Yes to remind me what to do.
It really helped me understand my crazy ass mother in law.
It was a help book no characters.
All i am able to.
Lots of insight.
This book had great information on how to deal with someone that is in your life that is or has the behaviors of Borderline Personality Disorder. Gave good examples of the dynamic that occurs in such relationships as well as ways to approach each issue.
So glad I found this book. My husband and I listen to it over and over and learn more about our BPD daughter and how to relate in a more healthy and safe way. It is an invaluable resource. You will be blown away by how universal your experience is when you've likely felt so isolated previously. It was freeing. to say the least.
The wealth of information contained within the book. I listened to the book after 6 years of being in a relationship with a borderline. I have since bought the physical book for a friend in a similar situation. We both agreed that this book is enormously eye opening and helpful.
The various accounts of other people facing the same problems that I was. Hearing that I wasn't alone in dealing with someone who could just make up absurd stories and make outrageous accusations about me. I thought I was losing it until I came to understand that this is a common theme among borderlines.
The narrator of the woman's voice is great. For me, the narrator of the man's voice was extremely annoying.
I learned that the problems I was encountering in this relationship were (for the most part) not my fault. The more I understood about this disorder, the more I could make healthy decisions regarding what I would and wouldn't accept regarding this relationship.
Please note that if you are possibly in a relationship with a borderline or you may be a borderline yourself, this book is outstanding in better understanding the effects of this disorder.
Possibly. I got it in an audio format because of time constraints. I could listen while doing other tasks. I did purchase a print version for a friend of mine after listening to the audio.
This book has some valuable communication and managing tips. I did find that it was directed more towards spouses. I was looking for help with teen children. However, the authors made the point that children are often not officially diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, thus the books focus is adults. Overall, good material.
many scenarios that matched exact events in my life living with a bp for 15 years. Gives great explanation of why they do what they do. It all makes perfect sense now! So glad I got this book! I just won a custody battle against my ex-wife and this explains everything! This book really helped me. So glad I got it. A+! Even offered closure for me. Thanks!
Recommended for anyone who might want to learn how to deal with difficult people- not only for those with BPD. Provides some understanding and how to pull from your own emotional reserves.
I stumble across this book as my bdp fiancée moved out and away all the way across the country. I had no knowledge about this condition but the occasional name heard here and there.
There was so many things about my fiancée of 3 years that I would not know how to deal with.
I defined it as double standard. Then it became her standard. At last, there were no more common sense. I was to blame for everything gone wrong in our relationship.
This book revealed so much to me. Had I not discovered it, I would had moved on and continue seeing me as the fault.
Now, I understand and recognize the patterns I felt for.
Best, I am now equipped with understanding and techniques to hopefully try to help and even possibly restore and heal a relationship that was otherwise hopeless and felt completely helpless.
I love this amazing woman I met 3 years ago. Even more than ever. Now, I can only hope to have the opportunity to work in our issues and, if progress is made, possibly reunite and be together again one day.
And if not, I will have processed so much that I would have otherwise just buried in my heart.
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I recently found out that a close family member has BPD. I've been going to therapy to work through issues I have resulting from that, which has been really great, but I still struggled to understand why my BP family member acted the way she did and refused to get treatment or even acknowledge that there is an issue. This book really opened my eyes to what she's going through and it's help me move from anger to understanding. It has taught me ways to handle the situation better and to know how to communicate better with someone that has BPD.