I thoroughly enjoyed this book and plan on listening to it several times over. It is well written and well read with real life stories to help the reader apply the theory to their life. I especially liked the chapter on how to identify your own attachment type and that of your partner. As a predominantly Anxious attachment type, who is currently dating an Avoidant type, it was reassuring to learn that I am not crazy and while I may need to learn more effective ways of communicating, what I want in a relationship is not unreasonable and is attainable. This book has given me hope of finding the kind of open supportive secure relationship I want and a practical means to finding it.
Observations in the book are valid. Good and accessible explanation of the theory. relatable stories. I challenge the theory itself and feel it is an oversimplification that does not account for the reasons people have plasticity in attachment. The book does not discuss intrinsic motivation to move from one style to another. Most of the focus is on anxious attachment and if your insecurities are of this type, read this book. If they're of the avoidant type, you'll find some material lacking. secure attachment is observed as the most functional (as expected) and an interesting challenge on co-dependence is made in Chapter 2. I enjoyed the reading but challenge the conclusions.
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Truth, analytics and thoughtfulness of the authors
His performance was satisfactory
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Know Thy Self.. OK, that's not three words, but you get the point. This book basically categorizes different attachment styles, helps you identify which one you are, and gives you guidelines for dating and relating. Most adults already have a clue that they have issues, but can't figure out what they are or why they have them. This book is a very good start.
Not Really, but the information is invaluable.
Society tends to make those of us who haven't settled down with that someone special by a certain age believe there's something wrong with us. While we know that can't be true (judging from the divorce stats people clearly aren't choosing the right one).This book actually helps you identify your love style and gives you tips on how to make it work so that you find that special someone. No it won't tell you how to deal with your baggage, slew of exes and baby mamas/papas, but it just might help you figure out why the one you were into wasn't that into you and give you some REAL Rules for dating instead of racking your brain trying to play hard to get, be unavailable, and thinking like a man.
This unlocked a huge key for me as to why my relationships have been so difficult. I'm so excited to use the information I learned going forward.
i enjoyed the book. it was simple to understand and offers great examples to illustrate the concepts. most books don't give examples, they just expect you to get it right away on your own. the examples made it easier to understand.