If you are on the fence about whether or not this book will help you, just remember: there are 18 parts to the clitorus. If you didn't already know that you need this book. Knowledge is power!
The audio book was outstanding. I thought I knew what I ding when it came down to pleasing a woman, but after listening to the book I discovered I wasn't even touching the surface. She Comes First is eye opening to the mature minded man who goal is to please his woman.
Thought it was great...
30+ IT/Geek Male. Used to read lots, but now the "reading" is best done via audible.
The book might be required here. I don't know if there are any illustrations in the book, but I find that by text alone this is not the greatest of investments. It has some common sense ideas, but the narrator's voice, while that of the author (great in that regard) has this very Fran Dresher Nasal type voice. So, I hit the performance score low.
I think that if you got the book, and wanted to "read by listening" your first time thru it's great. But plan on buying the book, (and not a kindle text only version) if you want to get it's full benefit.
really, wow, ready
Paying more attention to her body language is one big part. This book completely changed our oral relationship. I can't say enough about this book.
After listening to this book I felt like I had true insight into this subject. While this is a very good start, it shows you how far a person can go to understanding a woman's beautiful parts.
There is one idea I will remember from "She Comes First". Women enjoy cunnilingus.
Ian does a decent job of rounding out the book with general knowledge of sexuality. However, the major focus of his work is detailing the art/science of orally stimulating a woman's genitalia.
Purchase this book to learn about cunnilingus.
Personally, I've enjoyed this book. And my partner looks forward to the application of my new found knowledge.
Have not read it as I do not have time in my busy schedule to read
How the authour brings to his audience , How to steps to giving real pleasure to his/or her partner
This book I had seen in Transformers, revenge of the fallen and was Intrigued to know what the title actually meant, I learned so many techniques that, i have actually applied to my own life in gving my partner multiple, Os, She is extremely greatful,i read this aswe are ten times closer now
Not just anyone part,but many parts, I learned alot of things about the female anntomy, I never knew before
This is a great listen and recommend every man read this book if You, truly want to be a giver and not just a receiver.
I'm only halfway through the first part of this book, but it's already worth both the time and money spent on it. Why? The author is an expert (clinical sexologist) but also was a literature or English undergrad major, and this comes through in the writing. I don't know if there was a ghost writer who helped, but this reads ("sounds") like a fun narrative. I'm learning very important info--already want to give copies to all of my friends--but I am just struck by the quality of the writing. And, you may wonder as I did, how can you have a whole book on one technique--how much could there be to say? But I'm not even at techniques (part II, I think), but have already benefitted immensely from the eye-opening historical references, the re-think what you thought you knew info, and contexualization of the art of oral sex within the larger landscape of human relations, cultural misguidance, etc. Maybe someone else would do what the author asks/persuades the reader not to do--go to the technique chapters first--and not like the intro material and the anatomical summaries and explanations, but I can see the purpose for it. But mostly, I just have to say this is beautiful writing. I struggle to write (am a licensed psychologist who does and tries to write about research) and am so envious of the clarify and engaging style of the writer. So, even if you have no interest in learning this technique--and, yes the whole book does appear to be about this one technique--it is such an engaging and creative and rich read, that I bet it could be appreciated just for its quality of prose.
None so far--just the revelation that writers have been trying to share the point of this book with the world since the Greeks' first written word, and yet in our performance-driven, androcentric, and misogynous world we have come to accept and belief myths about sexuality that must be the devils work. For by believing that intercourse is the primary mode of sexual engagement, so many of us lose the opportunity to be really happy--not just satisfied sexually, but satisfied in our capacity to give and not just consume orgasm.
Sounds like a friend of mine reading it. Reader sounds sincere.
The value (sense of personal achievement, empowerment, control, and goodness) of being willing and able to focus on satisfying my wife, and the encouragement that my lack of ability to do so in the past is not "my fault" but the result of cultural misguidance. I felt like my experience was normalized in the text and that any misconception that I could not satisfy my wife in this way is nonsense.
Man am I excited to get into part II and put this into action. But, consistent with the main premise of the book, I will be patient. I will take the time to understand the anatomical and philosophical basis of the power of the techniques in part II, knowing this patience will be rewarded. Once I read a tried to rush the use of a bed-wetting device because I was so excited to help my son. But by not introducing it to him fully and being patient, his first experience with it was traumatic. It took several more months of bedwetting before he consented to try again. I won't make this mistake again. I will be patient, try to learn, understand, and appreciate the technique in the larger context, and I am confident there will be a royal payoff.
I like the audio version because I'm able to listen with out taking time out to stop and read.
I haven't read many from this type of genre
Taking care of you woman
Yes and no. i want to try it on my wife while reading but you can not have your cake and eat it also
I love a bokk that I can learn from.
Yes, as I have lived by the ideal of this book and thought I knew it all, but even I learned something new and learned why what I already knew worked so well.
Thank you to the author and publisher.