I am someone who enjoys audible books very much now that they exist. As a young student (real young) I can remember a teacher telling me how books can transport people to different places & open up a whole new world. This is how listening to audible books make me feel. Now if I can just stop falling asleep while listening to them at night I would be fine. Ha ha
Although this book reads like a pschological text book it is no less facsinating in scope. It explains the phenomena of justifying ones actions in such a way that will free up a person from wasting their time arguing with others & give a real insight into why this happens to just about everyone. Like pshycholigist know so well, much of what we do is based on learned information. Having this kind of insight can only be of the highest help in dealing with others & with ourselves too. Praise, praise, praise for the educational value this book gives.
First off, I am sorely disappointed in some of the reviewers for failing to see beyond context. It's not about taking a side in politics, but about pulling out psychological phenomenon REGARDLESS of who ends up looking bad. Such is science. Science doesn't care about your politics it only cares about the truth. Clinton's foibles are brought in to play right alongside Bush's...again, science doesn't care about politics or making waves by uncovering things people would rather not deal with, it only cares about truth.
Cognitive Dissonance could probably be named as the driving force of humanity. And the driving force of the politically heated bad reviews.
As for this audiobook...it almost put me to sleep. The reader is absolutely terrible. She sounds like an automated computer. Sentences are run together such that you don't even feel the periods, paragraphs are in a monotone. It's not her voice that is unpleasant, it's the way she reads it. The paper version is engaging, this audiobook is not. You could have a better reader by letting your Kindle voice the words...ugh.
Save your money and make a note NOT to buy this or any other books read by Marsha Mercant.
This is a good book but it starts out with politics and a presumption that everyone feels the way the authors do, a common academic mistake - why do we make such mistakes? Anyhow, I think of the book frequently - getting past the politics, it was good.
This book's introduction speaks about American politics and the Watergate scandal, but instead of being a hook for me, it almost convinced me to swap to another book. Fortunately, I stuck it out and wound up listening to the whole thing in two sessions.
Using several different topics as frameworks, the authors work their way through many different aspects of how we delude ourselves and commit to mistakes. It is easy to follow and makes it simple to apply the lessons learned to your own mistakes. Genuinely interesting almost all of the way through with solid content and well-chosen examples, this is my best read in quite a while.
The narration occasionally switches between the male and female speaker and while this was initially distracting, it soon became natural and fitted well with the professional quality of the narration overall.
"They are right" In their minds, everyone is always right, and can't go back. If the authors had given more solutions, I would have given the book 5 stars. Even without solutions it is a great book that raises a great point.
Getting out of no, that mentions you need to create a golden bridge for the other party to retreat out of their position. Mistakes were made explains again and again why they will not go back, using the pyramid model to show how by taking small steps from a common point two people can end up having a huge wall between them.How to win friends, because it says: "don't complain nor criticize" and that people do not take blame for anything. The demon haunted world, because it talks about UFO abductions and cults.
The one with the couples, because it was one of the few sections that proposed solutions.
Why they will not go back.
I loved the female narrator's voice and style. It is so easy to listen to her, I will look for another book read by her.
Audible listener who's grateful for a long commute!
This book has a very interesting premise: that most of the problems we face in life are because we do not accept responsibility for our actions. People spend a great deal of time engaged in self-justification for hurtful actions.
One of the primary examples is what happened with the pre-school sex abuse scandals in the 90's. One of the most infamous started with accusations by a woman whom, it was later discovered, was mentally ill. Other parents at the school believed her, and children recounted improbable stories of abuse at the urging and direction of therapists and law enforcement.
"Mistakes Were Made" discusses the falibility of memory, and source confusion. In the example of the children making the accusations, leading questions became facts for the children. The same type of source confusion happens to adults.
When the therapists and law enforcement investigated the alleged abuse, they failed to notice that the children's stories were improbable. The investigators self-justified their failure to correlate the facts, and so many lives were ruined.
There is an extensive discussion of cognitive disonance, which is worth an entire book on its own. False memories are sometimes created to resolve cognitive disonance.
I did question the concept of "self-justification" as it applies to organizations, such as companies and countries. The authors treated those groups as if the groups were an individual entity. I didn't see any support for the position that a group somehow develops a consciousness and works to reduce cognitive disonance.
The performance was good. It's the first Audible Book I have listened to with two narrators that worked well.
This work had many great anecdotes to explain how rampant self justification is amongst people. Almost all the logic in this book followed well for me.
I enjoyed the examples in public and personal lives through history , recent and not-so-recent, where people made mistakes, and either owned up and moved beyond them, or stayed in denial and avoided responsibility. I loved how the book covered international examples all the way down to interpersonal relationships with both good and bad examples of what the writers want to teach about cognitive dissonance. I highly recommend reading it with open eyes and reflecting how to live life better and more responsibly.