This is an amazing book that opens up a whole new way of thinking about fear. I'f you have children, it's a must read; along with protecting the gift by the same author. The authors practical good sense approach to this suject of fear, feels right. Any reader ever faced with real danger in their lives will instantly understand that he understands. Time and money well spent.
This is a very good book on human behavior and subtle clues on danger and using your intuition as a source of information, rather than denying it. Very valuable information and well presented.
I have this in paper back, audio cd, and ipod.
This man has done his homework. It is almost an instruction manual on awareness. Very intense is the author in his presentation to equip and educate. I have given this book to many of my friends and they share with their friends.
Took me a while to get into this but it was well worth the effort. Offers very good examples of how to recognize a real risk, and how to not agonize over the ones that we create in our heads. Especially good for women and teenage girls. I wish I had known all of this 20 yrs ago.
Not what I thought when I ordered it but found great pearls of wisdom
The Gift of Fear
If you change your perception of the word "charm" from an adjective to a verb, your instincts will become much more acute.
I.e. Instead of saying he/she is charming, think instead... He/she is trying to charm me. Instinctively it will beg the next question of, "why?"
The reasons may be innocent but you are less likely to be taken advantage of in the long run.
No must never be a word that is negotiated.
No is a complete sentence.
No must be said with conviction.
To worry oneself is a form of self harassment.
This author has a great, humane spirit, and freely shares his own life experience. He's admirable. I wish there was much more practical info, I.e. Body language that suggests volatile behavior.
This book is great for everyone, although the focus of the book is generally about women because of the statistics on violence against women. Don't let that scare you away if you are a male interested. The book gives you real life cues to look out for when interacting with anyone from a stranger or someone well known like a husband- red flags that are precursors to violence and how to deal with them. Tips on how to explicitly say NO and the importance of doing so. The only reason I won't give it 5 stars is because it's the abridged version so there is some missing information and stories that would have made this complete.
This book was for a psychology class I will be taking and I honestly thought it was going to be boring but Gavin De Becker is such an amazing writer that he explained everything so well and made it possible for me to understand. It's definitely worth your time because you'll certainly finish the book having learned new things that will be useful in life.
learn to trust your intuition. intuition is a tool we have that helps us predict human behavior. although not logical, trusting your "gut" can save your life in a dangerous situation
So much great information presented. I have listened to this book over 15 times. Every time I walk away with more information. I have recommended this to friends and family and I am so excited when they learn from it as well.
The story at the very beginning draws you in immediately and then spending the next chapter breaking that experience down and learning from it.
Easy to listen to. Appreciate the emotions.
I apply principles taught in the Gift of Fear daily. I use it as I hire, discipline, and fire employees. In my dating life. And when walking through the parking lot at the grocery store.