology, spirituality, and art. I read about computer science and business for professional reasons.
I haven't had the opportunity to study much personality psychology. Reading this book has made me sort of regret this limited knowledge, although I think this book has at least added some.
This book is a study of the traits of introversion and extroversion. The book starts with a history of the development of these concepts as defining extroversion as confidence and social strength, with introversion as shy and weak. According to the author, these were false.
Susan questioned why unrelated traits were assigned to people who were simply quiet. She replaced words like shy, weak, and aloof with more complementary terms such as thoughtful, attentive, or private.
The book went on to describe how these concepts and measurements have been used for businesses, organizations, colleges, politics, and more.
Individual examples of people were given to show how many of the stereotypes were false. Examples of great leaders showed that even highly public people still enjoy time to themselves, which is characteristic of introversion. This showed that environments, situations, and circumstances often change how people can strategically apply traits.
Open offices were cited as unproductive environments. Brainstorming sessions were described as reducing the amount of ideas as more participants attended. Certainly, only one person can speak at once, but people can freely write or type ideas very rapidly. Further, social factors such as bossiness, intimidation, and egos were said to be more relevant during large meetings, and perhaps degrade the ideas produced.
Interpersonal interactions and relationships were also covered. A lot of the statements described how people who are more extroverted are one way, while people who are more introverted are another way. Susan described how these people can interact in the three possible combinations with two people, in addition to in crowded situations.
All in all, this was a good book for learning about humans and their personalities in the category of introversion and extroversion. Both of these were fairly new topics, and the book provided a much better grasp.
I've always been an introvert, always needed "downtime" to myself to futz around on the computer or read a book, but now, thanks to "Quiet" I know why. I love being able to look my extremely extroverted husband in the eye and say look, here's the neurological reason why I'm done at a wedding after two hours and you want to stay until they pack up the tables and chairs. I found the historical background of the "culture of personality" fascinating and a bit frightening and the scientific studies of introversion interesting. But perhaps the single most valuable part of the book for me came at the end, when Cain talks about introversion in children and how to help an introverted child. My son has a lot of energy but is also very "slow to warm" and extremely cautious, guess which parent he takes after? Cain's tips on how to help your introverted child once they reach school age will undoubtedly come in handy.
I have to admit that Kathe Mazur's narration did not do it for me. Her voice matches the pace and topic of the book I suppose. I mean having a manic extrovert chirping through the book would have made no sense at all, but her voice was a bit too lulling and I found myself losing focus more than once. Also I found her enunciation to be less than clear which is tough for me because I can listen to my audiobooks at work but must keep the volume low out of respect to my co-workers. Her voice was not a great match for my listening style or situation.
Still, a great listen for any introvert or extrovert. I just wish I could get my husband to sit down for long enough to listen to a few parts of the book.
Excellent! Insightful! Great relationship advice in learning about the thought process of introverts. Relevant!
It was thought provoking and well researched.
Kathe has a great voice for this type of book. It was quite a bit of information but easy to follow with how she read the book.
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Excellent - thoughtful. Listened on audible - would love to see in print because there was so much great information.