yes, I would listen to it again. I want to make sure that i get the references correct. I would want to make sure i could quote this book when giving insight to people who are thinking about divorce or getting married
it was not judging. it was providing a point of view of pros vs cons to help make a conscious decision in a relationship.
Yes, but it is better to let some sections sink in and think about before you go on.
I have been married to my present wife for sixteen years. Had i listened to this book earlier, i would have realized that she was more patient and willing than i gave her credit for. it allowed me to see that the decision whether my relationship was worth saving, wasnt mine to make. I think this book changed by attitude and thinking about how people treat one another. I'm glad I heard this book before my wife did. Saved me from a lot of embarrassment and pain.
This book is based on research with other couples and what types of issues in their relationships made them happy they separated or happy they stayed and worked on issues. I had just separated from my husband when I listened to this, so I had already made my decision, but this book made me feel more confident in myself and that decision. I really enjoyed the narrator's voice as well.
I'm still listening to this and I think even with these "diagnostics" it will take time to sort out my own feelings, but it really gives me a lot to think of. I felt relieved that I'm not the only one stuck in "relationship ambivalence" She shows how we slip into this place. Relationships can be confusing - she helps shed light on what's going on.
A lot of good things to think about in a more constructive way than just worrying.
Great book for getting closure on a relationship. If you have contemplated if you have made the right decision to end a relationship then this is the book for you.
I would definitely recommend this to anyone who is feeling ambivalent about a relationship. Unlike some other books that tend to make general claims and tell interesting stories, this book works you through a diagnostic process. It is not about weighting the pros and cons or about determining a deal breaker but about understanding factors that make a relationship worth keeping or leaving. Although most of the stories used to illustrate points are focused on women, the book would be equally helpful for men.
no real help
i just felt like they were giving confusing advice...you could answer yes to some questions, and they would say" oh, too good to leave" and then your next answer would be no, and they'd say" aww, too bad to stay!"....well which is it? that's what i get for expecting a stranger to tell me what to do!!