This book completely changed the way I view my role in relationships and the partners I have chosen. I have been to therapy for many years and have read countless books trying to understand and "heal" my anxiety in relationships. All along thinking that something is wrong with me because I keep choosing men who can't connect. This book changes all of that. I now know that I have an anxious attachment style and have been choosing avoidant men. The information presented helped to define my style, understand the associated behaviors and why anxious/avoidant styles rarely work. I feel that I can now take responsibility for choosing men from a healthy perspective. So happy to find this book!!!
Excellent book for ANYONE (at any age) interested in relationships and eager to learn how attachment styles influence our behaviours with partners. Filled with no nonsense practical exercises and encouraging tips for different styles and related traps to avoid or work through.
I absolutely love this book and helped me figure out my attachment style and my partner's attachment style. I'm excited to use this information and apply it to my relationship. I think it will definitely help when we start going to counseling together. I highly recommend it for all serious and committed relationships that want to make it work.
Really great content. The only issue is a few sections that require pen and paper that don't translate well to audiobook.
This book has literally saved me from insanity! The research and science behind attachment theory has opened my eyes to WHY I have not been successful in finding a satisfying, secure lifetime romantic relationship in all my years of trying and here I am in my mid 50's! Virtually all my relationships have been "Anxious-Avoidant" and I now understand that it's not my fault. Even though I have yet to solve my relationship issues, this book has relieved a great deal of anxiety for myself and the hope for a better relationship future. Knowledge is power and now, armed with the understanding of attachment styles and the tools to overcome the obstacles and fear that have puzzled me for years regarding my romantic relationships, I can go forward and take better care of my own emotional well-being in seeking an appropriate life partner I highly recommend this book to EVERYONE regardless of their relationship status or attachment styles. It can answer many if not all of the questions you may be asking yourself, which for me was WHY?
This is a phenomenal book and I highly recommend it!
It provides tactics for effective and secure conversations in relationships. Overall, the book will teach you a lot about your personality. It is very enlightening.
Such a great book for couples who are struggling and don't understand why. Even better for those who are dating and want to know who is compatible with them. Knowing the science behind this has helped build empathy in my marriage.