This is a book about triumph. How a young boy took his abused childhood and fashioned it into a key. A key which would not only unlock the mysteries of predicting violence, but, more importantly, would help victims unlock the invisible, psychological chains which keeps them strangely in submission to their abuser.
Learn to identify warning signals early.
Learn to identify the tactics used by those who would seek to control or harm you.
Learn to identify true fear signals from it's counterfeit, worry.
The information in this book is invaluable, not only for those in an abusive relationship, but for all who wish to hone their skills and understand human nature to higher degree.I will have my children read it. Would make a great gift for girl going away to college! Many reasons to read this book and I think the author for writing it.
This was assigned for a targeted violence and threat assessment class and I really enjoyed it. It helped me understand that what I need to know is already in me and to just pay attention.
I grew up in a similar type of childhood as the author. I, too, became a successful professional. I am grateful that he was able to articulate not only the challenges that many of us face, but the impact that positive adults can have on those children that are growing up in difficult situations.
I recently took a course to be a sexual assault nurse examiner and the Washington State educators out of Harborview suggested this book. (I was actually told many years ago by our security department to read this book and never did) ...and now I'm very glad that I bought this book and have read it. I will read this many times over and I will also pass it onto my daughters as well as other women in my community.
The best advice on dealing with a stalking boyfriend and trusting intuition. Nice does not equal good. People with bad intentions are most insistent.
I love that I am able to read again, even in my busy life. Thanks Audible!!
There is a lot of decent information in this book, and there were parts that were pretty interesting. There are a couple of points that really turned me off periodically throughout.
1) He focuses almost solely on violence against women. A lot of the lessons can be incorporated for use by men, but it was pretty clear to me that the audience for this book is women.
2) The sound quality is pretty terrible at times. Sometimes it seems he is right up on the mike, and at other times (sometimes in the same paragraph) it seems he is in another room altogether. It was very distracting.
3) This is the abridged version.
There are pros though. He talked about understanding control, and how to maintain it, and once you give control up, it is hard (if not impossible) to get it back. There are definitely lessons here, but I would almost recommend Malcom Gladwell's "Blink" in its place. They are different, but similar enough.
Insightful. Alarming. Helpful.
This book gives the listener a sense of belief in one's inner intuitive power. Gavin de Becker is incredible in providing his own painful personal history as well as connecting that history with clues that can help all of us be present and protect ourselves through the primitive instincts we have.
None. he is very connective.
Realizing that he has survived a tortured past.
Recording quality was less than satisfactory. Not sure if it was only my copy.