Yes, I think I need to periodically re-listen to remind myself of the techniques suggested. Do you ever find yourself bullied into doing something you don't want to do and wonder how it happened? This book opened my eyes to so many things about dealing with underhanded people.
His performance was clear and even.
It made me realize that no one is all good or all bad. Even people who make you crazy or put you down will at some point do something nice.
I would highly recommend this book, especially to learn about manipulation. It is very easy to grasp and highlights how to spot manipulators quickly. It enlightened me to a situation I was in whereby I was being manipulated. I consider myself pretty sharp, but didn't realize how slippery manipulators are.
I wish the section at the end that talks about today's society was longer and maybe that should be a book 2...
Kudos on the book (which by the way, needs better cover art - forgive me) :-)
Yes. It has very good information. On the first listening I felt like a lot of the examples didn't apply to me, but I plan on listening again to see if i missed anything.
Absolutely! If you like to know the how's and the why's, and I guess moreover, what you can do strategically in dealing with certain personality types (i.e. manipulative in nature), then this book is worth a listen.
The author - what a brilliant mind!
Wonderful narrator - adds to the seriousness of dealing with covertly aggressive people.
Classics, history, historical fiction, marketing, Napoleonic stuff and of course 'Boys own Adventure'. This is my bent. Occasional self help as well.
We all work with someone who makes your life hell but you can't put your finger on it. They are right, you are wrong and yet you end up paying for it with no reward, promotion or job. They seem to do it for no reason. This book explains why, how and what to do about it. Up to reading this passive aggressive was the key title, now I have met the enemy and I will never back down again. I am armed and ready for action. Lets hope I am not one of them. That is the only weakness to this book. It could of asked if you yourself are a covert aggressive without even knowing it and if you are, what action you should take to correct your behaviour. Once you get use to Keving Foley's narration the book is fine to listen to and moves along nicely. Not too long as some of these books tend to be, and it is well backed up by references and research. Not just pop-psychology.
College English professor who loves classic literature, psychology, neurology and hates pop trash like Twilight and Fifty Shades of Grey.
and expecting a different result...for example, buying pop psychology books on how to deal with manipulative people. I officially give up on this genre. Where do I begin? The author rejects Freud's basic theory of neurosis for denizens of the post-Victorian era, but then steeps many of his basic ideas in outdated Freudian and neo-Freudian ideology, right down to dream interpretation. Then he throws a long line of grotesquely stereotypical female neurotics to the evil clutches of an endless line of grotesquely stereotypical abusive husbands, rapacious (male) bosses, bratty kids (who, by the way, are only imitating their fathers) and sadistic testoserone-driven super villians in order to make his facile, one-sided points from which we will be able to learn how overly-simplistic solutions will give these poor women (and presumably, his readers) the lives they have always deserved, all for the price of his little book with the clever cover. (He does everything but pass out white and black hats to the characters in his examples.) O, right... there is one manipulative woman in the workplace scenerio, but Simon does apologize for that one.
So what now that I have scrounged the bottom of the barrel for the last self-help book on how not to get messed over in my life?
Maybe FRAZIER fans will remember the advice "Dr. Nora" gave to a caller who asked her what he could do about a manipulative co-worker. "Not a damn thing," she purled with a sinister smile. "Not one damn thing." Perhaps she was right.
I really wanted to get through this book. I recently had some encounters with people I would call narcissists. So I got this book to help me identify and ultimately avoid these people in the future. I should have listened to the audio sample. The narration is right out of a 1950s era documentary. The voice is so awful that I almost wrecked my truck driving home from work. The tone is bland across the spectrum. It's like be lectured by a white dude from the Reefer Madness film - google it and you'll see what I mean. I can't even really evaluate the content of the audiobook because the narration was so awful. I guess you could listen to this in order to fall asleep because after a few minutes your brain just naturally begins to shut down. Awful.
Having recently emerged. from under a wolf's warm wool coat I found "In Sheep's Clothing" to be an invaluable reference. Not only did it help me understand how a person that seemingly loved me could betray me so easily, it has helped me protect myself from his maneuvers to get me back. Now I understand that his promises of love, honor, and resoect are only guarantees of future betrayals.
I bought it to inquire into dynamics I have been observing around me. It was useful in giving me a different perspective and some good tools to approach it. Can be repetitive.