This book had me captivated from start to finish. The authors are brilliant, they blast huge holes through societies' monogamist rules and they have done the research to back it up. This book has completely changed my way of thinking and has allowed me to understand why I and others around me act in certain ways. I have seen some negative reveiws stating that this book was not worth it as it doesn't give any answers. That's the point! There are no answers, this book simply provides you with the facts so that you may make your own decisions... its a text book not a self-help book. I hope you enjoy and learn as much as I did!!
Allyson Johnson is easy on the ear and seems to genuinely understand and agree with the content
I thought this book was fascinating and seems like it should be required reading for everyone that wants to have an adult relationship.
Anybody at all interested in the Human Condition should listen to this erudite, interesting, entertaining and, at time humorous, look at the development of human sexuality. As an ardent reader, and listener, of and to popular science tracts I can honestly say that this is one of the most rewarding. The authors deal with the fundamental issue of modern sex, i.e. monogamy. They provide evidence that shows how difficult this particular way of life has been and is for us humans - despite having tried it for several thousand years. Providing a close look at our primate relatives throws a whole new perspective on where we are today. They discuss the beginning of agriculture and it's effect on the hunter/gatherer lifestyle which constituted the earliest being of our ancestors [evidence is provided]. It provides a different way of looking at the role of men and women, their relationships, and their problems in the modern world. Thought provoking in the extreme, this work will undoubtedly have an effect on the reader.
The narration, by Honor Harrington [sorry Allyson Johnson!], is, not to put to fine a point on it, SUPERB. She has just the right sense of humor, irony, and emphasis to increase the enjoyment of what is already a very good work indeed.
Interesting topic and discussions. The book as a whole felt scattered and not well put together. Some of the examples of research or findings were used in misleading ways.
fantastic stuff; if you liked the Black Swan, this is another of must-read books for free thinking people.
Most of it you know, but never admit :-)
Great book, but the reader was not right for this sort of book at all. I would have enjoyed it a lot more with a more suitable reader.
Unitarian, Slytherin, Leo, ISTJ, Kinkster, Railfan, Independent Liberal, Feminist, Environmentalist, Pacifist, Idealist, Stage Manager.
Overall yes. There's a few diagrams and tables that are difficult to follow for new listeners, but it was nice to listen to the material instead of having to keep up with it.
I was directed to this book by recommendation of Dan Savage, who has also talked about The Moral Animal and Opening Up, which is what I'm reading next.
I most enjoyed the light tone and almost sarcastic points to the humor in the book.
I didn't have an extreme reaction, but I feel like I understand sex a great deal more now than before I listened to this book.
This is a great book to start with if you're interested in learning about the sexual functions of relationships. Almost all of it covers heterosexual sex however.
Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha
The top review on the book's description page gives it two stars because it is "too focused on academic infighting." This isn't the case at all. The book debunks lots of unexamined assumptions, both in academia and among the general public, but it does so in an informative, entertaining, and crucially necessary way. Most people "know" that humans are "naturally" monogamous and every society has always been based on monogamy. Except they aren't, and they haven't been. So if the authors spend some time proving that what we (both the scientific researchers and ordinary people) think we know isn't true, it's far from tedious or "inside baseball" that ordinary people don't care about. It's fascinating, and well argued. I've been semi-obsessed with human evolution for the past few years, and the authors have explained who we are and how we've become this way more in this one book than practically all the rest I've read put together. I wish they'd get busy and write a lot more books! :-)
This book makes more sense of the mountains of evidence right in front of our eyes about human sexuality and why we feel and act the ways we do about it than anything I've encountered. And it's delivered in very accessible style, with wit, insight, and wisdom. The readers of the audio book do a terrific job as well. (Jonathan Davis reads the epigraphs etc, and Allyson Johnson handles the narration with great skill.) I can't recommend this book highly enough; it's the best I've read in years on this or any other subject.
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One thing that I would like is the reference list for the book. That's probably my one biggest complaint about non fiction on Audible is not getting the reference list.
That aside, the book is well written and the arguments presented are well thought out and free from obvious flaws for the average listener.
The first half of the book may be a bit slow and maybe a bit dry, but it lays out some foundation material for the second half of the book. When the authors got into the "material" evidence for their position, there were some snicker worthy euphemisms used. I shall never view a "beer fridge" quite the same, for instance.
References to current media where arguments against the book's position are available were included in the text, with directions on where to find them before the authors provided rebuttals.
I appreciated that the authors stopped short of trying to apply moral judgement to the modern Western civilization ideal of human sexuality, though they did help to provide a basis for a more ... realistic view of the difference between love and lust, and what that means for long term relationships.