If you are a narcissistic, self deluded, douchebag, this might be for you. Because that is what this book claims every human being is.
Summary... "you think you are smart and that other people idolize you. You think the world revolves around you and that all other human beings are morons. You are wrong. Only the author of this book is that smart. Not you." This book is simply that message repeated about 100 times in different words.
This book is filled with great information about how we humans work based on many different researches throughout the world and the years. Some topics are covered by other books in greater depth, but I found that here you have just the right amount of explanation to understand what's going on and with a bit of humour to add to it.If you read other books on Human behavior and how the brain works, some info here may be repeated, but if not, I highly recommend you listen to this and you'll be surprised at how we deceive ourselves in so many different fronts.The only thing I wish there was is a PDF with a summary of the 46 chapters (maybe just the chapter name, even). It would greatly help remembering everything we learned.
This is an intriguing book, but the choice of reader is completely off-base.
The voice of the author is a youthful one; one that inserts silly and somewhat snarky remarks here and there. The reader, however, delivers everything in a flat, humorless monotone. The humor and wit of the book are, as a result, lost.
This started a little slow for me, but it picked up quickly. There were some interesting psychology principles presented in an easy to understand manner; some of them I was familiar with from undergrad and life, and some were surprising (yet made perfect sense once explained).
I have to say that the narration was very good. I was highly amused because the author uses the word "asshole" or expressions like "you are not the shit" sporadically. It came far and few between enough so that I chuckled each time. The narrator has this very cultured, proper voice, and that is how I picture him. When he calmly reads "you are not the shit" in the same tone as the rest of the book, it really is quite funny (or I just have a strange sense of humor, which is also quite possible).
There were some logic games that were fun to do. I also enjoyed the exposure of the logical fallacies that we all (yes, ALL of us) commit. Even your feeling of "I would never fall for that" is not as unique as you think!
Some of the chapters I enjoyed the most involved the memory and how false memories are created. I had the image that he described of memories being retrieved like files on a disc; however, that is not true. We reconstruct memories based on experiences and the author shows how false memories are created. I also really like the chapter about egocentrism and how you feel that everyone is noticing you - the big zit on your forehead, your new haircut, new outfit, etc. In reality, that is not the case and people are too busy focusing on themselves to focus on you as much as you think. There was a bit about catharsis that I can apply to may daily commute to work. The author explains how you feel good after making a rude gesture to someone after you are cut off in traffic. However, this does not get rid of the negative emotions that the cutting off evokes; what it does do is provide a cathartic effect so it feels good to you. In turn, you seek out that feeling again. Hm, that would explain why I find the need to use "sign language" so often as I drive to and from work!
I'm sure that most people will have different chapters that they feel are interesting or pertinent to them, but there is enough in this book that I think many people will find several interesting areas.
I love the chapter on hypochondria and how a hypochondriac uses the excuse of not feeling well to avoid projects that feel overwhelming to them or so that they avoid failure. The author also explains how the self-fulfilling prophecy works and how you can talk yourself into things. On that note, I need to end this review now......suddenly, I'm not feeling well.
Most of these things are, well, not to say rehashed, but somewhat of a collection of familiar stories. It's pop sociology/psychology, for sure - but I'm giving it four stars because it's well-written and organized, and, as collections go, it's fun and informative to read.
Besides incessant listening to audiobooks, I also read on my Kindle at night, birdwatch, garden (roses, daylilies), and do genealogy.
Some of the material I had heard before, but that didn't detract from my enjoyment of this informative book. It was a very entertaining read with quite a bit of humor. I came away from it throwing my hands up and realizing that all my opinions, likes, and beliefs are pure bunk! I truly must be an idiot, yes indeed. Lots of food for thought here.
Don Hagen did a very nice narration.
All in all, a highly recommended read!
I could give this man a hug for writing this book. Our world would be a better place if we all recognized our limitations as humans, and tried to overcome our own nature to improve our world.
The narration is gold! A rich and smooth tone with good modulation and cadence. So very easy to listen to and understand.
This is a great book that gets you thinking about thinking, it's broken up into bite size chunks which makes it easy to digest. Each topic is laid out in a similar format so it's easy to follow.
This guy is the king of narrators. Rich, smooth voice. Very easy listening.
No, i listen to it on my commute and it's broken up perfectly for that.
Can't wait to start this authors next book.
I had already heard some of things in this book, and some of it I flat out don't believe. the studies mentioned in the book sound like they were performed on mostly idiots. I truly do not believe most people are this stupid, and if they are I am scared.
Todd W. Brown
It takes a little getting used to as the studies are listed and the myths about your normal thought process are systematically dismantled. And I imagine a lot of people are going to become a bit uncomfortable hearing some of the things that we do in our heads all the time, everyday, but this can really be a great book to launch a change in cognitive thought.
I already have a few areas that I am trying to really focus on right now, and I will likely return to this book over the next year or two as I try to self-improve how I approach things in life that I often come at with my biased lens and misconceptions.