Lending legitimacy to the introvert way of being as a natural part of the spectrum is something valuable to each of us, our teachers, partners, friends and families. Although valued historically and even now for its cultural and scientific benefits, our culture has superficially derided introversion
to the detriment of all and the unnecessary suffering of many.
This book was recommended to me along time ago. It was very thought-provoking made me think a lot about my own children and their personalities. I realize I need to relax and let them be there selves. Because I listen though I was confused as to what type of person I am I think a mixture of both. I wish I would've read this book years ago would help me to understand different types of personalities including my relationship with my own husband. Although it did feel like at some points that extrovert is bad introvert is good, but maybe that's how introverts feel every day in the mainstream world. Something to think about.
This book helped me understand after 50+ years on the planet why I prefer my own company most of the time.
This is a must read for every parent.
I am a self proclaimed introvert. I enjoy my alone time and find self in my writing. But many whom I work with find it difficult to swallow that I am introverted. This book helped me understand my self a bit more when I describes many introverts can be publicly extroverts and choose to go home and enjoy alone time. I spend several minutes in the morning before work pumping my self up, telling my self that the sooner I get started the sooner I can go home. Once home I immediately change get my self some tea and fall in to a relaxing chair with my love and our 3 dogs. This to me is heaven. I have recommended this book to most I know because it is a true reflection of people and can explain the many why's we have about ourselves and others!
At the moment, it's top of the list.
Susan Cain helps me better understand myself, an introvert, and to better understand those around me who are extraverted. (Two for the price of one!)
I have a background in social science, with some psychology and her writing rings true. It is based on research, which she then shapes into a very readable narrative. She helped me understand the foundational reasons behind why some of us tend to be extraverted while others are more introverted, how those reasons manifest themselves in our personalities, and ways of interacting with each other that helps those interactions go smoother. Although I already have some knowledge of the topic, I learned a lot.
While it is based on current scientific knowledge and theories of our personality types, she keeps it grounded in the practical.
As an introvert with a several decades of exposure to life's experiences, I don't have too many extreme reactions anymore. :) I will say that, as a result of this book, I decided to "be myself" more frequently to accomodate my preferences and better manage my energy. Susan Cain explains that it's not simply interaction with others that introverts find exhausting, it's over-stimulation. Now I know why cities, conferences, or expos tire me. So, when I'm in stimulating environments I Iook for quiet times to chill by stepping outside for a moment, by letting others chatter on without feeling the need to mirror their ebullience, or by simply finding a quiet spot to observe for a while. Thanks Susan.
Whichever you are, introverted or extraverted, I think you'll understand yourself and those around you better than you do now. She gives clear advice for living with spouses, children, siblings, co-workers, and so on.
I strongly recommend this book.