The book is written in a sort of epidemic/crisis format- very much encouraging the reader to take this matter seriously, with useful tips for parents of young boys. Sadly, it doesn't provide much help for how to handle adult men who are the result of these "five factors." Much of the analysis surrounds the formative years of a boy's life, encouraging parents to find a school that fits their son, rather than trying to make their son fit a school. The author discourages use of medication for ADHD, drinking out of bottles that contain certain types of plastic, and using video games and computer time as a substitute for real-life learning and experience.
I do not have children, but I still found this book to be extremely interesting, and I'm looking forward to listening to other books by this author. The narration was very good too.
I recommended this book to my friends who are teachers, and/or who have sons. For those who aren't directly concerned with boys and young men today- I don't know how interesting you'll find the book.
I was stunned to listen to the author's findings. I hope that perhaps more of our educators and parents will read/listen to this book. The idea that we have created an environment which will or has changed our future men into future milktoasts is depressing. But, the author does give us ideas for change and room to hope.
It provided some interesting ideas and theories as to why we have such a large number of unmotivated boys in today's society. As the mother of a 2 year boy it gave me a different perspective of ways to help continue to make learning fun for him. I did like the part about a separate school for boys only (there has always been more of this focus of a female segregated school and less on boys only education environment). Unfortunately, there are very few schools nearby who offer this
It's sort of a combination of a Malcolm Gladwell-style popular science book and a parenting technique book. A good combination.
I thought the discussion of male role models - and the lack thereof - in our society was quite moving and useful
The way that video games can sap motivation by providing a false sense of accomplishment.
A useful, if slightly scary book. A must read for parents of sons.
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I would encourage any parent of boy(s) or young men to listen to this. Well worth the money and time spent.
I loved [perhaps loved being enlightened about] the part about our schools/teachers pushing kids away from trade schools toward college. My father wanted better things for me like college.
College isn't right for all boys and face it, plumber's jobs can't be moved to India like computer programmer's.
While I usually read/listen mostly SciFi and Urban Fantasy this might be the best book I have listened to yet!
This is a fascinating insight into the "boys who should be men" (failure to launch) phenomenon. Dr Sax presents a truck load of statistics and data to support his real-world experience with the boys of today. I found the book immensely useful in understanding the drifting generation of underachieving, under-motivated men in our society. I think for any parent of boys this is a "must read". Throughout the book, Dr Sax points out the problems and gives corrective action recommendations, which I think are poignant, savvy and useful for educators and parents alike.
Professional and appropriate for the subject.
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Message is clear, well organized, and offers useful information and thought-provoking questions for all concerned with this serious social problem - presented in factual, constructive and encouraging spirit.
I have a long commute and audible books allow me to read while I drive.
This book spoke directly to me. I felt as if Dr. Sax was writing about my son. So many of the issues that my wife and I faced were addressed in this book. He addresses issues like red shirting, ADHA drugs, video games and plastic bottles. We've all questioned the harmful effects of video games, but there are many harmful things we never consider...like plastic bottles and more.
This book was compelling because I realized that this is a widespread problem. It addresses a common and growing problem in American boys and provides guidance to deal with it.
While his voice was deep and interesting, Malcolm's tone made Dr. Sax seem arrogant. Then again, it may have been the words and not the voice. The voice just seemed a little too intense. The subject matter requires a warmer voice.
Dealing with the growing epidemic of unmotivated boys and lazy young men
I wish Dr. Sax had written this book years earlier. I would have been a different parent had I read this book 15 years ago.
There are five key factors that affect the motivation of boys. It is important to know what they are and what you can do about it.
Nothing to change.
Excellent reader. This could have been a challenge, because this kind of book is sometimes read as matter of fact, but the reader knew how to render the tone of the book.
Kids and especially boys still need to learn by experimenting (kennen). It is therefore important to let them participate in activities such as boys scouts or hunting and fishing and not just learn wikipedia by heart.
I am not sure how realistic some of these recommendations really are, but considering the importance of the task at hand, you cannot abdicate without even trying. I also found that the recommendation to approach a teacher or school as a group of parents vs. alone was very wise.