I'm a consummate extrovert, and my wife--and two daughters--are not. this helped me with them, and also at the hospital and medical school where I teach, on a variety of levels. If you find yourself dominating conversations and getting frustrated with people who don't answer you, this book might be very useful to give you insight into not only the people you work with, live with, and love, but into yourself, too.
when the book describes the emotional drain socializing puts on introverts.
Revealing and insightful
As a non-fiction work, characters are not the focus of the book, but Ms.Cain did a deft job of weaving together pieces of research with everyday observations.
Her performance as smooth... with a voice well matched the the subject matter.
There's a distinct difference between being quiet and shy.
A consistent working definition of "shyness". It seemed to change as the need to apply research to this concept was twisted to support the thesis.
After listening to Quiet you almost definately look at introversy with different eyes. And if you are introvert yourself, you probably feel a lot better about yourself.
This book moves my personality from vice to character. The author beautifully shows that society is dependant on and harvests greatly from all different personality types.
I enjoyed Susan Cain's TED talk and decided to pick this up to hear her elaborate on the topic of introverts.
As I am one myself I was curious as to where the scientific community where in their understanding of the subject.
Susan obviously is extremely biased in her praise for introversion but does attempt to balance her opinions out with warnings throughout the narrative.
Those that are introverts will enjoy listening to this as there will be many "ah ha" moments for them.
"Know thyself" is one reason alone to pick this up.
I feel like the author is very defensive about being quiet.
I find the book disappointing due to her be so defensive.
Intelluctual, thought provoking.
The new approach and the gripping information.
I liked the review of the famous people who are introverts.
Extrovert versus introvert.
Well written and unbiased, it is particularly gripping for people who are curious about social skills.
A journalist's view of introversion, everything from psychology stuides to attend Harvard Business School campus, to her own experience as a attorney. Down to earth and well written Recommended for innies and outies!
What an affirmation! While listening to this book, I was constantly reminded of Al Franken’s Saturday Night Live character, Stuart Smalley, and his mantra, “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me.” Well, those who understand me do. Full disclosure, according to the Myers-Briggs Personality Test, I’m an ISFJ.
There were so many points of affirmation for me—things I intuitively knew. Things I’ve tried to share with others mostly to no avail. This book supplies all the data I need to support my case. Unfortunately, I don’t think the people who need to read/listen this book (extroverts) will.
The book is not an “introverts are superior” diatribe but rather an explanation of how we can leverage personality types most effectively. There is no right or best personality type but like life in general, we need to understand each other for more harmonious relationships. Whether these relationships are family, work, or social, applications of understanding are documented throughout the book.
There was one example in the book that hit particularly close to home. Although SAT or IQ scores do not support it, people who talk more are perceived as leaders. And, which personality type talks more? Extroverts. Now, assume that both extroverts and introverts have an equal amount of good ideas. Who is going to get their way more? Extroverts. This could be dangerous because they’re going to get their way more meaning that many of their bad ideas are also going to be implemented.
Oh, another thing I intuitively knew but now have support for is brainstorming sessions. Studies show the larger the number of people involved in a session, the less effective they are. A 9-member group is less effective than a 6-member group which is less than effective than a 4-member group which is less effective than a 2-member group. The suggestion is to conduct brainstorming sessions electronically. Collect comments and then share them anonymously and build from there. One of the reasons is that most introverts are better writers than speakers.
Other examples from the business world give tips for how both introverted and extroverted leaders can best work with their subordinates of each type. Take advantage of each of their strengths. Such as how studies show that introverts “inspect” and extroverts “react”. Neither adjective should be taken as derogatory but instead as strengths. Allow introverts time to examine and solve. Studies show they are more persistent trying to solve unsolvable problems. The famous introvert, Albert Einstein said, “It is not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.” My hero.
A final word on the narration—fantastic. Please listen to rather than read this book. Kathe Mazur does a perfect narration in a “Quiet”, calm, soothing voice. Very appropriate “in a noisy world that can’t stop talking”.