This book had great information on how to deal with someone that is in your life that is or has the behaviors of Borderline Personality Disorder. Gave good examples of the dynamic that occurs in such relationships as well as ways to approach each issue.

You may have been drawn to this book because the title seems to describe how you feel much the time when dealing with a certain person. Many have never heard of borderline personality disorder (BPD)--called such because it is a disorder that seems to be on the borderline between mental illness and personality disorder--but if you feel like you're constantly walking around on eggshells with a person you care about and are confused, hurt and frustrated as to why that is happening, you might explore this book.
Even if that person has not been clinically diagnosed with BPD, many of the suggestions on how to deal with behavior that seems irrationally hurtful and manipulative are quite helpful. Audio format makes it a bit difficult to absorb the content (I did a lot of re-winding)– I ended up buying the print version of the book so I could mark it up and refer back to it when I found a particularly relevant section while listening. I also will be looking into getting their workbook which gives some more concrete pointers on how to deal with various situations. Recommended.

I found myself shaking my head a lot. I was in a relationship with a woman like this and it almost destroyed me.

this book is really good at pointing out the problems, but the only real solution seems to be seek therapy for the sufferer and avoid the relationship for the non BP- not bad advice, but I don't know that I needed to sit through nine hours of audio to learn what I already knew.

I would have appreciated a little more information on the actual brain chemistry that is a major contributor to this illness (far more than environment) and the solutions that a good psychiatrist can offer. Perhaps the research simply isn't there.

I told my ex girlfriend a number of times that she needed a psychiatrist. it was always taken as a horrible insult, even when spoken gently. if this book would have made a clearer case that the proper medication can help to put the sufferer of BP in touch with their intelligence and emotional balance I think it would have done a better job of serving an actual purpose rather than simply acting as a series of warning posts that you aren't likely to read until the damage has already been done- for which ever side of the fence you are on. That said, it might be helpful for a self diagnosis to steer you in the right direction in order to seek help.

I stumble across this book as my bdp fiancée moved out and away all the way across the country. I had no knowledge about this condition but the occasional name heard here and there.
There was so many things about my fiancée of 3 years that I would not know how to deal with.
I defined it as double standard. Then it became her standard. At last, there were no more common sense. I was to blame for everything gone wrong in our relationship.
This book revealed so much to me. Had I not discovered it, I would had moved on and continue seeing me as the fault.
Now, I understand and recognize the patterns I felt for.
Best, I am now equipped with understanding and techniques to hopefully try to help and even possibly restore and heal a relationship that was otherwise hopeless and felt completely helpless.
I love this amazing woman I met 3 years ago. Even more than ever. Now, I can only hope to have the opportunity to work in our issues and, if progress is made, possibly reunite and be together again one day.
And if not, I will have processed so much that I would have otherwise just buried in my heart.

So glad I found this book. My husband and I listen to it over and over and learn more about our BPD daughter and how to relate in a more healthy and safe way. It is an invaluable resource. You will be blown away by how universal your experience is when you've likely felt so isolated previously. It was freeing. to say the least.

Informative, guiding, practical

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A book to be listened in multiple sitting and multiple times! Many explanations that require time to think through. Many suggestions offered that take time to apply to personal situations. Information for both the person that may have BPD as well as for those dealing with these persons.

I feel like I need to buy the paper version to highlight sections and take notes!

Possibly. I got it in an audio format because of time constraints. I could listen while doing other tasks. I did purchase a print version for a friend of mine after listening to the audio.

This book has some valuable communication and managing tips. I did find that it was directed more towards spouses. I was looking for help with teen children. However, the authors made the point that children are often not officially diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, thus the books focus is adults. Overall, good material.

Recommended for anyone who might want to learn how to deal with difficult people- not only for those with BPD. Provides some understanding and how to pull from your own emotional reserves.

many scenarios that matched exact events in my life living with a bp for 15 years. Gives great explanation of why they do what they do. It all makes perfect sense now! So glad I got this book! I just won a custody battle against my ex-wife and this explains everything! This book really helped me. So glad I got it. A+! Even offered closure for me. Thanks!

this is a great books for those people who love someone with BPD. it is very validating. it gives very practical suggestions. I will listen to it over and over.