Sure glad she wasn't my mother! It helped me understand the chinese mother but at time I felt suffocated by her.
Amy is this really you?
Abuse Narcassism Education
I appreciate that the parents did care about giving a Music Education to their two young girls. I am a seasoned, 40 years as a private piano teacher so I have dealt with and continue to deal with all types of parents; great to horrible.
When Chua, the author was dealing with her defiant 5 year old and made her go outside to a freezing porch in the middle of the winter in Boston. This experience solidified was a mean, narcassistic mother Mrs. Chua was. If I had been the teacher, I would have social services and had both girls removed from the home.
When parents abuse their kids in order to vacariously force them to have what they did not have as children, sometimes parents loose their ability to make clear judgement calls; their egos as parents are totally out of line - regardless of culture.
Children need to laugh, play and be children. Some light exposure to the arts is fine but there needs to be a balance when parents can coddle the talent along in an effective manner without being abusive and condescending.
Otherwise, as is with the case of so many children, they will end up either committing suicide as they get older and or being in long term therapy with counselors trying to deal with their outrage and anger.
I was outraged at how controlling and manipulative this Mrs. Chua was towards her children and then has the audacity to use her limited life experience to blame her abuse on her culture and then in turn, tries to exploit her experience into a marketing campaign to sell books, blaming her abuse on her cultural upbringing, that being Chinese.
I went on line and pulled up this book an Amazon.com
Here is what I found;
Original Used discounted new used copy
$25.95 $16.97 $7.76 $5.00
I guess Mrs. Chua intention to make a fortune of her kids misfortuned bombed royally even with TV and Radio interviews.
Karma as an awful bite at times....
stubborn, sad, informational
Lou Lou, she taught the author what she needed to know
what really happens in chinese families
Interesting read. I have wondered at how the Eastern Culture raises their children. The Chinese have such a strong work ethic (as I did).
This book describes 2 generations of child rearing in a Chinese and then a Chinese-Jewish/American household.
It's the total opposite of what US rearing has become. Chinese seem to be too strict and the US is way too lax. There has to be a happy medium, which at the end of this book it seems is finally learned.
Yes, I have recommended it to several friends.
I liked her point about learning. "Learning isn't fun. It is hard work. Anything worth learning is hard work. We should quit telling kids learning is fun."
It was interesting to hear it in her voice.
several sittings - while driving
Just when I was saying to myself, "This woman is a total nut job. . . " I found myself also saying, "Well, she really has a valid point there." It was very thought provoking. I recommended to my book club group.
I purchased the book because it was rated highly in entertainment weekly magazine. The story did bring to light some differant views on parenting but it feels like a work in progerss and not a true guide. The children raised by this method both seemed to benefit but initially reacted in oppisite ways. It is great for people who want a new perspective but not as an answer to what is the better way.
how to parent and how not to parent. I didn't like her parenting style for the most part but some things were quite useful. it helped me think of parenting in a new light.
Insightful, interesting, and intimidating.
I enjoyed having the author read the book, it brought a lot of authenticity to the story. It also made me believe the unbelievable parts.
I'm going to proudly be a Western mother of Asian descent, but I might sign my kid up for a music class.
I enjoyed this perspective of parenting. It gave me a little bit to aspire to and a lot to let go.
Yes I'd recommend for another point of view. Ms. Chua's approach is perhaps not for everyone, but the book offers some unique reflections on how to train your children.
More yet to be written. Ripe for a follow up that can reflect on the results of parenting "the Chinese way".
Calm, deliberate, cool
I may not listen to it again, but I'm very glad I heard her thoughts on parenting - what she did, what mistakes she made, and how it all turned out.
Her daughters were really the stars of the book.
I felt her voice was a huge part of hearing her story and I likely have more insight on what happened between the members of her family due to the opportunity to hear the inflection in her voice.
When lulu was outside in the cold, so stubborn!
Some of the story was quite shocking, my mouth open while riding in my car and listening. I also enjoyed hearing about the growth and changes she's made over the years.