I had this book on my wish list for a long time not sure if I should get it or not. I was afraid that the book would be graphic like "Sybil" or "The Burning Bed". It's not. It's very insightful.
Dr. Perry is very good at explaining the cycle of abuse and neglect. He is vary compassionate about the children's stories At the same time he also shows compassion for the abusers and puts the emphases of child rearing not just on the parents, but the extended family and community.
It takes a community to raise a child.
I listened to this book over two days, and at the end of it I felt pretty depressed. The many stories of neglect, abuse and trauma were overwhelming, but I could not stop listening, and alternately felt anger, disbelief, sadness and hope.
The brain science, I admit, went over my head in several places, but the ultimate message of the book (that relationships are the agents of change) rang true. The final hour or so is a plea for stronger communities, better support for families and education about children and their development, cooperation over competition, and a parenting style that allows kids to take risks, make decisions and experience the world.
The authors' theory that solid relationships can go a long way to preventing problems, or fixing them once they've happened, makes a lot of sense to me. And I appreciate that while medications are sometimes necessary for these kids, they are by no means the most important part of their therapy. The authors also reject the notion that we are all slaves to our genes and that these kids turned out the way they did because they were programmed to do so. I feel there is some hope in these messages.
A supervisor gave this book to me when I was an intern. I started reading it back then but never had time to finish. The Audiobook made it real and accessible. Amazing work that has been done for children and families by Dr. Perry. Really touched me and inspired me to work harder for my clients.
Every story seemed to reach parts of thoughts that moved me and helped me recognize where I can improve my care. I would say the title case study was one of the shortest although meaningful there are some great cases in this book.
I love ready non-fiction. Near death experiences Autism Mental Health and those effected by it Spirit guides Intuition Angels
The collection of stories are well written and the mental mind behind them, explained. You get a look into both minds the victims and the offender.
That people do call for help and they get turned away - then they do their best and a boy ends up living in a cage - our system sucks.
Buy it, where you are interested in true crime, children, psychology, its a very good listen. but do not forget these stories are true.
It really made me take a look at "WHY" people do the things they do. I always knew that people are molded into who they are by the environment they are raised in, but this book really allowed me to see just how much things could impact your life and why.
I feel like this is a must read if you have ever gone through anything really traumatic in your life, ESPECIALLY if you have never sought out therapy for it. It helps you to make the connection in how past events in your life could still be presenting affecting you.
I am a school counselor that loves horror, fantasy, autobiographies, self-help, and Christian genres. I am a BIG bookworm! Reading is life!
I am in the counseling field, and this book gave me a deeper understanding into trauma that I would not be able to receive through my classes. I really loved how the author explained how trauma affects the brain and how the environment can alter the mind and behavior of a child. The stories were heart wrenching but fascinating.
I loved that the author was able to look outside of the box for solutions to issues these clients were experiencing and worked hard to help them be successful in the end
I think this was more which case study was more intriguing to me and that would have to be the title...the boy who was raised as a dog. It was fascinating to see his progression to becoming a functioning young man. I could not get over someone raising a child by keeping him in a dog cage! Another one that stuck with me was the child basically screaming for help because his foster mother was trying to make him sick or kill him (mauchausen) to get attention from others.
I think the book would have been overwhelming to listen to in one sitting because it's filled with so much knowledge and wisdom. A reader needs time to soak in the information.
I loved the narrator! He was very pleasant to listen to and I felt so easily drawn into the case studies.
Yes, if they are interested in what can go wrong in childhood and how we can serve the person to move forward.
This was a series of stories about different children. I don't have a favorite. They were all informative and interesting.
I love AUDIBLE! I never get mad at traffic jams and can listen to many different books, despite my short time.
Listen to this book! There are many amazing stories about traumatized children, most of them with a happy ending. But foremost, you will learn a lot about kids' psychology and what you should and shouldn't do to your kid, even if he/she never suffered any trauma. The author, Dr Bruce Perry is a psychiatrist that first learns and then teaches how to see the world through the child's point of view, and of course, solves their problems and help them to be accepted in the society.
This book was incredibly fascinating. The author did a nice job of balancing the case studies with facts about the way the brain receives and interprets information. It was interesting how trauma or neglect at early ages had different effects on how the children's brains developed. If anything, this book was an instruction manual for how I can raise happy healthy kids depending on how their brain develops at any given time. The only part that was hard to listen to was Dr. Perry's analysis at the end of the book which got very preachy. I understand it's necessary to conclude this book with the authors summation of the stories and what they mean, but I feel like that was done so well throughout the book that the end was just redundant.
Yes. This reader has the perfect voice for this subject, and I believe gives the correct nuances.
Everyone should understand the forces that shape our relationships and society as a whole. By teaching us the roots of empathy vs the roots of sociopaths, the author creates a powerful tool in the reader.
Hmmm, I have two....the interactions with the Raven, and how the author first approaches the boy in the cage.
No, because each case sparked very interesting family discussions.
I want to encourage, no...IMPLORE, everyone who works with children to read it. The author explores how our brains develop sequentially, how this is affected by life experiences, and how those effects shape our personalities. Reading this should be a requirement for teachers, and parents will find it fascinating. If you think your kids are being given too much homework, your gut is right and he explains why....and so much more! The true case stories he relates will grip you.