I will admit, this audio book has me looking at the world (male and female interactions) a bit differently. It offers up a perspective that isn't really taught in school and backs it up with comparisons to our ancestors and monkeys. This isn't all that much of a stretch as this is how a lot of this type of science works, but it comes with a huge caveat that anybody who has spent any time with stats will tell you. Correlation does not mean causation.
That aside it's a fascination perspective, makes a lot of sense and will probably change the way you view relationships (hopefully in a positive way). The narration is a bit dry and that does hurt the overall enjoyment of this work.
Love to read, and Audible has made the two-hour daily commute enjoyable!
Husband and wife research team examines sex both at the dawn of time through archeological and biological data.
The premise is if we're supposed to be monogamist, why are we so bad at it? They show that ancestorally and even recently, we are at our best in civilizations that welcome open, caring relationships. The book struck me as paradigm changing, but I questioned it. I'm not versed enough to tell the legitimacy of their attack of various archeologist and scientists, but it seemed a little too over the top. Also I thought the use of pop culture in music, movies, literature maybe made it approachable, but didn't work for me.
I don't know if its that the thought was so counter to me, or if it is their science that was jangling for me or both. I'm not religious - I'm not even really traditional, but I question how they got to their conclusions.
There are subtle political leanings that are untimely crammed into the story.
It's full of strawmen fallacies, and you can tell the book was written to feed into popular culture and to exonerate unfaithful spouses by telling them "it's ok, it's in your nature".
They didn't mispronounce any words. They should have just stuck to one narrator.
Spoiler alert (not really), the point of this book is that monogamy and life long pair bonding are not "natural" and are a product of the advent of agriculture and property rights. The book included arguments based on history, sociology, psychology, biology, and chemistry. Any work that deals with weighty topics requires a little contemplation, which allows you to test the author's points, and make your own decision. In the print version, you would be able to take that time for reflection. That said, who has time to read everything you want to in print.
I like anything that challenges cultural norms. this book definately did that, and backed up much of its claims with solid arguments.
You really are best listening to this book in chunks so you can think about it.
Spending way too much time listening to books (versus reading) since 2011
Pretty high up there
Haven't read/listened to many nonfiction
No but it did keep me very engaged
One of the few nonfiction books I was able to listen to and keep very engaged
The book makes a strong point about why humans cheat, but it would be great if it included more information on why they started getting married in the first place (other than just mentioning agriculture and the management of land).
This evolutionary theory explain lots of issues related to modern day sexuality.
narrator's performance is outstanding.
definitely yes, but practically you can't do it one go as the book is very comprehensive and runs for several hours.
This is a well researched book, that while focuses on sexual human behavior, touches many other human traits during evolution, such as war and agression, cooperation and the overal impact that our culture might have in the research of our own selves. For an example I liked, they discuss how the victorian values and traditions biased the way Darwin reported his findings, and how his writings were censored to remove ideas offending the common beliefs of that time. The authors clearly name many controversial themes that are deeply ingrained in our cultural behavior and challenge their pertinence to what being human really means.
The book was so well received that Sex at Dusk was written. I followed all their arguments. However, I'm not certain I am ready to divorce sex and love. Yes, it's been done, but my own experience is quite painful when that happens. Would like to know more about the cultures which practice much freer forms of sexuality. I was engrossed in this book and couldn't wait to get back to it. Definitely worth a listen.
Sound quality was clear and there were no technical issues.
Content was intellectually challenging and I have enjoyed exposure to the ideas. Going head to head with the accepted scientific backing for "how we relate" is daring and I am glad to have been enlightened to another intellectual approach.