Very well written and researched, the authors question the accepted notion that monogamy is somehow natural for humans. Applys insigts from anthropology, archeology and biology to make the point that our ancestors were most likely non-monogamous. They go a bit off track when they try to attribute our monogamous culture to the market however. The problem is not the concept of personal property, but trying to apply that concept to relationships.
This book was a really enjoyable delve into human sexuality. I got this book not knowing what to expect and was more that pleasantly surprised. The narrator (Johnson) was very enjoyable to listen to and read it as if the author would, if that makes sense.
The book not only gives the author's theories into why we are who we are but also gives endless scientific research to back their claims.
I've a background in the sciences and am working toward a master in sex education. Everyone around me has mentioned this book at some point so I felt like I had to read it and downloaded it for a long drive. They extend the "this is what the book is about, this is why it's relevant, this is the research that was done before it, this is what we're going to tell you to build upon the research." to an agonizing, tedious crawl of several chapters. I kept thinking, "You know, in a scientific paper this would be a page, page and a half. That's all this needed to be."
Then again, perhaps it's something that a layman needs to understand the book. I've had professional training in it. "Ok, serves me right," I thought, "I'll skip a couple chapters in 2x speed so I can stop if something interesting happens."
There were a few times when I stopped to listen, the information about what our close mammal relatives and our distant animal relatives do as far as sex was very interesting.
Sometimes I'd be listening along thinking that it was interesting but as tedious as listening to a textbook read aloud when I'd realize that I hadn't heard anything about human evolution and development in regards to sexuality for several hours. I didn't sign up to read anthropology as it relates to humans in group living and "let's all talk about how the dawn of agriculture ruined everything". I'm interested in human sexuality! I'd fast forward some more, then some more, then again, then just stop listening and put the book away. I'm in the last 1/4 of section 2 and I just can't bring myself to listen again.
Though I think that the narrator is great and I really enjoyed listening to her -her dry wit really brought up the material- but I think I'd like this as a paperback book where I could skip the boring parts and only read the relevant research.
This book is one of the most entertaining, fun audio books I have ever gotten. It is funny, clever and right on the money regarding sex in our culture. It is well worth the time. Great Job!
fantastic stuff; if you liked the Black Swan, this is another of must-read books for free thinking people.
Most of it you know, but never admit :-)
This isn't a work of Evolutionary Psychology, rather, it dismantles much of the BS that that field has been propagating.
Great book, but the reader was not right for this sort of book at all. I would have enjoyed it a lot more with a more suitable reader.
Interesting topic and discussions. The book as a whole felt scattered and not well put together. Some of the examples of research or findings were used in misleading ways.
I found this book to have been very well researched, and provides information that is very interesting and important. I knew some things, suspected some things, but mostly didn't know many things in this book. It changed my perspective on women and sexuality, and I feel it allows for more options, and less fear around alternative sexual lifestyles.There are many lies and secrets in the world. But it seems the lies and secrets surrounding women's sexuality is either the biggest, or one of the biggest.The idea that the conventional relationship/marriage package is the only thing that's right, that's normal and healthy to the exclusion of all the other types of sexual relationships that one could have, is the same thing as a Mcdonald's version of food to all the myriad of variety of cuisine possible. That its an impoverished, scarcity mentality view of sexuality. That the cookie cutter, scripted marriage is an aberration from nature, and not 'the only natural and normal lifestyle' as we're lead to believe by Religious and Mental Health experts, is a truly awakening remarkable idea. Of course not new, as our ancient ancestors lived this way. But its new for the modern person. Its very sobering from our egocentric, competitive and distorted perception of reality and awakening from the passionless distorted lull of our every day lives in the modern world.There are so many great examples in this book, of exactly how and why polygamy, polyamory, promiscuity, and however else you want to call it, are what's really 'natural.' It doesn't mean we should all run out and do it right away. Because freedom always comes at a price, and you first have to weigh things very carefully, to see if its a price you are willing to pay. However, the ideas in the book, if you really see them as true, change everything regarding, where we came from, who we are, and where we are going, what drives us and what our ultimate purpose in existence is, as human beings, and as women and men.