We could argue what's best for our kids, but few of us have the discipline to really do what we think is the best as she does. She is not the type who only pushes her kids but doesn't try to excel at her own job. She is a well-respected Yale professor and loved by her students. In addition, whenever her other family members (mother-in-law, sister) needed her, she is really there for them too. I respect Amy Chua for that.
Comic relief parenting
This book is HILARIOUS! Are people not seeing it? Honestly, the humor of how her kids rebel and her desire to train a dumb dog to have a purpose are awesome! I know so many Chinese people like this and you will laugh so hard if you can just picture the reality of it all. Plus I like to learn what lessons she used to teach her kids. If you don't laugh during this book you are missing the humor in Chinese life.
Great reader. Nails the punch line every time. "Happy b-day Mommy with love" said Loulou... "I don't want your card, I want a better one. I have a special box where I keep good cards and this one can't go in there!"
Laugh. You will laugh!
Totally worth your time. I learned one or two things, nothing super insightful. The reason you want this book is to laugh at two little girls fighting with their mom.
You listen to this woman and your mind boggles. Fascinating. Kept me interested. I'd love a sequel about her poor messed-up kids.
Sure glad she wasn't my mother! It helped me understand the chinese mother but at time I felt suffocated by her.
Amy is this really you?
When listening I could relate to what the author was sharing
Yes, although it loses strength at the end
I really liked knowing a bit about chinese culture.
Definitely a must read for young parents--how NOT to parent! I appreciate Amy's honesty, but her harsh parenting is sometimes difficult to fathom. Amy reads a five or six page list of violin instructions she wrote down for her daughter--that she is to complete during EACH daily practice. I had to ponder how Amy could possibly do all she wrote in her book that she did and still worked full-time in a very demanding career. Her performance in narrating was excellent.
A few of my books, I have listened to multiple times, BHotTM is one of them, and I still laugh! one of my top ten!
Probably when she and her husband are arging over how to support the hopes and dreams of their girls, and Cocoa.
I make all my pregnant or young parent friends read this book. then I quiz them on it.
One of my friends recommended this and I was really skeptical, but I enjoyed it way more than I thought I would. It gave me a different perspective on parenting that, while not my style, certainly made me more empathetic to "Chinese mothers" that I know (that are of many different ethnicities). It is definitely worth a listen if you are a parent, or just want to expose yourself to a different point of view.
From what I understand from some other people, especially those in the psychology field, this book is controversial because Amy Chua is seen as abusive, but really...come on. What Amy Chua is, is a smart ambitious woman who happens to be raising very smart and ambitious children. This woman isn't abusing her kids. She is simply being ambitious for them. I commend her for writing an honest and funny memoir about her particular parenting style. It was a good story, and was well worth listening to.
Is Amy Chua neurotic? Yes, yes she is. Is she wrong about how she parents her children? No, not at all. Her parenting style could be considered authoritarian, and popular psychology would have parents believe that authoritarian parenting styles do not necessarily have the best outcomes, but that point is debatable.
This book provides interesting insight, and I personally appreciate this woman letting us all glimpse the perspectives of an Asian-American woman.
With all of the publicity that this book has received, I was somewhat interested in hearing it. I really expected this woman to be a militant, closed-minded person with no interest at all in the American way. It turns out to be an amazing story in which we are made to understand why she did the things she did and how this mom grew over the years. I was surprised when I found myself laughing out loud listening to some of the power struggles that started from the very early years of her daughters' lives. One thing is for sure, there really aren't many American moms with the level of commitment and endurance that this mother has. I'm hopeful that the daughters will write their own books from their perspectives later in their lives.