Great book, but the reader was not right for this sort of book at all. I would have enjoyed it a lot more with a more suitable reader.
Unitarian, Slytherin, Leo, ISTJ, Kinkster, Railfan, Independent Liberal, Feminist, Environmentalist, Pacifist, Idealist, Stage Manager.
Overall yes. There's a few diagrams and tables that are difficult to follow for new listeners, but it was nice to listen to the material instead of having to keep up with it.
I was directed to this book by recommendation of Dan Savage, who has also talked about The Moral Animal and Opening Up, which is what I'm reading next.
I most enjoyed the light tone and almost sarcastic points to the humor in the book.
I didn't have an extreme reaction, but I feel like I understand sex a great deal more now than before I listened to this book.
This is a great book to start with if you're interested in learning about the sexual functions of relationships. Almost all of it covers heterosexual sex however.
Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha
The top review on the book's description page gives it two stars because it is "too focused on academic infighting." This isn't the case at all. The book debunks lots of unexamined assumptions, both in academia and among the general public, but it does so in an informative, entertaining, and crucially necessary way. Most people "know" that humans are "naturally" monogamous and every society has always been based on monogamy. Except they aren't, and they haven't been. So if the authors spend some time proving that what we (both the scientific researchers and ordinary people) think we know isn't true, it's far from tedious or "inside baseball" that ordinary people don't care about. It's fascinating, and well argued. I've been semi-obsessed with human evolution for the past few years, and the authors have explained who we are and how we've become this way more in this one book than practically all the rest I've read put together. I wish they'd get busy and write a lot more books! :-)
This book makes more sense of the mountains of evidence right in front of our eyes about human sexuality and why we feel and act the ways we do about it than anything I've encountered. And it's delivered in very accessible style, with wit, insight, and wisdom. The readers of the audio book do a terrific job as well. (Jonathan Davis reads the epigraphs etc, and Allyson Johnson handles the narration with great skill.) I can't recommend this book highly enough; it's the best I've read in years on this or any other subject.
Favorite Genres: Urban/Preternatural Fantasy, Science Fiction, Knitting Favorite Story Components: character development, under-dog success stories
One thing that I would like is the reference list for the book. That's probably my one biggest complaint about non fiction on Audible is not getting the reference list.
That aside, the book is well written and the arguments presented are well thought out and free from obvious flaws for the average listener.
The first half of the book may be a bit slow and maybe a bit dry, but it lays out some foundation material for the second half of the book. When the authors got into the "material" evidence for their position, there were some snicker worthy euphemisms used. I shall never view a "beer fridge" quite the same, for instance.
References to current media where arguments against the book's position are available were included in the text, with directions on where to find them before the authors provided rebuttals.
I appreciated that the authors stopped short of trying to apply moral judgement to the modern Western civilization ideal of human sexuality, though they did help to provide a basis for a more ... realistic view of the difference between love and lust, and what that means for long term relationships.
For the non fiction books that use studies, histories, statistics, etc to make the point of the book it is actually quite good.
I liked how it seemed to be fairly pessimistic and how it had a kind of negative feeling in the beginning and how positive it grew as I listened. It started off and I felt a sense of hopelessness but I kept listening and gradually the book gave me a sense of hopefulness.
I liked the woman's voice. The man did just the "quotes" at the beginning of chapters and it was not bad but I believe the woman could have done those as well. They were short and maybe it made you pay attention to them more than if she had read them but I don't think so. Not bad either way.
I almost turned it off several times in the first 1/3 of the book but by the end I was recommending it and talking about various things referenced in the book to other people.
I think anyone on the far left would love it and anyone on the far right would hate it. I was hoping for some real substance but as other reviews state the books is about 20% about human sexuality and 80% bashing any other view other then their own. Big Business is evil, The catholic church and other Christians are evil, Men are evil because they hold most of the wealth in the country, and even fox news makes it into the book.
I don't want to sound like a right wing wack job because I am much more liberal when it comes to social issues. This book is just crappy.
Slow Sex was great by Nicole Daedone, The next book is Sex & God :) hope that is better
30+ IT/Geek Male. Used to read lots, but now the "reading" is best done via audible.
This is a look at primates, and other cultural sexual norms outside of "Mainstream" it's a great book in terms of giving you backstory, but it's certainly not going to give you spoon-fed answers. This is more the supporting information in your own personal belief's if they happen to be centered in a non-monogamous sexual world. If you have no interest in non-monogamy then to be honest, the book isn't a worthwhile listen, but if your curious, and wanted some "supporting information" it's here in this book. The narrators are quite entertaining, and makes it much more enjoyable to listen to the book, This is why the Performance get's a five star rating.
It's the first nonfiction, so this does not really apply.
I have never listened to a nonfiction book before. Ideally, I think reading it makes more sense, but as I don't have time to read I am very grateful for the audiobook. The narrator was excellent, it only lost a star because I don't think the book lends itself to narration.
It's like stepping over a threshold, turning around and looking back and seeing what's familiar from a completely different perspective.
Don't read this book if you want to stay comfortable in your views of human sexuality! But if you are a curious person, love learning new things, seeing things from different angles, or have ever wondered why you are completely happily married but still find your eyes wandering, this book is for you!
Addicted to Audible since 2009
Okay so this title wasn't nearly as good as I thought it would be but it was still very interesting nevertheless. The narrators do a good job but it's easy to keep the listeners interested when talking about an intriguing subject such as sex and how it relates to evolution.
Speaker, Leader, innovation consultant, kilt-wearer, South African.
This couple has such an interesting and new perspective on what they call the Standard Narrative of Human Sexuality.
They show us how the ideas that we all know about romantic love have no basis in anything. They also point out glaring inconsistencies in the Sociology research for the last 50 years.
When you first encounter their ideas, they seem radical and dangerous. By the end of the book I'm completely convinced of their thesis.
How do you know something is academically rigorous? The research comes up with a conclusion you weren't expecting.
By that standard, this book is academically rigorous, counter-cultural, and brave.
Read this book before you get married. And if you are married, get two copies -- one for each of you -- and prepare for the roller-coaster!
It will make your marriage a more interesting place to be -- and bring you closer to your partner.
Marriages of the next 20 years and beyond will be shaped by this ground-breaking book.