I suppose for those that have never heard of attachment theory and are having trouble understand relationship mechanics this could be a useful book. But I felt like I didn't learn anything past the first chapter. I kept waiting for new information to be presented.
This book has some very insightful information that has really helped me understand myself, and also my relationships with people. Easy to understand and it is most definitely worth the listen.
This book and its contents makes so much sence. After reading it im definately going to look on relationships ang girls I date in a whole other way. Very intuitive and well written. I can greatly recommend this book.
Prospective buyers should know this book comes from a worldview that regards marriage and family life as morally indifferent matters of personal choice. Most of the couples profiled by the book are unmarried live-ins or sexual partners. One couple is homosexual. Some people will find that unproblematic, but attachment theories may sometimes be associated with people like William Sears and other Christian or pro-family figures. I thought it might be helpful to point out where the book is really coming from.
Personally, I did find some of the relationship advice to be fairly good, though not nearly so original as the authors imply. Much of this material is covered in marraige and communication books. It can be helpful to know if you are dealing with an avoidant or anxious person, so you can respond to them as individuals. Those who are really interested in the material in the book will probably find that reading the book is a better choice. That way, one can skim the chapters that don't seem so relevant, and carefully look at the material they can best use.
Those still dating would be well advised to understand the attachment style of their partners and to make decisions with eyes wide open. Still, if you are young and forming your moral compass, be aware of just how powerful authoritative books like this really are. It is inconsistent to talk about "deep, personal bonds", and then to promote live-in arrangements and unbonded sexual relationships on the next page. It is in the permanence of a solid marriage that people have their best opportunities for lasting happiness.
This is a fairly well-written fluffy self-help book. If that's all you're looking for, then by all means, give it a listen.
If, however, you're interested in the actual "science of attachment" and any of the research conducted thereon, this is not the book for you. While it makes reference to some research, there is no attempt made to show that their claims are falsifiable, there are no alternate explanations made, and the entire book is filled with inaccurate sweeping statements. As a student of psychology looking for some interesting extracurricular reading, I was deeply disappointed. The only thing I can truly say I learned from this book is that you can make a lot of money by overgeneralizing a few experiments. If there is any heavy-duty evidence to back up any of their relationship cures, it certainly wasn't included in this book.
Even as self-help, it leaves a lot to be desired. Having someone tell you to "communicate more effectively" is about as helpful as a golf instructor telling you to "swing your club better," and the extent of their dating advice it that everyone should find one of those saintly, all-knowing, all-embracing miracles, the securely attached adult, who automatically does everything right in every relationship. I suppose they're great, if you can find one.
The reader was fine, but there were several jarringly mispronounced words scattered throughout the book.
People new to love, sex, psychology, physiology, or those who are socially awkward
Given less studied information
Nothing, the delivery was ok for research material
It was organized well