Always moving. Always listening. Always learning. "After all this time?" "Always."
This book has a very interesting premise: that most of the problems we face in life are because we do not accept responsibility for our actions. People spend a great deal of time engaged in self-justification for hurtful actions.
One of the primary examples is what happened with the pre-school sex abuse scandals in the 90's. One of the most infamous started with accusations by a woman whom, it was later discovered, was mentally ill. Other parents at the school believed her, and children recounted improbable stories of abuse at the urging and direction of therapists and law enforcement.
"Mistakes Were Made" discusses the falibility of memory, and source confusion. In the example of the children making the accusations, leading questions became facts for the children. The same type of source confusion happens to adults.
When the therapists and law enforcement investigated the alleged abuse, they failed to notice that the children's stories were improbable. The investigators self-justified their failure to correlate the facts, and so many lives were ruined.
There is an extensive discussion of cognitive disonance, which is worth an entire book on its own. False memories are sometimes created to resolve cognitive disonance.
I did question the concept of "self-justification" as it applies to organizations, such as companies and countries. The authors treated those groups as if the groups were an individual entity. I didn't see any support for the position that a group somehow develops a consciousness and works to reduce cognitive disonance.
The performance was good. It's the first Audible Book I have listened to with two narrators that worked well.
As you progress through the book you will begin to recognize and understand some of the more difficult to fathom behaviors in others and ourselves.
First off, I am sorely disappointed in some of the reviewers for failing to see beyond context. It's not about taking a side in politics, but about pulling out psychological phenomenon REGARDLESS of who ends up looking bad. Such is science. Science doesn't care about your politics it only cares about the truth. Clinton's foibles are brought in to play right alongside Bush's...again, science doesn't care about politics or making waves by uncovering things people would rather not deal with, it only cares about truth.
Cognitive Dissonance could probably be named as the driving force of humanity. And the driving force of the politically heated bad reviews.
As for this audiobook...it almost put me to sleep. The reader is absolutely terrible. She sounds like an automated computer. Sentences are run together such that you don't even feel the periods, paragraphs are in a monotone. It's not her voice that is unpleasant, it's the way she reads it. The paper version is engaging, this audiobook is not. You could have a better reader by letting your Kindle voice the words...ugh.
Save your money and make a note NOT to buy this or any other books read by Marsha Mercant.
One of the most sobering and enlightening books I have read. Well worth your time if you are wanting to improve who you are and see yourself (and others) a little more clearly.
Fantastic. I thoroughly enjoyed this book. The author takes you inside the mind tricks we play to rationalize and justify our mistakes and bad behavior. I better understand why some, even myself, are willing to lie to others and to ourselves to maintain an image we want ourselves or others to believe.
I am a university professor & author. I teach courses in media theory & psychology. I live in the Pocono Mountains of Pennsylvania.
This is an excellent introduction to the literature in social psychology. The authors go on rants at points (Chapter 4 for example) that celebrate their particular points of view. There are some straw man arguments as well. Overall it is a very good text and worth reading.
All about how self-justification locks one into a self defeating cycle and how to get out of it. Highly recommend. It's our nature to self justify so we need to be vigilant against it. Others appreciate it more when one does.
I learned about myself justification in my relationships with others and I saw many samples in my Mormon church history where we play the victim and ignore contrary evidence that we were also, as Mormons, at fault. The leaders of the church in particular, made mistakes and then made excuses for bad behavior for hundreds of years.
This book made it clear why it was so easy for good people to justify really bad behavior. Like Joseph Smith taking provera wives of women who were already married to other man even married to non Mormons in the example of my great great great aunt Mary Elizabeth Rollins Lightner Smith Young.
This was an awesome audiobook, i really enjoyed listening too. I hope there are more.
Narrating was very very superb.
A really good look at how justification of our mistakes can lead to all sorts of bad outcomes. Every thing from the corporate world to the criminal justice system.