It's sort of a combination of a Malcolm Gladwell-style popular science book and a parenting technique book. A good combination.
I thought the discussion of male role models - and the lack thereof - in our society was quite moving and useful
The way that video games can sap motivation by providing a false sense of accomplishment.
A useful, if slightly scary book. A must read for parents of sons.
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I would encourage any parent of boy(s) or young men to listen to this. Well worth the money and time spent.
I loved [perhaps loved being enlightened about] the part about our schools/teachers pushing kids away from trade schools toward college. My father wanted better things for me like college.
College isn't right for all boys and face it, plumber's jobs can't be moved to India like computer programmer's.
While I usually read/listen mostly SciFi and Urban Fantasy this might be the best book I have listened to yet!
This is a fascinating insight into the "boys who should be men" (failure to launch) phenomenon. Dr Sax presents a truck load of statistics and data to support his real-world experience with the boys of today. I found the book immensely useful in understanding the drifting generation of underachieving, under-motivated men in our society. I think for any parent of boys this is a "must read". Throughout the book, Dr Sax points out the problems and gives corrective action recommendations, which I think are poignant, savvy and useful for educators and parents alike.
Professional and appropriate for the subject.
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Message is clear, well organized, and offers useful information and thought-provoking questions for all concerned with this serious social problem - presented in factual, constructive and encouraging spirit.
I have a long commute and audible books allow me to read while I drive.
This book spoke directly to me. I felt as if Dr. Sax was writing about my son. So many of the issues that my wife and I faced were addressed in this book. He addresses issues like red shirting, ADHA drugs, video games and plastic bottles. We've all questioned the harmful effects of video games, but there are many harmful things we never consider...like plastic bottles and more.
This book was compelling because I realized that this is a widespread problem. It addresses a common and growing problem in American boys and provides guidance to deal with it.
While his voice was deep and interesting, Malcolm's tone made Dr. Sax seem arrogant. Then again, it may have been the words and not the voice. The voice just seemed a little too intense. The subject matter requires a warmer voice.
Dealing with the growing epidemic of unmotivated boys and lazy young men
I wish Dr. Sax had written this book years earlier. I would have been a different parent had I read this book 15 years ago.
There are five key factors that affect the motivation of boys. It is important to know what they are and what you can do about it.
Nothing to change.
Excellent reader. This could have been a challenge, because this kind of book is sometimes read as matter of fact, but the reader knew how to render the tone of the book.
Kids and especially boys still need to learn by experimenting (kennen). It is therefore important to let them participate in activities such as boys scouts or hunting and fishing and not just learn wikipedia by heart.
I am not sure how realistic some of these recommendations really are, but considering the importance of the task at hand, you cannot abdicate without even trying. I also found that the recommendation to approach a teacher or school as a group of parents vs. alone was very wise.
I do not bother to rate many books but this one should be on your short list of books to read/listen to. If you have kids on the top of that list.
Yes, this audiobook helped me to understand a strange social phenomenon that I have observed in the young men of my generation and younger. As a highly motivated young woman, guys who are content with apparent laziness baffle me. I may not agree with everything Dr. Sax has to say, but he certainly presents some thought-provoking ideas. The book sheds new light on a situation I previously thought was cut and dry.
A trivial man
The audio book equivalent of an old man shaking his fist and yelling, "You kids get off my lawn". The author ignores the modern evidence that competition is the gateway drug to societal violence and longs for schools to return to a time when boys were real boys, girls were real girls, and ugly scary pedophile gym teachers were real ugly scary pedophile gym teachers.
The author would have kids abandon their modern video devices and return to the good old days of throwing rocks at each other. (Though maybe even the rocks would be a bad idea, lest the kids start banging them together and discover the Douglas Adam secret to becoming intelligent life.)
Unless you're looking for a read(listen) that will remind you why Luddites are getting increasingly hard to find in this modern world, don't waste your time.
If you are looking for a book to spark discussion and debate in your book club, This is it! Our Church has become very involved trying to solve the problem of our young boys needing mentors. Great Book! Give it a chance!