I loved the honesty and warmth of the stories. And had a great narration!
It talks about the things we think but don't say and about the things we are not aware of until we take time to analyze ourselves.
Seriously, either buy this book or go buy The Power of Vulnerability instead--those talks by Brene have all this content and more. If you hadn't already heard the latter, this may contain something for you, but I found it dry and not convincing--unlike her more developed material that she used to put her seminar together. It was basically like a cliffnotes version (although this may have come first--not sure), with nothing new...a waste of a credit.
But really, it's not that this book is poor--it's this horrible narrator choice. I'm sure she's fine reading fiction, but she ruins the content. She reads it like she doesn't even know what she's reading, like Brene is some fictional character she doesn't believe in. She makes everything sound trite and hollow, sometimes almost to the point of sounding ludicrous. How in the world did Audible think this was a good idea?
I'm Trying to see the world with my ears.
I love how vulnerable she made herself when giving examples of her definitions. Shame is difficult to talk about, imperfection is difficult to talk about, being wrong is difficult to talk about; but, Brene talks about all of those things in a way that guides the reader to not only understand big concepts but also to see how they work in their own lives.
She's a master storyteller and teacher.
The narration was fine. The content was the problem.
I was hoping for more substance here but realized Ms. Brown is a researcher and not a psychologist. She tells stories from her life, which makes her a likeable person but I found this book dull, repetitive and it seemed to rehash themes from her other books. It just wasn't my cup of tea. I was looking for more psychology and less fluff.
Younger people especially women
Personally, I was not taken with her way of reading.
I bought the book together with Brown's book on shame because I suffer from what I consider to be feelings of shame, but I did not find the insights I hoped for. The analysis provided, while surely useful to someone coming to grips with this kind of issues for the first time, seems too superficial; at least it does not get to the heart of what I am struggling with. As a result, the advice, which is good as far as it goes, is not of much use to me because I have gained no deeper understanding of what troubles me. I should perhaps specify that I have had more than a decade of psychotherapy and a lifelong interest in psychology and psychoanalysis — this is not to tout my "qualifications" (obviously I have nothing to boast about since all my efforts have not solved the problems that motivated me to buy this book) but to put my critical attitude into perspective, because I do not wish keep prospective readers with a different background from buying the book.
If you'd like to listen to one person's tale of overcoming their large array of minor addictions, going into therapy, having a breakdown, and learning to let go of being who she thinks she is supposed to be, you may very well get a lot out of this book.
However, this book is positioned as the work of "a leading expert on shame, authenticity, and belonging" who "shares what she's learned from a decade of research". Nearly all of the research she shares is her own personal story. She makes occasional references to her academic research with what other experience, giving some short summaries. She doesn't give details about anybody else's experience. It's all about Brene Brown.
If you are a lot like the author, whom I'd describe as a woman who is more wrapped up in her own feeling states than most people are, this book may be just wonderful for you. If you're not, if you're seeking actual research findings, if you're looking for insights that are more broadly applicable, pass this book by.
A De-essing filter on the narrators mic. Oh - and it being a decent book.
Not necessarily. Just books from Brene Brown.
A De-essing filter on the narrators mic.
A few here-and-there. But not worth working through all of the junk to get there.
Although there are a few minor tid-bits of useful information tucked here-and-there in this book - all of it is overshadowed by mostly self indulgent rambling.
If you consider yourself a free-thinker, athiest, agnostic, capitalist, etc.. Then you will likely have the same gagging reflex as I did in reading this book. If you accept jesus christ as your saviour and want to stroke an un-accomplished ego... then this book will do it.
It wasn't completely worthless and if Brene could separate her religion from her science, she might be on to something worthwhile. I have also learned not to trust book recommendations from James Altucher. It's been a while since I have read a horrible book. I guess it has to happen every once-and-a-while.
Uses the basis of a 12 step program and tries to reinvent it. She uses gratitude, spiritual awakening, etc ( common terms in 12 step programs) rearranges them and makes a "new" 10 step program that excuses addictive behaviors. Sorry honey but I tried your way and I got drunk again. Wish I was still able to return this title and can't.
I got this book after listening to Brene Brown's wonderful TED talk. There is nothing more in this book than in the talk, except that the talk was 20 minutes long or so and this book is over 4 hours.
That being said, this book does serve the purpose of a good pick-you-up for someone feeling down. Its message is feel good about yourself, no one is perfect, you are good enough. There's nothing really wrong or arguable with that.
There are two things that did bother me. At some point she says to be happy all people MUST do creative art work. I don't agree and don't know why she says that. Also she talks a lot about how terribly she reacts to criticism, how devastated she was when some random person didn't like a photo she'd taken, which I felt was kind of like trying to manipulate me into not writing a bad review, it didn't work!
The reading was very good.
Why should I care about a disappointing rant from an all too comfortable life that has nothing to do with mine?