We all want the best for our kids. Work ethic is something we can all teach our children. This book opened my eyes to aspects of my parenting that I can improve on. I want my children to succeed in this global world. Success is working hard at something you truly love. Thank you Amy! Your girls can never accuse you of not spending time with.
I loved it! It's mind-blowing the difference in parenting tactics, yet similar on some level. I thought Amy was awesome! I loved the tenacity both in Amy & Lulu, and their incredible struggle to understand the other.
Meh. Jury's still out.
The one where the Mom hurled abuse at her recalcitrant daughter...oh, wait, that was the ENTIRE book.
Heck no! I already lived this once, I don't need to revisit my childhood on film.
Wow. The Mom needed to seriously chill and get her own hobby. There's disciplining your child and pushing them to do their best, but this Mother needed to get a grip. She could have approached motherhood with a little more balance.
Having read this well after all the controversy and hype about the book had passed, I was surprised at how much I instantly loved this book. Couldn't stop listening to it or thinking about it. Even if you disagree with some or many things she says or does, it is a great, personal and important story that many of us can reflect on and draw our own thoughts and feelings about parenting and multi-cultural understanding. Narration was also great.
Someone who wants to emulate the stereotypical Asian mother.
I wasn't find of the performance, but I think it was the content that just turned me off.
Horribly pretentious book. Don't bother.
Ms. Chua suffers from Narcissistc personality disorder.in which a person is excessively preoccupied with personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity. She uses her cultural background as an excuse to use a parenting style that is emotionally abusive. Even when her husband and parents caution her on the direction she is headed with her daughters, her self-centered personality allows her to convince herself she is always right and only considering her daughters best interest.
The story was fascinating in its brutal honesty. This is also testimony that Chua does not believe there was anything wrong with her cruelty and has no regrets. In the last chapter she brings in her daughters statements about the book and comments on her parenting methods. At this point her daughters are still in high school and appear to be defending their mother. It would be interesting to know how they end up parenting their own children and what their thoughts and comments will be on their mother at that time.
Jed, Chua's husband is mentioned frequently and praised highly in the book. She also discusses his outstanding achievements. At the same time she is determined to prove that her harsh "Chinese" mothering is the correct and only way to raise outstanding, high achieving children; she continues to discuss how opposite her husband was raised by her in-laws.
Overall, the book is worthwhile if only to get a glimpse into the lifestyle of this family. Every educator should read it to assist in identifying this type of abuse and the emotional problems that can evolve from this kind of home environment. Parents should read it and ask themselves if they truly believe ends justify the means when it comes to your child. Do you want your child to be a happy, well adjusted, caring person, capable of making good decisions for themselves, or is it more important to have "trophy" children that reflect your own personal desire for recognition and insecurities?
This sits in the middle of my list but I really identify with the "eastern" way of raising a child since that is how I was raised.
If you had a traditional "eastern" parent then you will really identify with this book. If you have had close friends as a child who where Asian then you will see a lot of familiar things with their parents.
The author is a terrible narrator.
This book offered some valuable perspectives on a "non-Western" method of parenting. All parents could gain something from this perspective.
More about her spouse.
Parts of Chua's story and narration are bordering on offensive to Jewish traditions. Because she is a perfectionist, Chua's failure to learn how to pronounce easy words, like "haftarah," is a sign on how little she respects the Jewish tradition. Her delivery is so wooden, there are times when I couldn't even determine if she was being humorous. She unknowingly betrays a fault in the "Chinese" method of child-rearing in her inability to adjust for nuance in language. The worst part of this book is Chua's complete disregard for people outside an upper-middle class community. Her idea of struggling is when the whole family had to sleep in one hotel bed on their overseas trips. She admittedly doesn't enjoy introspection, but she also seems to avoid analyzing the community around her.
Say something about yourself!
Loved this book!!!!! I need to get in touch with this author. I have so many questions????
Love mysteries with a lot of twist and turns. Page turners. Love books that invite me in to stay awhile and make me sad when it ends. It can be the voice that brings the story to life or the story that breaths life into the voice. I am happy either way!!
Not really - Felt too sorry for the family.
Bringing Up BeBe. Child rearing from a different and better perspective.
Tiger Mother Gone Wrong