Audible obsessed lifelong learner.
No matter how much the author wants to say this is not a self help book it definitely reads like one. The underlying premise is you need to respect yourself and a big part of doing that is not beating yourself up constantly and bashing yourself image for never being good enough.
Younger people especially women
Personally, I was not taken with her way of reading.
I bought the book together with Brown's book on shame because I suffer from what I consider to be feelings of shame, but I did not find the insights I hoped for. The analysis provided, while surely useful to someone coming to grips with this kind of issues for the first time, seems too superficial; at least it does not get to the heart of what I am struggling with. As a result, the advice, which is good as far as it goes, is not of much use to me because I have gained no deeper understanding of what troubles me. I should perhaps specify that I have had more than a decade of psychotherapy and a lifelong interest in psychology and psychoanalysis — this is not to tout my "qualifications" (obviously I have nothing to boast about since all my efforts have not solved the problems that motivated me to buy this book) but to put my critical attitude into perspective, because I do not wish keep prospective readers with a different background from buying the book.
This book was my introduction to Brene Brown, via OWN. (Thank you, Oprah!) I participated in the online journey based on this book, and boy did I get down and dirty with the whole issue of shame and ultimately vulnerability. This is a great book, and I love Brene and the way she tells stories and gets you really involved in the process of getting in touch with things I've never even considered before. PLEASE, Dr. Brown...please read your books for us...you have a wonderful, funny, heartwarming and touching way of speaking to us, and I retain so much more hearing from you first hand. And THANK YOU for the opportunity to be a part of your journey through OWN, for the first time.
The narrator "read" the book accurately, as far as I could tell, but the performance was really off. I had a hard time focusing on the information, and the stories...many words were emphasized that were disturbing to the flow. Having listened to Dr. Brown speak many times, I was disappointed that the book was read by someone who obviously was not familiar with her work.
Of all things, I really connected to the idea that we are all flawed and it's OK not to be perfect. I've heard this so many times before, but the way Dr. Brown explained it, I finally "GOT it." I'm imperfect...and I'm OK. I get the whole idea that every moment of our lives is a lesson...but I never really "got" that we don't need to revisit our past over and over again...we learn and move on...and keep making mistakes...and that's a GOOD thing.
This book breaks down some very difficult, new concepts into bite sized, actionable and authentic pieces. Brene's narrative examples makes it easy to relate to, and apply.
This narrator has possibly the most monotone, and I appropriately placed emphasis I've experienced in over 500 hours of audible books. It is in such sharp contrast to Brene that it detracts, I listen despite her.
Since discovering Brene, I have said all her work with every friend, family member and colleague I can. Buy it, read it, live it!
This is a great book for those a little off the beaten path of life. DIG DEEP and you shall find the truth. Nice pace to the lesson and kept me wanting to hear more
Yes I would recommend this audio to a friend. It is one of the few self help books that I enjoyed as a narrative. I did not feel I had to go back and highlight the salient points in print.
the self discovery felt real and immediate. I could relate to Brene as a person I might know in my own life.
Lauren was personal and engaging. As I had never heard Brena speak I actually thought it was the author reading about her own life.
Yes. She makes a lot of great points as to why we should embrace ourselves in order for us to live a more fulfilling life.
A New Earth. The Power of Now. The Four Agreements. They are all about embracing who we are and not letting shame control our lives.
Where she talks about having people in our lives with whom we can feel safe to be vulnerable with. I am now seeking out a few good people to be this in my life.
There is a shame epidemic going on in this world and being open and vulnerable is the solution.
We live in a society of where we put one face forward while hiding our true selves for fear of rejection. But in reality real peace and fulfillment is found in removing the mask and letting our real self shine. It is scary, but liberating in doing this.I was raised in a very religious home. It took a lot of courage for me after 35 years to be honest about my lack of belief in this religion. I took a chance. Almost lost my marriage over it. But what I gained was priceless. Myself!Thank you Brene', your TED talk was the beginning for me in this transformation and this book has become a valuable asset in my library.
I would like to listen to the parts that were most revelatory and pertinent to me again: about the vulnerability one feels when doing something risky, and Brown's point about how it's OK, even necessary to feel vulnerable and to open oneself to something new; about feeling judged by others, but realizing that it's oneself often who is imposing that feeling (and even if others are judging, putting that in perspective); the encouragement to "dare greatly"; the encouragement to rest, play, dance, sing, laugh. Other parts I wouldn't feel the need to listen to.
Towards the end, when the author related the anecdote about being in a department store with her daughter, and the two of them feeling like they were in a precarious position and being judged by some other women and their daughters. It sounds minor, but what Brown wrote about needing to decide between betraying her daughter to make herself look better, or standing with her daughter, was very insightful and inspirational. Another revealing anecdote was the one about Brown getting upset about the person who emailed her with a criticism about a photograph on her blog. Initially it seemed like a petty story, but the points Brown makes in telling it were very important.
I don't know, but I found Fortang's style irritating at times, and thought it detracted from the book's substance. There were some problems with pronouncing words (e.g., "signal out" instead of "single out" -- shouldn't an editor/producer have figured this out? Or is the error in the original text?). Also, sometimes (especially in the beginning) there wasn't enough of a pause preceding and signaling a new section in a chapter. Finally, I found the vocal style sometimes off-putting, too "cutesy."
I would like to keep in mind that in difficult situations (e.g., encounters with people who are being difficult), that it's OK to take the time to think about how I'm feeling and to acknowledge and respond to that vulnerability and sadness, rather than to try to make myself come out looking better in the encounter.
I think that the book needed some editing to strengthen some of the points and interconnections among points. I also think that someone else could do a better job reading the book (perhaps someone with more speaking talent such as Sissy Spacek--someone with a voice like that). Despite these criticisms, overall, the book was worthwhile to listen to for me. Ultimately I wanted to keep listening, and to finish the book.
Wife and Mother of a 2yo little girl. Compliance Manager and Recruitment Manager, I love my work, love spending time with family & friends (though never get enough time to do it!), love ALL music depending on my mood, good food, good wine, and travel,
Yes, if they were in a place where they needed a morale booster
We're not perfect, but that's what makes us who we are - instead of looking at the negative side of things, we need to look at the strengths that are created from these.
This is nothing new. But when i was in a place emotionally where i needed to hear it, somehow it was delivered in a way that wasn't condescending, nor repetitive. It somehow stuck wth me, and really helped me to see how strong i can be.
Love the self help and inspiring books. This book helped me see that I am who I am, and I can't really change a lot of those things. Be proud of who you are!!