I loved Eat, Pray, Love.....it is incredible book that changed my perspective on a lot of things so of course I had to get this as soon as it was available. But I found this boring at times and I couldn't help but notice that she over used the word "more-over" which drove me nutty! That being said, I still love her narration...one of the best I've heard to date and I found certain stories/facts interesting and helpful. If you loved Eat, Pray, Love you should give this a chance and decide for yourself.
I loved "Eat, Pray, Love" so of course I had to know what happened after that story. My own story is nothing like Ms. Gilbert's. I have been married happily for 25+ years, but I learned much about the institution I did not know before in this book. As she discovers what marriage is and is not, she shares her insight with the rest of us. For me, it was both surprising and fascinating.
I really enjoyed her writing in Eat, Pray, Love - and I enjoy her way of telling a story so I was looking forward to this. Little did I know that I would be faced with the prospect of getting married for the first time, in my 40s, just as I was starting this book.
I am almost as ambivalent as Elizabeth was and this book calmed me down with facts as well as great narrative. I loved the stories about how women in other cultures view their husbands.
I'm sure I'll have to listen to this again for some reassurance that it CAN work. I know she said she really wrote the book for just a handful of the women in her life, but secretly, she wrote it for me too.
I LOVED this book. She has such a way with words, and to hear the actual author read her own book and her own story, made it extra special. I loved the history she includes about marriage, and the discussion of marriage in other cultures. I would highly recommend this book.
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This book initially caught my ear because I found Elizabeth's voice in the audio sample really soothing and wanted to hear more. The book is about the struggles of a modern woman's ideas of matrimony, and philosophical questions of what does a marriage and a good husband make. Yes, it's a very personal book, but since I recently got married myself, it spoke to me on a lot of levels. I've gone through the same musings and thoughts myself and given that the entire wedding industry is built around how magical and happy everything is supposed to be, it was good to hear that I'm not alone in being skeptical and afraid about entering marriage (despite my husband being anything a girl could ever wish for).
I wasn't the biggest fan of Eat, Pray, Love - and whether or not that was the case for you - please do not let that stop you from picking up this book if you are thinking about marriage or are already married. This was a wonderful listen, with just the right amount of history and research about the Institution (marriage that is) and personal anecdotes sprinkled throughout. Fascinating was Gilbert's discovery of a book called Subversion (chapter 7), a rather interesting text that claims marriage is actually revolution on a micro level - that while the ruling class has been trying to control the individual, they have never been able to control the almost universal impulse to cohabitate in pairs and get married. What goes on in the marital bed, the secret pillow talks, the shared intimacy, the privacy of a relationship - all of these are threats to those that want to control. This decision to choose one person, above all others, to share your life with is a personal revolution that will on some level, said or unsaid, upset family, friends, and anyone else with an agenda against you. This CONCEPT is revolutionary, and really appealed to the rebel within. And perhaps, for someone like me who never much liked the Institution in the first place, is just the kind of thing I needed to hear.
That being said, there's plenty said in the book against marriage - particularly for women. Less happiness, lower life expectancy, and if you happened to live in the 19th century a nifty legal concept called Coverture - whereupon marriage, a woman's legal rights ceased to exist. When you consider today's typical prenuptial agreement, especially in the case of the disadvantaged party (which often is the woman), not much has changed. Its maddening.
Another interesting tidbit, especially in light of the Pope's recent comments - Christianity has only very recently been a proponent of marriage - and only once the powers that be realized they could not stop people from cohabitating and marrying did this come to be. Originally celibacy & non marriage were heavily encouraged. If you can't beat em, join em, I guess.
I was disappointed in this book because it did not have the appeal or the flow of Eat, Pray, Love.
I did not find the details of what commitment is, and what love means to her presented in a way that held my attention. I think it would have benefitted from a good editor with a sharp red pen.