Retired CFO, Army wife, Mom of five, Grandma of six, two sons who served in combat, love to read books that reflect my values and faith, love mysteries, historical, military stories, and books that don't waste my time . . . if it doesn't have an ending that was worth the wait, I'm not a happy camper.
While Dr. Hare is the authority on psychopaths, and I gained a full understanding of what a psychopath is from his book, I found that his research dealt much more with the criminal element. The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout was more helpful to me, as it covers more of the day to day people we are in contact with every day . . . the ones we work with and for, go to school with and unfortunately have personal relationships with. I can now spot one a mile away. Wish I knew then what I know now . . .
When I was in the Army back in the early 90’s and deployed in the Middle East, I had a sergeant tell me that if all hell broke loose he would be the one raping and pillaging. His justification was that the people had brought it upon themselves and that in the end he had the might, and might makes right.
Luckily, I never had to find out if he was just an idiot or the clinical definition of a psychopath.
Even before this incident, I always questioned the massive amounts of cruelty in the world which led me to ask, “How could someone do that?” at least once a week, if not more.
This book is as close I’ve come to finding an answer.
This is a truly terrifying account of psychopaths and the idea that they are all around us all the time. The narrator is iffy--he mispronounces a few words--but what else is new? Audible seems to not care about those details.
You'll find yourself going through the list of people you know and comparing them to the list of symptoms in this chilling book. Fascinating.
Wolves among sheep
I don't know if there is anything to particularly like about finding out that everyone probably knows someone who has no conscience. This was very disturbing to me because within five minutes of listening to this audiobook, I realized that yes, yes I very much know someone close to me whom I love dearly that apparently by all counts, has no feelings for others and only wants what he wants.
There was no particular scene that I liked more than the others, but, I was glad to hear when the doctor did not want to jump in and label someone too quickly as when the mother called him stating that she believed her son fit the criteria and she wanted to make sure he never got out of prison.
Demons walk among us
There is a fine line we walk when dealing with these types of personalities and I am very glad to hear that this good doctor is not leaning too far to one side or the other but rather opening our eyes to see what we potentially may be dealing with so that proper steps can be taken to keep everyone safe from this.
The insight into the phychos' phyche. They are normal people, they just do not have the conscious that the rest of us do. It makes them freer and dangerous. The author points out at how not so rare such people are, and give tips on how to spot them.
I find Hare's work fascinating, and his psychopath test is an important contribution to many fields. While much of the book is interesting, it becomes obvious as the narrative goes on that 1) Hare thinks of psychopaths and being essentially a different species,which is a bit disturbing, and 2) he is not very open-minded once he has decided an individual meets the psychopathic definition- whether or not he has actually diagnosed the person. Interesting, but Hare comes across as seeing psychopaths around every corner.
Love the book as a window. Shocked by the number of definitions for the word "turn". Widowed and sad, but thankful. Trying hard to be useful. Have 28 years as a step-father to a fantastic grand-daughter and a not so fantastic drug addicted, step-daughter. Oddly focused on the fun of preparing to die well, and help those left behind, while eating, hot springing, and reading for pleasure.
I highly value this book for personal reasons. I have been suffering from a psychopath for years and never understood what was happening. Now the blindness has been penetrated and relief found in the increased clarity.One of the most important discoveries in the book is that psychoses are disorders of the mind and are treatable, while psychopathy is a disorder of the personality and not yet treatable. A clear cause was not put forth, nor was a set definition. Rather, psychopathy is said to be a matter of degree, with its primary characteristic being apathy towards others.The author made the claim that most psychopaths are not convicted criminals. They are members of society that find niches to pursue their own ends at the expense of others. He says 2% of the population measures high on the psychopathic scale, while they cause 20% of society's problems. Even with known mass murderers, only 47% measured high on the scale.I think this book is a must read for anyone who deals with people, especially if you are trusting by nature.
The topic of Psychopathy has been well documented and written-up in a plethora of recent books. Robert Hare basically repeats much of this knowledge, but also adds some more recent research towards the end of the book. It's well written and read; easily understandable. I would appreciate more new research and new insights, but so far so good.
Yes, but to a limited audience.
Plenty of case studies.
Presentation was a little flat and I had a hard time imagining the reader really wanted to be doing this one.
Like most books based on the authors own research, it was a little over the top with self-grandizement. It was, non-the-less very interesting and gave reason to think about things from a different perspective.