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This book made me laugh out loud and on more than one occasion. When she was comparing between her natural photo vs. the photoshop version and asks to compare those two in the PDF, I was in for a hysterical laugh. Not to mention passing sentences like:
- "Do I think Photoshop is being used excessively? Yes. I saw Madonna's Louis Vutton ad and honestly, at first glance, I thought it was Gwen Stefani's baby."
- "I guess I should also state that Karen and Sharon never hit on me in the slightest and it was never weird between any of us. Gay people don't actually try to convert people. That's Jehovah's Witnesses you're thinking of. ... If you could turn gay from being around gay people, wouldn't Kathy Griffin be Rosie O'Donnell by now?"
She delivers her one-liners, punch-lines, wisecracks...whatever you want to call them in a matter-of-fact-in-your-face boom-ba-da-bam style and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but the fact that she has the courage to try is always admirable. In this book, Tina Fey reminded me of Nora Ephron. Both of them represent an idea of New York that ravishing as it may be, is also very horrid and no place for the fragile. But both of them seem to master the art of taking things seriously enough but not so serious to not joke about. They manage to master the skill of self-deprecation without losing their sense of value.
This book draws near to self-help/self-acceptance books in the sense that it may aim to help women improve themselves professionally and physically (and offer tips on how to take care of oneself). It has mixed messages, however, because while Tina Fey may want to show that it shouldn't matter what others think,“If you retain nothing else, always remember the most important rule of beauty, which is: who cares?” and "Don’t waste your energy trying to educate or change opinions; go over, under, through, and opinions will change organically when you’re the boss. Or they won’t. Who cares? Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.” While she says those things, Tina Fey herself seems to waste energy in answering to what so-and-so were caught saying about her in here-or-there as if she is still looking for acceptance. Some of the ways in which she answers "haters" is by boasting her success and reminding others that they are no better in a: "HOW dare YOU mock me. Who are YOU to put me down for I am better than YOU will ever be!" kind of way. The definition of “better” is what frustrated me, because once again, this is a book that declares what the American standards of success are: having to be driven, ambitious, competitive, go-get-‘em-tiger. "Don’t be fooled," Tina warns young women, "You’re not in competition with other women. You’re in competition with everyone.”
Despite the insecurities feigning as over-confident apologies, the kick-ass attitude that Tina Fey has is still admirable for a woman who has discerned the overload of bullsh*t in the business. I liked how she says that she’s always been able to tell a lot about people by whether they asked her about her scar. “Most people never ask, but if it comes up naturally somehow and I offer up the story, they are quite interested. Some people are just dumb: "Did a cat scratch you?" God bless. Those sweet dumdums I never mind. Sometimes it is a fun sociology litmus test, like when my friend Ricky asked me, "Did they ever catch the black guy that did that to you?" Hmmm. It was not a black guy, Ricky, and I never said it was. Then there's another sort of person who thinks it makes them seem brave or sensitive or wonderfully direct to ask me about it right away. They ask with quiet, feigned empathy, "How did you get your scar?" The grossest move is when they say they're only curious because "it's so beautiful." Ugh. Disgusting. They might as well walk up and say, "May I be amazing at you?" To these folks let me be clear. I'm not interested in acting out a TV movie with you where you befriend a girl with a scar. An Oscar-y Spielberg movie where I play a mean German with a scar? Yes. My whole life, people who ask about my scar within one week of knowing me have invariably turned out to be egomaniacs of average intelligence or less. And egomaniacs of average intelligence or less often end up in the field of TV journalism. So, you see, if I tell the whole story here, then I will be asked about it over and over by the hosts of Access Movietown and Entertainment Forever for the rest of my short-lived career.”
