This book exceeded my expectations. I really appreciated the layout of the content: technique, story, application ideas and the chapters towards the end where he featured examples of blended techniques. And though this book was suggested as a tool in my life coaching classes, these techniques can be applied to any aspect of life. I am already referencing techniques before I tackle potentially tough or sensitive conversations. I'm glad I read this book. Now here's hoping I can contribute being a better listener to all of humanity.
It gave more than a "just breathe" scenerio during amygdala hijacking. "Just Listen" gave me tools I've needed all of my life, but never knew existed.
Walter Dixon has a very calming "structured" voice. His tone alone helps me take a couple of steps towards calm immediately.
"Just Listen" taught me there's a way out of stressful situations. I feel my amygdala is hijacked often. There's tools in the book that are actually helpful. You may be a screamer, a crier, or become silent all together. This book is helpful in gaining structure around those actions.
I've been searching a long time for a "self-help" book that was more than "count to ten" or "don't stand for that!" I've been longing for something to click, something I can do other than run away from what I fear. This book is the click I was looking for. I thought I was very knowledgeable. I was very grateful to find out more could be learned from Goulston. He takes the less out of hopeless!
Absolutely and I plan to! Dr. Goulston's techniques work! I skeptically used them during some "interesting" moments and inevitably as he predicted the person would stop, ponder a moment, and then change to a better mental direction where we were actually engaged in a true dialogue and you could tell they felt like I was really listening. The amazing thing was that I really was!
All the scenarios of his techniques were extremely applicable to real life. There are too many to list.
Where the CEO of a company couldn't and didn't realize he was not listening to anyone in his company or his family and he had an unexpected breakthrough with his son that was so emotionally beneficial to both sides you could feel it when Dr. Goulston told his story.
I was moved many times while listening to this audiobook.
This book was extremely inspiring to me and worked. I, however, told several family members about it and some accepted it and some said it wasn't their style. I think someone has to be ready for change when they listen to it.
Used car, stereo or cell phone sales people may like it.
Not be so self congratulatory and tedious.
Walter Dixon was the only redeeming feature of this audio book. I plan to look his other works up.
Disappointment. The "for example" dialogue sections were not even close to realistic or useful to me.
This is the first audio book that I plan to return. :(
Wow this stuff works ! Great for those everyday conversation and even the "Hard" one that frame our relationships with ourselves and others.
OH Crap,! OH well! OK How!
Good for all of us to tone our language skills. Learn some "new" answers to objections , bottlenecks, and lack of progress on our relationships.
Listen to this book, get a mirror and practice being the good person you want to be...
Nerdy analyst, Tory Episcopalian and former Marine
Goulston's good points are buried in between a seemingly endless supply of self promotional anecdotes. I found it tedious to the point I had to stop listening and return the book.
The personal development genre tends to be the most difficult to find really well written and edited books.
Already have. It helped me through a manipulation situation. I used a few of the approaches when i got the "I am so busy- can you take this project for me" and "I dont understand why you are not producing" statements. I had the perfect responses because I was taught by a master.thanks you Mark!
Extreme Dreams Need Extreme Teams. These books both show you how to impliment simple changes in your actions that make a world of freedom and exceleration to improve your life and work situations.
Yes I have, in Dinesh D'Souza's book America (excellent book by the way). He has a smooth easy voice with the inflections for puctuaction and emphasis that keeps you listening.
I learned the "HUM". a great way to showing interest but not committing. "tell me more" that draws people out in a conversation and "I'll bet you think no one understands" to show empathy for a person. Also the empathy jolt. I listened to one chapter on the way to work and each day I used what i learned as the opportunities came up. These methods really work. I will be re-listening to this again and again. I bought the hardcopy to to make notes.
The very practical ways that were explained on how I can listen in different scenarios. I am in sales and so it is very important to listen and do it effectively so that I can get the results that I need to my job well and take care of my customers. I'm lookng forward to practically making this change.
Since it is such a long book I'm not sure it would be possible to listen in one sitting. It was riveting enough to keep my attention and get me to eagerly get back to the book each time I had to walk away.
Well worth reading!
I am a 52 year old women who changed careers 7 years ago leaving a 16 year journeyman position as a Glazier doing construction and going to work for a funeral home. I was very proud of my accomplishment as the only female glazier in Washington state. I was a very good leader and often had a crew of four to five guys working under my direction at a time.Then life took a drastic change and I lost my father. I was left to care for my ailing mother who was bed ridden and going to die very soon. My parents had never found the right time to talk with me about their wishes. I was so traumatized that left my career as a glazier and went to work for the funeral home that helped me through the process of my parents dying. I became a Family Service Counselor. My job is to help families pre-plan and protect their loved ones or help a family through the worst time in their lives. Here is where your book comes into play. I now find myself in a professional position and am expected to dress and act like a lady. Coming from wearing Carharts and hard hats it as been an awkward change. However I have managed to moved up through the department and I have recently been promoted to the director of the family services. I am responsible for two cemeteries and five funeral homes. I am good leader that is not the question but managing people in a professional environment was a whole new ball game. Listening to your book has helped me in such a dramatic way. I am being noticed and admired by the other managers. They all want to know how I knew what to say or how I knew how to handle different situations that have come up. The CEO says I'm brilliant! Especially for gal that has never went to college. So I wanted you to know you have changed my life in a powerful way and to you sir I say "Thank You" Mr. Goulston Susan