An eye opening look at why divorce rates are so high due to the makeup of the human condition. A very scientific look at how the human species has evolved and how our sex lives have evolved along the way.
This book is a true marvel. It changed quite dramatically the way I see the world and it did so with a compelling writing based on good scientific research. Essentially, most of us have been duped into believing monogamy is "natural". This book provides plenty of evidence to the contrary. Five stars!
This book will correct so many of the misconceptions you have not just about sex and sexuality but even about egalitarian hunter gatherer societies.
The book looks at the standard narrative regarding sex and especially monogamy and pulls apart the ideas, finds their roots and shows how many of them are incorrect and what the actual truth is.
Finding out that monogamy really came about with the rise of private property which came with agriculture.
I did want to listen to the book in one sitting, however I had to listen to it over a few goes as there is just so much information and I have had to re-adjust my idea of history and sexuality and hunter-gatherer societies.
I want a world where we properly value human wellbeing and the environment. This book helps me understand how this can be possible.
Insightful, intriguing and thought-provoking.
No I have not...
No I wanted to listen to it on my 2 hour commute daily.
This book contains fascinating information regarding human sexuality and what it means today. It takes a hard look at where we as a species comes from and how modern human beings are forced to adapt to a different notion of sexuality today.
This is probably one of the best books I've ever read in regards to human behavior and sexuality. The authors do a very good job of keeping the topic interesting (how could this not be an interesting topic?) and the flow of the book moving right along.
In the book, they answer the age-old questions about "Is Monogamy a Myth?" Why we have the thoughts we have and why we become excited and stimulated by certain characteristics in other people. The role that social conditioning has in either restricting us, or allowing us freedoms and liberties in how we feel about sex.
Some of the highlights of the book point out that up until about 10 or 20,000 years ago, humans were grouped together in nomadic tribes and all of the social interactions they shared (hunting and gathering, eating and sleeping, and yes, group sex) were all part of the social bonding that was necessary in particular for survival. With the advent of agriculture and property ownership (that included women and children) the social concept of monogamy came into play. Question remains, are humans naturally monogamous?
Comedian Jerry Seinfeld says that "men and women are like firemen and fire. Men are like firemen and can be ready for sex in two minutes. Women are like fire, whereas the conditions have to be just right for it to occur. (Smile)
This is an excellent book that I would highly recommend to everyone! Now I understand better... "Why men are the way we are and why women are the why they are." (Smile)
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Since hearing it, I have recommended this book to several women. Enlightening, even though I don't agree with everything, I loved the way the authors tied things together.
This book gives a good look at the history sex (i.e.: sex practices among early humans and non-westernized peoples) and made a good argument against the conventional biological/evolutionary explanations of mate selection. Treatment of the implications of this on modern sexuality seemed an after thought.
Everyone should read this, at least to consider it's presentation, hypothosis and, well - sort of conclusion... you do the math. a book one can consider as what should be required reading - perhaps in college at least.
Purchased this book as a $4.95 deal. It's a genre I wouldn't have normally read, but as a new Audible customer, I have enjoyed exploring something new. The narrators are a man and woman, which makes the story telling more interesting, and even humorous. I've been nicely surprised with this book!