The book is based on the idea of three types of attachment styles in relationships, secure, avoidant and anxious. A few case studies are described which helps clarify. I would still like to know in those stories what happened next?
For example, in one relationship between an insulting man and an apologetic woman, after they split up she met someone new and lived happily ever after. I would like to know about that happily ever after.
Suggestion also was that 2 avoidant type personalities could be ok together, though less fulfilled. I wonder if a couple find themselves going in separate directions, wouldn't one of them sooner or later meet someone who has a greater alignment of interests?
good, with a few caveats.
Yes I listened. Yes it will help me respect and Love myself and be true to who I am from now on! I am no longer afraid to lose the person I call my soulmate now. I realize that maybe they(a moderate AVOIDANCE) are incapable of meeting MY -NO LONGER ashamed of- needs. I can have what I desire and if I don't find my true love someday, at least I won't waist time in a Dead-IN relationship.
I have been fighting my True self all my life. I always said, "I don't need anyone. I can do Everything on my own. As if there was something wrong with my natural tendency to have companionship. Now I will celebrate who I am and know that there isn't anything wrong with me. I am a changed woman. I know it will take practice and a possible re-listen but, I am so thankful for this book. Now if only I can get my "other half" to listen.
This book has made such an impact on my life, I am buying 2 more copies. One for a girlfriend and the other for my mate. Thank you!
I am completely deep in though about every relationship in my life. Having breakthroughs and aha's left and right. Worth it! So worth it, if you want to be in an intimate relationship get this book, it is a big to the puzzle.
Book was a little slow to move at first but picked up and was filled with useful information about attachment styles, how to identify yours and your partners, as well as to dos and don't stop make a relationship successful. I made notes and will read many more times!
Now I have the ability to examine past and evaluate future relationships. Read This Book!
This book completely changed the way I view my role in relationships and the partners I have chosen. I have been to therapy for many years and have read countless books trying to understand and "heal" my anxiety in relationships. All along thinking that something is wrong with me because I keep choosing men who can't connect. This book changes all of that. I now know that I have an anxious attachment style and have been choosing avoidant men. The information presented helped to define my style, understand the associated behaviors and why anxious/avoidant styles rarely work. I feel that I can now take responsibility for choosing men from a healthy perspective. So happy to find this book!!!