This unlocked a huge key for me as to why my relationships have been so difficult. I'm so excited to use the information I learned going forward.
i enjoyed the book. it was simple to understand and offers great examples to illustrate the concepts. most books don't give examples, they just expect you to get it right away on your own. the examples made it easier to understand.
I love this book because it gives so many examples. I'm always questioning myself in relationships but now I see from this wonderfully written and detailed book that I have had good reason to. I'm finding myself in the same Avoidant relationships over and over. I am an Anxious. This book and its practices will help me greatly!
if you are having problems in your relationship and you need a way to fix it, this is the book for you.
it really lays out a detail plan for you to have a great relationship and to figure who you should be with
I have suffered from anxiety since my teens and after a decade of suffering in an emotionally abusive relationship, I am trying to put back together the pieces of my life and learn how to function in a healthy relationship.
I listened to this audio book about 12 months ago as I was going through the start of my healing process.
I have now listened to this book 4 times and completed all the exercises once.
As I am embarking on a new relationship it was helpful in my assessing the new person and their compatibility with me, a secure person!
In addition as we have hit bumps in the road where my anxiety has just skyrocketed, instead of my previous reactions, I revert back to the book, take a different approach and so far I am astonished at the results.
Doing things differently has allowed me more closeness in this new relationship and whilst my anxiety is still very present and something I am working on individually, I have been able to get to know this new person without self sabotage.
The narration is easy to listen to and it's not overly long- easy to get through in 2 quiet afternoons.
I will continue to reference this book & dip into it as needed. Highly recommend for those who are single and in relationships.
In my opinion eventhough very interesting and insightful the model does not fit perfectly to real life situations. Even the situations described, which, I am sure, were carefully selected and scripted to fit the model do not do so perfectly and explanations behind the behaviours can be interpreted in a different way than the one in this book.
But it Is indeed an interesting and entertaining book and I am happy that I have listened to it.
I'm a clinician and a Ph.D. And I found this book really useful for us and for our patients. It really explains why and how things become hard and hurtful in a relationship. It gives you simple but not simplistic suggestion. It's really illuminating, especially when it explains how to communicate more efficiently in order to change the course of your relationship, for the better. Please, download this audiobook and listen to it! Congrats to the authors and thanks!!!