Summary: Western culture thinks extroverts are better than introverts. The truth is that both types are necessary and complement each other. Our extrovert bias causes lots of problems. These two personality types have a physiological basis and can be identified even in infants. We need to realize how introverted or extroverted we are and plan our time and energy around this. Asian cultures value introversion the way we do extroversion. Introverts can learn to ‘fake’ extroversion. This is useful but unhealthy if done too often. We should teach children who are introverts how to be themselves.
Huge boost to anyone who is an introvert in North America. You will suddenly see all the potential in your personality type. Your personality is not defective. Your strengths may be undervalued, but they are powerful.
Section entitled, “Does God Love Introverts? An Evangelical’s Dilemma.” Highlights the sometimes extreme bias towards extroversion in evangelical churches. The good people are always happy, talkative, friendly and talking about Jesus to everyone they meet. Was Jesus an extrovert?
Advice on how to fake extroversion is brilliant. This is necessary in western culture at times. Also good advice on how to do it without burning yourself out.
Chapter on Asian culture gives great insight into cross cultural communication. My favorite quote from this chapter from an Asian woman in a university class in the US, “Ahh, I see. In America as soon as you start talking you are okay.”
The end of the book is a good warning for extroverted parents of introverts. Try to help them but don’t try to fix them. They aren’t broken.
Complaints: Not many. This book is awesome.
Conclusion: I highly recommend this book to those who are quieter or like to be alone. Introvert/Extrovert is a powerful lens to view the world through. Introverts are devalued in western society and Susan Cain strikes a powerful blow at that kind of thinking. Quiet is balanced and very well researched. We really need extroverts to read this book as well. Probably knowing that many of them won’t Cain kindly made a TED talk video on the same subject. Although, to be honest, the book is much better than the TED talk.
Yes, and would recommend it to my fellow quiet friends. It's an empowering book for all people out there that have been told "you need to stop being so shy all the time!"
Audible obsessed lifelong learner.
Found the stories of introverts who have thrived due to their mental makeup inspiring. Recently took Myers Briggs again and it confirmed I am a hardcore introvert. This book embraces the power of he introvert and was a very interesting read. Far more interesting than other type talk books I have read before
Introverts are awesome and extroverts are rude, brash, and hardly worth anyone's time, after reading this book that is what you might come to believe. I thought this book would be better researched, it wasn't. I thought it would be better thought out, nope. I thought the writing would be better, solid NO. I thought it would make me feel better about being a bit of an introvert, yes, it did actually do that.
It is true the world does pay more attention to the extroverts in the world; I mean they are the squeaky wheel. But there was a lot of generalization in this book, studies were quoted (really good studies) but she would draw some of the most bizarre conclusions from them.
Overall, if I ever meet an introvert who struggles with how amazing they are, I would recommend the book. And I would recommend they skim over it instead of reading every word. It could have been done in a much shorter volume.
I'm still listening to it but so far I am very pleased with it. If it continues this way I would definitely listen to it again.
"Compare" it to? I don't really have an idea. However I just listened to the Power of Habit and feel Quiet is equally interesting and thought-provoking.
She reads it like she was "just talking". I feel like I'm having a conversation with the author on the topic. She brings the words to life.
Can't live without audio books! My eyes thank the inventor:-))
Certainly! it made me see clearly.
Her voice is so serene
Bold isn't always best
it was a meaningful take on life today...it really make me identify the other introverts in my life.
Yes, definitely would listen again because there are so many details and researches, it's almost a reference book, really. I put as many bookmarks as I could so I will go back to important points, but it's worth a second (and third) reading to take it all in.
The way it's narrated, mixing examples with researches, is amazing and you can't stop listening to it.
The narrator incorporated the book in such way that you feel like she's Susan Cain talking to you, and that's the best you can get, really.
the essential role of people who are always backstage in life
Yes, because there is so much to learn from it.
Introverts have so many abilities and so much potential, that we only have to realize it so we can be successful.
This book makes us introverts feel greatly appreciated (finally!). Thank you, Susan Cain, for being an introvert and for writing this book.
everything. content, style of writing, depth of topic
Susan's style of writing lends itself well to being read aloud and it was as if Kathe was reading something she had written herself.
the history or transformation of western culture into the extrovert mindset.
A book full of introvert smartness
The person talking is most probably not the smartest one in the room.