I have read this book several times and now have it on Audible. When I have a crush on someone I listen to this book as a reminder. There are less "secure" fish in the dating pool at my age. The "anxious" are manageable with effective communication. The "avoidants" are happier staying in the pool. You'll want to read (or listen to) the book to fully understand these generic statements. Enjoy!!
This book started to bore me at first, it couldn't keep my attention. I wanted answers about my relationship. But, once I stuck with it. This book not only helped me understand ROMANTIC relationships. But relationships IN GENERAL, and how effective communication can help clear up big misunderstandings. I may have to listen again to stay refreshed on the lessons, but now I know it's worth it. Most people really should read this book. MOST PEOPLE, not all.
The case examples made the science come alive. We listened as a couple and sparked good conversations. We recommend this book for anyone who has or will have an intimate partner!
I was already familiar with adult attachment theory. I have an anxious attachment style. This book described the attachment styles well but didn't (in my opinion) really provide a clear path to ameliorating said attachment style. To fix the problem, try Steven Stosny's Soar Above.
I recently ended a 10 year relationship which has been painful. I also started a new relationship which quickly ended and left me confused. This book ended the confusion and the pain and the hurt. It brought me a profound understanding of my past relationships while at the same time giving me hope as well as tools to move on and find someone more compatible and caring of my attachment/relationship needs. I was afraid of rebounding back to my ex because the breakup has been so hard for me but after listening to this book that ache to return has now left. Maybe it won't mean the same for everyone but listening to the book was like a huge epiphany. Also the narrator, Walter Dixon, was very good and easy to listen to. His voice had warmth and gentleness to it which is what I needed as I listened to some hard truths. I am actually thinking of buying a few copies of this book and audiobook and gifting them to my friends. I think everyone could benefit from reading this. Everyone.
Was really nice being able to listen to the audio version during my commute. There were exercises in the book, however, that would have been more helpful to complete with the print version. The audio version did have a great narrator, and am glad I purchased it.
This book is full of practical advice on how to enhance relationships. It's for those who are single as well as those already in a relationship. Consider this a must-read if you want to have healthy, secured relationships.
I recommend this book to my client's who are single and looking for a healthy relationship
The most insightful relationship book I have ever read. It cuts through all the "crap" out there written about love and attachment, and gives real clarity to behaviors and relationships based on science.