It has been fun to get to hear her first-account experiences at 30 Rock and SNL and get a glimpse of the individuals she admires, such as her dad, Amy Poehler, Alec Baldwin and Lorne Michaels. It is clear that Fey has experienced exhaustion, which is evident not only because she declares it, but also because we can actually visualize how tiring her life-style must be: Running between the office, staying up in the wee hours of the morning working on scripts, having to deal with colleagues and make the right decisions, TV ratings, expectations, body image, and all the family-related matters that make her feel like she's the "worst". She admits that she doesn't drive and has narcoleptic tendencies that are a result of her exhaustion, and as a mother she has the added anxieties and feelings of guilt due to her working late hours and not breastfeeding, among other things. In short, she represents the anxious state of mind that only a successful woman with a conscious would have. Her answer to this seems to be that if you are already that hard on yourself, other people’s opinions should not make your life even harder. “By the way, when Oprah Winfrey is suggesting you may have overextended yourself, you need to examine your f*cking life.”
Tina Fey is a performer. She knows the power of her own voice and makes the perfect intonations to grab attention and get heard. She picks her words with care and is a comedian-with-a-conscious. She's not out there to hurt anyone with her humorous skill, but uses humor to express the hurtful messages a woman in show business like herself would have to endure. There is no question that she has vivid imagination, and that she is not shy to express herself.
Tell us about yourself! I am a French woman and live in Paris. I love to read - I read almost EVERYTHING! I like also to speak English
It’s always hard and awkward to rate a book which EVEROYNE likes except YOU! To make it less painful I’ll go straight to the point. I bought this book because for me there’s always something to learn from other people’s life experience. And while I am not a huge fan of Tina Fey, I enjoyed her as Sarah Palin on SNL and occasionally watch 30 Rock. So after reading reviews about Bossypants, and being without anything to read at that moment, I decided to jump in and go for it! Well I can tell you it’s has been a waste of time.
I really wanted to love this book; I like Tina Fey (and still do) but this was a lot of nothing about nothing. Her life is rather unremarkable and I found myself wondering why she decided to write about it. Well, although I did not like it I managed to read it all the way through! Not awful just not really good either.
I would say the book is cute and “maybe” entertaining. Definitely not a must read. Nevertheless I applaud her for her attitude and honesty.
I bought this because the reviews were good, but unfortunately the book wasn't. I guess it is a for Tina Fey fans. I found her very arrogant.
I couldn't stand to hear it, or finish it! It is the worst book ever. It is a waste of a credit! I wish I could get my credit back. That is how bad this book is.
The beginning of the this book captured my interest immediately. It was great fun to be laughing as I was driving . Unfortunately my interest fell off about half way through the book. It got boring and wasn't funny anymore. I hung in to the end but would not recommend this book to a friend.
I thought this would be an interesting audio, and the longer I listened, the more I realized that Tina Fey is a radical liberal. Sorry Tina, but your off color remarks are not funny, and I hope one day you'll realize that a woman is much more dignified than the picture you paint. I'm sorry I purchased this audio and wish I could get my money back!!
I am puzzled by the fact that most readers have given this book 5 stars. I have listened to perhaps 20 audiobooks in the past couple years, and this is the first one that I really am struggling to finish. I expected the book to be hilarious, and, having gone through now 4/5 of the book, I have only laughed a few times. I agree with the reviewer who noted that much of the humor is woman-centric, so perhaps it would be a much more engaging read for a woman. It feels like a lazy book to me, like Tina Fey just whipped it out, without putting out the effort to say more interesting and witty things.
I bought this solely because of the great reviews but I have to wonder what those people were thinking! This is simply random thoughts and a few audio clips from her Sarah Palin SNL appearances. Boring!
I love Tina Fey and this book starts out promising. But she lost me (and probably most other men) when she goes into 'female advice mode' towards the second half.
I was hoping for a good laugh. I chuckled a few times, but it wasn't hilarious. But my biggest problem was when Tina would mumble something at the end of a sentence or thought. I found myself rewinding, often several times in the same spot so I could figure out what she was saying. All that rewinding was frustrating.