Think that you are not a hoarder huh? Well, we all have too much stuff. A hoarder is not just a person who is on the TV show. Our lives are filled with big houses with stuff we do not need and it takes away from enjoying out lives. We have to work too hard etc. to try to impress neighbors and friends. Lots to be taken in while reading this book.
Not moved but realized when I was growing up we did not have a big house. Nor, did my mom buy me lots of clothes or stuff. All that stuff is not necessary. Really realizing that we sure do not need the stuff and clothes are not all that necessary. Streamlining is needed in our lives.
I read science, biographies, histories, mysteries, adventures, thrillers, educationals, linguistics but not no way, not no how, romances.
Here's the takeaway: this is a shocking and fascinating book. The authors are therapists who specialize in hoarding behavior and helping individuals overcome their compulsions. And what compulsions they are!The subjects in this book have collected so much stuff they don't know the size of their rooms, they forget whole rooms exist, they have to crawl to certain destinations, they put their health and marriages at risk, and they cannot stop.
You'll watch as the authors employ a series of creative treatments to try and mitigate the compulsions. Some succeed and some fail. What is most incredible is the chapter about childhood hoarding, proving the behavior can be inherited or learned. This is a short but amazing read, highly recommended.
I am a hoarder, but I could never quite explain my feelings and thoughts to my husband about this. He saw the clutter, the pain in my eyes and heard the claims of "I don't want to be this way," but he couldn't understand what was really happening. Now, I have a language in which to build a bridge between us. This book is so insightful without being condescending. I found myself nodding along repeatedly and pausing to share. I recommend it to anyone who hoards, knows a hoarder, or who wants to know more about this topic.
I am a wife of 30 years, mother of 4 wonderful grown children and a retired teacher....one of my new goals as I turn 50 this year is to become an author! I listen to one story on audible a week I am an addict!
This is my favorite ever Audible read! I so totally enjoyed it i listened to it 2 times! I was so intrigued by the vast amount of information and it was so well told! Absolutely fascinating!
The intricate descriptions of the hoarders piles and piles of possessions and the complete case studies of each case given, so interesting!
Very well read and never dull!
Yes and I pretty much did, i could not wait to get back to it when I had to put it down for a while, absolutely riveting!!
As the mother of a child who collects everything I found this so helpful to understand my adult child's thinking processes....it was monumental in our relationship!
Professional librarian type, amateur historian.
This is a sympathetic look at hoarders, looking into the details of why they have difficulty getting rid of 'stuff'. There are several individuals and families the authors mention and they are a diverse set of hoarders ranging from well to do hoarders who have piles of antiques and artwork to urban cat hoarders and hoarders who live in squalid falling down homes.
Listening to the book made me look at some of my own bad habits with stuff, material things (and electronic files), which is a different feeling than looking at the cable show "Hoarders". With the TV show I don't engage in self reflection and it's more like a freak show. Because the authors get deep into the 'why' and the struggles the hoarders grapple with, one can see small, but similar motivations in ourselves.
The authors also demonstrate the problem with what most may consider the simple solution of just forced clean ups. They provide examples of failed clean ups and the challenges that are faced. I had to stop listening at one point because I was completely grossed out during one clean up story. If dirt, filth, rats, dead cats, poop, and roaches, lots of roaches disturb you, you may not want to listen.
At the end there are resources mentioned to help people struggling or family members of people struggling with hoarding.
I must have misread the description of the book as I didn't expect this to be only about the issue of hoarding. I was expecting a behavioral and sociological book about our culture's obsessions with objects. This is only about those who have a clinically diagnosed case, and only tangentially mentions the DSM as it relates to those who have tendencies toward the collection of objects with uncontrolled personal control.
I rated the book a 3 because, as far as a story about hoarders goes, it was acceptable. The performance was impressive.
My mother is what I would describe a Pre-Hoarder. She is not SEVERE like the people in this book, but she could tip and head this way at any moment. I feel like I have better insite into her emotional connection with stuff, and I feel better prepared to lovingly steer her towards a path to recovery. Potentially a huge help.
But these examples are extreme! LOL. This was fascinating. I love how the mind works and to see that with hoarders there is no real explanation. As fascinating as it was, I was very uncomfortable when I got to Chapter 11. This described my husband and I to a tee. It motivated me to tell him exactly what I think and that if we don't get rid of a lot of his stuff and get my house back to a HOME that I keep clean and LIVE in, some serious consequences will occur. He got the message. We are working on it. I will pass this onto others that I know have similar issues.
It also gave me a different perspective on saving things...or collecting things. I am now afraid to do either. If it isn't used, get rid of it. Keep life simple, clean & neat.
A good read that I highly recommend, especially if you suspect you live with a hoarder.
I found that the authors focused on a couple of stories of people and I would have been more interested in the variety of issues encountered with hoarders, and more on the treatment of hoarding (which they barely touched on).