yes, I would listen to it again. I want to make sure that i get the references correct. I would want to make sure i could quote this book when giving insight to people who are thinking about divorce or getting married
it was not judging. it was providing a point of view of pros vs cons to help make a conscious decision in a relationship.
Yes, but it is better to let some sections sink in and think about before you go on.
I have been married to my present wife for sixteen years. Had i listened to this book earlier, i would have realized that she was more patient and willing than i gave her credit for. it allowed me to see that the decision whether my relationship was worth saving, wasnt mine to make. I think this book changed by attitude and thinking about how people treat one another. I'm glad I heard this book before my wife did. Saved me from a lot of embarrassment and pain.
This book is based on research with other couples and what types of issues in their relationships made them happy they separated or happy they stayed and worked on issues. I had just separated from my husband when I listened to this, so I had already made my decision, but this book made me feel more confident in myself and that decision. I really enjoyed the narrator's voice as well.
If you are plagued by the go or stay question, this book cuts through your own tortures and quickly gets to the point. It is fair to both staying and leaving. I found it very helpful.
I'm still listening to this and I think even with these "diagnostics" it will take time to sort out my own feelings, but it really gives me a lot to think of. I felt relieved that I'm not the only one stuck in "relationship ambivalence" She shows how we slip into this place. Relationships can be confusing - she helps shed light on what's going on.
A lot of good things to think about in a more constructive way than just worrying.
So you get through each question only to be told at the end of the book that if you have even one problem with your partner (that would be fixable or otherwise), then you should leave. Just one. I answered a couple that could be fixed with couples therapy but nooooo the book is suggesting I leave. I don't think relationships are as cut and dry as this. Maybe I'm missing the point of this book? It promised to give me clarity and I have gotten that with answering the questions and listening to the examples BUT what I learned and clarified doesn't seem to be congruent with what they suggest I do. What sucks is that my boyfriend is reading this book too...hopefully this won't be the end all because there's more good than bad in our relationship and things that could definitely be fixed. Story, good. Ending, not good.
If your stuck in the mud and feeling you can't get out, this book will help. You we be able digest all angles of your relationship, and decide to stay or go.
The book was a big help. Especially for someone like me who needs a way to clarify my decision. My only issue is the book starts off with stories about something she might do, or he might do to make u uncomfortable. Toward the end it is mostly things HE might do to make you uncomfortable.
I would love to see this book in a workbook format. I like the structure of the book because the author forces you to think and make decisions based on facts.
The narration of the book was excellent. The Narrator has a pleasant voice with proper tones and inflection.
I love the diagnostic questions and how it starts from really bad.. get out now diagnostics to its annoying but you can work on this diagnostics. very thorough and helped me figure out things I can work on!!
I saw myself in some of the behaviors that make a relationship too bad to stay. I assumed it would be pro woman point of view but it's very fair on both sides. I realize I also have a responsibility for this mess I call a relationship. Good wake up for me.