Newly retired, I am a reading fiend! I like many types of books, both fiction and non-fiction, with the exception of romance and fantasy
"Mistakes, who me? Not very often! I'm pretty perfect most of the time."
This book was a bit scary to me because it shook the foundations of many of my beliefs.
This book debunks many of all our common beliefs. For me, that my memories are reliable it is I who remember what really happened, unlike my brother and my hubby, who were there but must have memory problems. Not so, apparently. It seems my memories are as faulty and unreliable as anyone else's.
For me, that my sister-in-law adds to and embellishes her family history, more and more every year, but I certainly don't do that! Apparently, not so. I am not immune to this either.
In general, honest people do not confess to crimes they did not commit. Most certainly not. Well, maybe with the exception of the Central Park Jogger story, where all the young men arrested and convicted made false confessions and were innocent. That was an anomaly, right? Apparently, not so. This book in detail explains how and why people will confess when they haven't done the crime. This section is truly scary and I have given up my support of the death penalty, telling my hubby he was right all along. I admitted my mistake to him, a rare thing for one who seldom made mistakes (before this listen.)
Mistakes. Yes, that is another area covered. The book explains how and why we justify our mistakes, in the rare cases we make them (or are they so rare?) It is so understandable it is truly unnerving.
Also discussed in depth is a the area of spats, grudges, feuds, divorces, wars and why things get so terribly ugly. This section made me feel truly helpless and sad.
Everyone can benefit from this book. It really is a must listen that I stumbled across as a daily deal. I wouldn't have searched it out. My mistake.
It is life changing for me.
Reduce number of examples probably.
Depends on the book not the idiots who read it.
The book was very informative and helps explain this we do and see around us.
Enough with the Republicans/Conservatives are cheating, lying idiots and corporations are evil, corrupt and Selfish Meme. Can we please move on...
From on point to the next. Maybe slow it down and use proper dictation methods when reading aloud ideas so people can actually process and meander into the next one. Other than that the book was a good listen.
The basic premise of the book is spot on but ironically enough, the authors contradict themselves fairly blatantly.
George W. Bush and Richard Nixon receive quite a bit of focus while LBJ gets a small mention and Bill Clinton isn't even named though there is one anonymous quote about not having sex with "that girl." Then Scalia comes into the story, Tom Delay, Duke Cunningham and so on. (All Republicans and/or conservative.)
A more intellectually honest approach would have been to observe the inconsistencies on both sides of the political aisle. They do give some lip-service to this, but then always turn back to one political party to make their point.
Again, good premise - flawed execution. "How can they live with themselves" is a refrain that the authors use to set up several examples where the "offender" somehow misses the obviousness of their hypocrisy, but of course the rest of the world sees it vividly. In that same vein, how is it that an editor or close confidant of the authors didn't read this manuscript and point out the need to spread out their observations?
All in all, a very poor book and a truly dishonest approach to an otherwise very interesting subject. I'll be requesting a refund on this one - something I've only done twice in seven years.
I have known about cog dissonance for many years, but never have I known its application in so many domains. I am a professor in Gender Studies and intend to use this in my classes as it will help student in their lives and in understanding their own biases.
Yes, I would recommend it. It had a plethora of interesting ideas; however, I found the examples bias.
Narration was good, though there were a few dialog sections that were read by a single narrator that were a little confusing.
There seemed to be a lot of personal opinion in the book - many sentences began with "we, the authors, BELIEVE this to be true." While I understand many things are speculative, they push the scientific method throughout the book, and it seems they don't use it themselves consistently in the book.
Starts out good.....ends as an attack on law enforcement and the criminal justice system. Even though the book has merits the constant attack draws away from the real meaning of dissonance and self-justification.
Bitter divorcee, rad feminist lefty granny. Enjoys sociological and psychological non-fiction, women's literature, mystery, YA fiction.
No kidding. This author explained what happened in my life. I can finally sleep nights. If only I had read this at 20 instead of 50. Buy this book. Share it with your friends.
It ranks in the top 10%. I have read several other books that cover the same general topic, but this book boils down what most of us see every day in ourselves and others. Understanding why we or others struggle to take responsibility for our actions and perceptions is key in being able to change it and not be as critical of ourselves and others by taking responsibility and facing reality.
I would recommend this book to everybody! It's so hard to see the bigger picture when you walk through life with blinders on. There were a couple of statements in this book that will probably change my life for the better forever. Wish I had heard things like this a lot more while I was growing up.