All about how self-justification locks one into a self defeating cycle and how to get out of it. Highly recommend. It's our nature to self justify so we need to be vigilant against it. Others appreciate it more when one does.
I learned about myself justification in my relationships with others and I saw many samples in my Mormon church history where we play the victim and ignore contrary evidence that we were also, as Mormons, at fault. The leaders of the church in particular, made mistakes and then made excuses for bad behavior for hundreds of years.
This book made it clear why it was so easy for good people to justify really bad behavior. Like Joseph Smith taking provera wives of women who were already married to other man even married to non Mormons in the example of my great great great aunt Mary Elizabeth Rollins Lightner Smith Young.
Not only did I find the dissadents theory, explained within, a logical and easy to understand theory, but the layout of this text made the gradual complexity of information a smooth and easy ride throughout. The anecdotes were awesome and will easily capture your attention, regardless of your opinions about the dissadents theory overall. Well worth it!
This work had many great anecdotes to explain how rampant self justification is amongst people. Almost all the logic in this book followed well for me.
I enjoyed the examples in public and personal lives through history , recent and not-so-recent, where people made mistakes, and either owned up and moved beyond them, or stayed in denial and avoided responsibility. I loved how the book covered international examples all the way down to interpersonal relationships with both good and bad examples of what the writers want to teach about cognitive dissonance. I highly recommend reading it with open eyes and reflecting how to live life better and more responsibly.
This book was written in a research style that dragged with redundancy at times. I liked most of the examples of denial & dissonance given, but some were lengthy & tedious. A closing summary of how to avoid becoming a major mistake maker in denial would have been helpful.
Avid reader of history, biography, and true crime.
This book explains cognitive dissonance and the related concept of self-justification. The research underpinning these theories is presented, with case examples which range from big political decisions which start wars to interpersonal conflicts which all of us deal with in our everyday lives. The easy and seductive part of the book is fitting the theories to the behaviour of people we know - it explains a lot. The tricky part is to keep reminding yourself that it is equally applicable to your own behaviour and may also explain a lot about you. With any luck it will help people to recognise their own mistakes and avoid making similar mistakes in future. Even if it doesn't change your life or improve your relationships, it's an interesting read and an easy way to learn some basic Psychology. Marsha Mercant has a very pleasant voice and does a very good job as narrator.
Faced with mindless duty, when an audio book player slips into a rear pocket and mini buds pop into ears, old is made new again.
“Mistakes Were Made” reminds one of Socrates’ wisdom; e.g. “I know something that I know nothing.” Self-awareness is the essence of wisdom. Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson, in “Mistakes Were Made”, challenge the foundation of social and physical sciences by questioning the integrity and correlation of human memory and truth.
Tavris and Aronson make one wonder about memories of childhood that influence one’s view of life. Tavris and Aronson question the truth of claims made by mature adults with recovered memories of parental abuse. They create a cognitive dissonance in readers who hear of alleged abuse of children by Catholic clergy or sexual abuse of daughters by fathers. One is thrown into confusion about truth; what to believe; who to blame.