I liked the many different topics that were covered. The author investigates both classic ideals of modern behavior in an introvert vs extrovert sense, as well as diving into new research on personality traits as related to classic introvert and the new thinking on self-monitor and high sensitivity. Another interesting aspect of the book is the discussion on how introverts classically feel shame for enjoying solitude more than social events. This topic crops up in multiple places and was a real "aha" moment for me.
Very soothing voice, good speed. Overall very easy to listen to.
No. There was too much to think about.
I am adding this to a list of books I want to purchase and have on hand for when my daughter (now 1 year old) begins to read on her own. It has a lot of parts that really hit home for me. One of those books that shines a little bit of light on part of you that is "wrong" and makes you realize that no, it's not "wrong" it's just the way you are.
No but I did purchase the Kindle version and hardback to own.
Her cadence really sets the important tone for the points that Cain is bringing up. Her pauses and soft but strong urges brings Cain's message to life... That we don't need to be gregarious or the loudest person in the room.
This book should be mandatory reading for all teachers, parents, mentors and coaches. I cannot emphasize enough how much this changed my own outlook on my life. I teared up at several points with
THIS BOOK IS WONDERFUL! Insightful, logical, and could save half of the world a ton of money on self help books and counselors. If you don't read it for yourself read it for the ones you love or mentor. Every mother should be given this knowledge to pass along to their children.
I have recommended this book to almost everyone I've talked to since reading it. It has changed the way I view myself and others. Being an introvert, I definitely prefer one-on-one interaction and small group settings to large gatherings. This book made me feel more at ease with this preference, along with other introvert traits.
Her voice was very calming and soothing, and her inflections and tones expressed an understanding of the material.
Thorough, inspiring, and comforting for any introvert who's grown up feeling misunderstood and awkward. I feel more comfortable in my own skin since reading this book.
A coffee a day
The author has spent 7 years doing research on this topic and it's so thought-provoking and fascinating that leaves me crave for more. 1/3 to 1/2 of the population is introverts and we all need to learn how to better leverage their talent. I thoroughly enjoyed the book and the reader. I'd strongly recommend it!
Almost completed with Part 1 and it sounds like she is writing about my life. For me, it has begun to put me at ease at work, after only 21 years, I can now feel comfortable with myself and realize nothing is wrong with me. Thank You! Excited and looking forward to Part 2. Three words:
My life has been very similar in almost all the situations talked about in the book. Unbelievable. Hit it right on the head! Made me giggle and laugh at times as I listened in my vehicle during my long commutes. Anybody who may have seen me, probably thought I was pretty weird. That really doesn't bother me though as my two boys always tell me I am a nerd. :)
Just to hear there are truly other introverts out there going to similar life situations make me feel like I am okay and normal in a wold of extroverts and a society that reinforces and favors those behaviors.
I’m sure some people who were drawn to this book consider themselves ‘misfits’ somehow, and the title of the book brought on an approving smile quite unconsciously. I was one of those people. Even though the title intrigued me before the book was published, I hesitated and waited weeks after the book was available for purchase. I thought it might be yet another new age psychobabble type of “accept yourself as you are”; “pat yourself on the back & there’s nothing wrong with you” type of book. (You think by now, I would have learned not to judge a book by its cover/title, apparently not. Good thing I’m curious & got the book anyway.) This book definitely has those elements, with generalizations such as:
“Introverts were built to inspect, where Extroverts were built to react.”
“Introverts are more accurate but slower, Extroverts are less accurate but faster.”
BUT… (Since I gave it 5 stars, you know there is a ‘but’ coming) the author based her statements on behavior, sociology, psychology, and brain physiology research studies and clearly emphasized that when she used generalizing statements, they are exact that: sweeping generalizations. She set the foundation with these generalizations, then sought out exceptions and showed by examples that Introversion & Extroversion are the extremes of the same spectrum. Both have strengths & weaknesses and both are preserved by natural selection in humans & other creatures because a balance of the two styles is crucial to survival. She highlighted the advantages of ‘quiet strength’ Introverts have (ie. Rosa Parks); the danger of having exclusively extroverts in decision making roles (ie. the perfect storm of the 2008 financial crisis); the role that cultures play in rewarding Introvert or Extrovert characteristics and what happens when one’s culture environment changes (which I interpret as one of the leading causes of high suicide rate among the Asian Americans); the benefits of symbiotic partnership between an Introvert & an Extrovert IF they know how to communicate with the member of the opposite character traits (ie. Jobs/Wozniak, Parks/King). The book is extensive yet Susan Cain managed to keep my interest. The last two chapters brought a ‘personal revelation’ to me which is why I gave it 5 stars. I used to think of myself as an extrovert with a lot of ‘quiet moments’, but instead it makes much more sense that I’m actually an introvert with ‘loud moments’. Read the book & you’ll understand what I mean by that.
Some interesting ideas about innovation and our bias against or about shy people. The first part of the book brought many interesting studies brought up early in the book. Seemed to drag a little when she got too much into anecdotal stories of counseling friends and ice skating better.
The first 2/3 of the book was really quite interesting and good. It was all about the historical and current research regarding the differences between introverts and extroverts. The last 1/3 wasn't very interesting, however. It was more about the author's personal opinions/conclusions and was fairly prescriptive about raising and educating an introverted child. Other's may find that helpful, but I was more interested in the science and research. I am comfortable drawing my own conclusions.
The book was very easy to follow.
Kathe Mazur is just perfect in her presentation and pace.