Having read this well after all the controversy and hype about the book had passed, I was surprised at how much I instantly loved this book. Couldn't stop listening to it or thinking about it. Even if you disagree with some or many things she says or does, it is a great, personal and important story that many of us can reflect on and draw our own thoughts and feelings about parenting and multi-cultural understanding. Narration was also great.
Someone who wants to emulate the stereotypical Asian mother.
I wasn't find of the performance, but I think it was the content that just turned me off.
Horribly pretentious book. Don't bother.
This sits in the middle of my list but I really identify with the "eastern" way of raising a child since that is how I was raised.
If you had a traditional "eastern" parent then you will really identify with this book. If you have had close friends as a child who where Asian then you will see a lot of familiar things with their parents.
The author is a terrible narrator.
This book offered some valuable perspectives on a "non-Western" method of parenting. All parents could gain something from this perspective.
More about her spouse.
Parts of Chua's story and narration are bordering on offensive to Jewish traditions. Because she is a perfectionist, Chua's failure to learn how to pronounce easy words, like "haftarah," is a sign on how little she respects the Jewish tradition. Her delivery is so wooden, there are times when I couldn't even determine if she was being humorous. She unknowingly betrays a fault in the "Chinese" method of child-rearing in her inability to adjust for nuance in language. The worst part of this book is Chua's complete disregard for people outside an upper-middle class community. Her idea of struggling is when the whole family had to sleep in one hotel bed on their overseas trips. She admittedly doesn't enjoy introspection, but she also seems to avoid analyzing the community around her.
Love mysteries with a lot of twist and turns. Page turners. Love books that invite me in to stay awhile and make me sad when it ends. It can be the voice that brings the story to life or the story that breaths life into the voice. I am happy either way!!
Not really - Felt too sorry for the family.
Bringing Up BeBe. Child rearing from a different and better perspective.
Tiger Mother Gone Wrong
I read more books than Hermione.
I'm not going to give this book a lower rating just because I didn't like the main character. If you've read the summary, you should pretty much know that going in. And I've read well-done books about Hitler which I would rate highly. I honestly thought Amy Chua would help me understand exactly why she chose her method of parenting, but as a child of the "Western parenting style" I was as offended at the end of it as i was at the beginning, as throughout the book she constantly compared Western and Chinese styles.She did a great job with the narration and story telling. In this book the author takes the reader, step-by-step of different methods of Chinese parenting throughout her childrens' lives. A one sentence summary of this book would be "Chinese mother makes one daughter play violin and the other play piano for obscene amounts a day, every single day." I made it through the whole book, and I will say I enjoyed it. In a morbid curiousity type of way. What I really wanted to know was WHY the piano/violin were so important to Amy and WHY getting good grades and respecting authority figures, regardless of whether or not they are right or wrong or how they are treating your children is so important. I want to know why Amy found that it was more important for her children to be number one in school and in their respective instruments, than to like her (their mother), to be happy children, to be well-adjusted, to have friends, or to be socially normal (she doesn't say it, but let's be honest, there's no way these kids were). I understand that it was important for her children to be #1 in something, but I don't understand WHY. As an American, and a product of what she would refer to as Western parenting, I have to say that her obsession with "winning" and "being number one" is more of an American ideal, taken to the nth degree, than a Chinese one.
When one of her daughters was in a music lesson given my a Russian woman during which the woman "thwacked" her daughter and Amy did nothing about it. And all of the times in which Amy told the reader any of the myriad inappropriate things she would tell her daughter. "Mommy's going to die soon and you still won't have this right." "No bathroom breaks or dinner until you get this piece right." I can't even remember them all now, I will just say that I was shocked that such an intelligent person has no idea how the severity of her words can impact a developing child. She said really haunting things to them.
Bitch be cray.
Maybe. Depends on the topic. The story was good but it was a little rote. I guess that goes with the theme of the book though.
We could argue what's best for our kids, but few of us have the discipline to really do what we think is the best as she does. She is not the type who only pushes her kids but doesn't try to excel at her own job. She is a well-respected Yale professor and loved by her students. In addition, whenever her other family members (mother-in-law, sister) needed her, she is really there for them too. I respect Amy Chua for that.
Comic relief parenting
This book is HILARIOUS! Are people not seeing it? Honestly, the humor of how her kids rebel and her desire to train a dumb dog to have a purpose are awesome! I know so many Chinese people like this and you will laugh so hard if you can just picture the reality of it all. Plus I like to learn what lessons she used to teach her kids. If you don't laugh during this book you are missing the humor in Chinese life.
Great reader. Nails the punch line every time. "Happy b-day Mommy with love" said Loulou... "I don't want your card, I want a better one. I have a special box where I keep good cards and this one can't go in there!"
Laugh. You will laugh!
Totally worth your time. I learned one or two things, nothing super insightful. The reason you want this book is to laugh at two little girls fighting with their mom.
You listen to this woman and your mind boggles. Fascinating. Kept me interested. I'd love a sequel about her poor messed-up kids.