The story of Marsha was incredible, it almost made me cry, having to put up with so much abuse from her boyfriend for years only to realize that he would not change nor her need for reassurance from her partner: an avoidant man that craved to do as he pleased, not taking her into account and treating her like the enemy.
To Communicate effectivle is a flawless tactic recommended on the book that i look forward to practice more often on every relationship.
To understand about attachment styles is key to identify what is best for a healthy relationship and peace of mind, specially if your attachment style is insecure.Although this book is based upon scientific research it is pretty understandable.
Great application of childhood phycological principles applied to adult relationships. Really Resonated.
I loved this book. It tells you how it is, does not try to teach you how to play a game or become someone else for the sake of love. A very different book on understanding the undercurrents of a relationship. Anybody I recommended this book to, thanked me afterwards , and in turn recommended to other friends. thumbs up!
Provides a useful insight into how we and others perceive and experience relationships.
Practical examples to idnetify key patterns of thinking and relating
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Really great listen! It gave me a lot to think about. It also helped me be able to understand other people in my life. From family and friends to lovers.
This book gave me so much understanding about human communication I am so amazed at how helpful it was.
No this is my first one.
All of it - I just keep listening to it every week or so.
Thank you! Is there any follow up books on the same topic?
I have found the concepts described in this book to be very practical and immediately useful. It includes checklists that make the ideas very concrete and directly applicable to individual situations. Essentially, it picks up where books like "He's Just Not That Into You" leave off. It gives the why.
You won't regret listening to this if you are even a little bit interested in this topic.
Both practical and backed up by studies.
Highlight of the book are the immediately useful checklists.
The narrator is very good. The only minor quibble I have is that the book is slightly repetitious.
Yes, I would recommend. It's a fairly simple and easy yet interesting way to look at relationship and adjust your expectation of other people as well as yourself.
This book is a helpful tool for anyone in an intimate relationship. The analysis of the different attachment styles gives a new perspective on common relationship conflicts. It makes a point of helping the listener get into the mindset of the different attachment styles so they might be better able to identify and react to attachment styles of romantic partners. It also offers useful advice for dealing with insecure attachment styles.
The book seemed to be very sympathetic to the anxious attachment style. It frames behavior that is typically looked down upon in a more reasonable manner and allows the listener to empathize. The whole time you feel sorry for anxious types but this does have the effect of vilifying avoidant types.
Clear easy to listen to narration.
The book is educational and interesting but not particularly emotional. There are some anecdotes where you might feel sorry for one of the people and there is a lot of negative attention paid to avoidants but it is not meant to be a roller coaster.
If I didn't know any better I'd think this book was written by anxious types for anxious types. It treats avoidant types as misanthropic predators who prey on the vulnerable anxious types. It makes a very strong point in the beginning claiming it is not judging the attachment styles as good or bad but it is very clearly painting the avoidant type as something to be avoided at all costs.
This book really opened my eyes about attachment
Very helpful in relationships
Understanding the different attachment types