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Quiet is something that I feel every suspected and closet-Introvert needs to read. Much like others who have read this, I have always felt that I /have/ to be outgoing and obnoxious to get any respect, and I would feel apologetic when I acted with modest solemnity. Now and in part thanks to this reading, I am quite fond of my introversion and rather than apologize in public for my observation and modesty, I can smile and easily explain my inaction in a good-natured light.
The reading is very smooth and offers an insightful, very correct narration. Kathe Mazur is a marvelous spokeswoman for the introverted mind; her docile and subdued, but precise and powerful voice match very well with the tone of the writing itself. Quite worth the cost(or credit)!
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. Security does not exist in nature
I just finished “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking” and must say it’s the most important book that I've ever read. While it’s focused on the introverted personality, it provides keen insights into understanding all people. I wish that I had read this decades ago!
It doesn't matter if you’re an introvert or extrovert, parent or child, teacher or student, husband, wife or partner, boss or employee – this book helps you comprehend and interact appropriately with people of all types. And, when it comes down to it, understanding others is the foundation for both building relationships and maximizing our own potential.
This is a wonderful book for anyone interesting in their own introversion or anyone seeking to understand this curious aspect of some people’s personalities. I’m an INTJ myself, and while I’ve never felt excluded because of my introversion, and have always know there wasn’t anything “wrong” with me, it was very reassuring to be able to understand the nuances therein. I saw myself in a lot of the stories she related, and a lot of the behaviors displayed. While my wife (an extrovert) said when I told her about the book “You just need to shut up, man up, and be more social,” I laughed because, while she was joking, there is a lot of truth in that many extroverts have little understanding of our mindset. I can think of little worse than having to engage in small talk at a cocktail party, or chat with a mild acquaintance I met on the street. Equally loathsome are the bubbly extroverts who look at me at a social event and take it upon themselves to “draw me out of my shell” and force me to engage in the group. I’ll probably end up having some very earnest talks with some people to help them understand me better.
My only criticism of the book is that I felt Susan focused rather myopically on the ‘sensitive’ introvert, which I am not. While she is, I would like to have had more insight into the more objectively minded introverts who actually have a lot of trouble empathizing with others, and reading social situation correctly. Otherwise it was an excellent and refreshing read.
I read nonfiction to gain better understanding of topics on which I have little understanding. I did not know much about what makes introverts they introverts that they are. I have always believed that somehow I was a flawed extovert. I gained insight into two introverts I love and an understanding that I might not be an extrovert myself after all. I now understand the introvert perspective and have gained a better appreciation for their secret/silent strenghts.
The work was scholarly and thoughtful. It is definitely not a pop psychology piece. The sited studies added credibility. The author did a great job of fusing ancedotes and research studies. I will be ordering several hard copy versions to give as gifts as signs of appreciation to a several introverts who are dear to me.
I would recommend this book to all of my friends and a good many other "acquaintances"! It illuminated and validated many life experiences both for myself and the actions/reactions of others. It is validation for the introvert and understanding for the extrovert. Taken together all relationships (family, spouses, partners, colleagues, and even competitors) can benefit from the knowledge. Harmony and productivity should be the reward.
Strangely, I would compare Quiet to a good work of fiction; you know, one of the ones you get home and sit in the car listening for another 30 minutes because it's hard to stop. Though non-fiction, Quiet has no fluff or superfluous material. Though covering many scientific studies, study material is clearly described and never bores.
Kathe Mazur's reading of Quite is very easy to listen to. Her voice and vocal inflections are perfectly matched to the content. She is easily understood and her voice is pleasant to listen to, but in a way that helps maintain your attention to the material. Excellent non-fiction reader!
Into the looking glass?
Best nonfiction I've listened to, hands down.
For the introvert in me, this serves as a bit of self validation and somewhat of a manifesto. It is always nice to find some encouragement to find the power of the quiet 'in a world that can't stop talking'.
The only criticism I have is that the author did not set out to define the difference between introverts and extroverts. This gave her the convenience to use her data to support her point. But that's ok, this is not a scientific journal either.
The narration for this book is just perfect. I don't know if Kathe Mazur is a introvert or not. But in the passages when she was narrating the author in the first person... I have the perfect image of the author in the situation she was talking about. The soft-spoken, quiet assertiveness the narrator's voice is just perfect... exactly what the author was talking about!
I started reading the print edition while listening to it to see if I was missing anything in the audio version. I found that I wasn't so I switched to audio only. When I needed to process some information presented I would stop the audio, sometimes play it back a minute or two and then continue listening. The narration was very good.
Chapter headings set the stage for what was going to follow. There was a lot to think about in this book. It helped me realize what challenges are faced by both introverts and extraverts in the workplace.
The author's recap of ideas presented in the book really helped me review the information that had been presented. Since I listed to this over a two month period, that was very helpful to me.
Newly retired, I am a reading fiend! I like many types of books, both fiction and non-fiction, with the exception of romance and fantasy
I simply loved this book! Finally, a voice in the wilderness speaking up for introverts, telling us we no longer have to apologize or feel bad about being "quiet". This book should be read by anyone who has felt they were deficient or "just not good enough" and have been labelled all their lives as "quiet" (certainly not a compliment, right?) It is interesting that so many folks feel perfectly free to call you "quiet" but how often do we tell someone that they are "loud". This book also has very interesting and relevant information for extroverts, and they would be wise to listen to it also.
Kathe Mazur's narration was perfection. Any time I have to keep reminding myself that the narrator is not the author, I know that they are doing a wonderful job. I would definitely seek out other books she has narrated.
Introvert or extrovert, do your self a favor and listen to this excellent book!
Yes, many times.
Thank you Susan Cain for taking the time to research and write this book. I now understand the introvert I married and the two introverts I bore. I will be forever grateful for the insight and appreciation the book brought to this lover of introverts.
As a life long introvert I admit I never really thought about what that meant. How it affected my approach to life. What others expected of me and I expected of myself. This book made me think about my approach to the world and compare it to the approach of others. It was obvious that the author herself was an introvert. As she discussed the cringe-worthy events and institutions she attended as part of her research, a Tony Robbins seminar, Harvard Business School, Saddleback Church, I experienced the same discomfort, the same sense of knowing I was someplace I did not belong that she did. Positive, pumped excitable people tend to make my stomach queasy. But I was never sure why. I find myself ignoring someone who talks too much, at least for my taste. Since I don't want to hear every single thing they say, I don't listen to anything they say.
One of the most difficult concepts for people to grasp is "what does it mean to think differently?" We forget that two people may here the exact same words, live through the exact same experience, suffer the exact same tragedy or victory but interpret them in completely different ways. This book is about the people in the world who recognize on some level that they aren't wired the same as the outgoing, energetic, always pumped person they so often admire and their realization that this is OK.
Towards the end her definite preferences become a little more evident. But by and large she does a good job of presenting well rounded arguments that the world needs both extroverts and introverts in order to survive.
If you are an introvert this book will be comforting. If you are an extrovert, I won't say it is educational or that you will thoroughly enjoy it. But it is a rare opportunity for those that are always in the spotlight to step back and think about those that not only are not always in the spotlight, but have no desire to be there.