You'll look at fear differently. It will help you listen to intuition more and most surprisingly you will learn that worry is unnecessary.
The takeaway that I should trust my instincts/intuition more.
The stories, particularly the first story about the woman with the groceries.
I have not listened to or read his other books.
That our instincts/intuition are often right, we just need to learn how to listen to them and not override them with our rational minds.
I would like to hear an updated version of this book and maybe it could talk about how to listen to your instinct when it isn't just ones life or possessions on the line. For instance, I downloaded this book because I had just encountered a man who had been lying to me about who knows how many things, and in the end he took off with some of my possessions. I feel like there must have been signs, I just wasn't sure how to look for them at the time.
The naration is a bit dry, but this isn't a fictitious story or emotional drama. The information is very straight forward, and relevant to how we live. There are terrific self checks as well as some self help. I enjoyed it overall, and have suggested it to several friends already.
Not what I thought when I ordered it but found great pearls of wisdom
The Gift of Fear
If you change your perception of the word "charm" from an adjective to a verb, your instincts will become much more acute.
I.e. Instead of saying he/she is charming, think instead... He/she is trying to charm me. Instinctively it will beg the next question of, "why?"
The reasons may be innocent but you are less likely to be taken advantage of in the long run.
No must never be a word that is negotiated.
No is a complete sentence.
No must be said with conviction.
To worry oneself is a form of self harassment.
This book is great for everyone, although the focus of the book is generally about women because of the statistics on violence against women. Don't let that scare you away if you are a male interested. The book gives you real life cues to look out for when interacting with anyone from a stranger or someone well known like a husband- red flags that are precursors to violence and how to deal with them. Tips on how to explicitly say NO and the importance of doing so. The only reason I won't give it 5 stars is because it's the abridged version so there is some missing information and stories that would have made this complete.
This book was for a psychology class I will be taking and I honestly thought it was going to be boring but Gavin De Becker is such an amazing writer that he explained everything so well and made it possible for me to understand. It's definitely worth your time because you'll certainly finish the book having learned new things that will be useful in life.
learn to trust your intuition. intuition is a tool we have that helps us predict human behavior. although not logical, trusting your "gut" can save your life in a dangerous situation
So much great information presented. I have listened to this book over 15 times. Every time I walk away with more information. I have recommended this to friends and family and I am so excited when they learn from it as well.
The story at the very beginning draws you in immediately and then spending the next chapter breaking that experience down and learning from it.
Easy to listen to. Appreciate the emotions.
I apply principles taught in the Gift of Fear daily. I use it as I hire, discipline, and fire employees. In my dating life. And when walking through the parking lot at the grocery store.
This book is a must have item. It should be required reading for your people, college students, and adults on the job.
This is the third time I have read this book. De Becker's insights on the traits displayed by violent personalities are a powerful insight to have on hand. It is a reference I use in classes I teach in personal protection. Especially important for the Ladies, are his review of how a stranger should act around you, and the warning signs to look for.
While reinforcing the trust factor where your intuition is concerned, he also reminds us that it is important not to worry about every situation, every day.
Trust your instincts.