This is a fascinating insight into the "boys who should be men" (failure to launch) phenomenon. Dr Sax presents a truck load of statistics and data to support his real-world experience with the boys of today. I found the book immensely useful in understanding the drifting generation of underachieving, under-motivated men in our society. I think for any parent of boys this is a "must read". Throughout the book, Dr Sax points out the problems and gives corrective action recommendations, which I think are poignant, savvy and useful for educators and parents alike.
Professional and appropriate for the subject.
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Message is clear, well organized, and offers useful information and thought-provoking questions for all concerned with this serious social problem - presented in factual, constructive and encouraging spirit.
I have a long commute and audible books allow me to read while I drive.
This book spoke directly to me. I felt as if Dr. Sax was writing about my son. So many of the issues that my wife and I faced were addressed in this book. He addresses issues like red shirting, ADHA drugs, video games and plastic bottles. We've all questioned the harmful effects of video games, but there are many harmful things we never consider...like plastic bottles and more.
This book was compelling because I realized that this is a widespread problem. It addresses a common and growing problem in American boys and provides guidance to deal with it.
While his voice was deep and interesting, Malcolm's tone made Dr. Sax seem arrogant. Then again, it may have been the words and not the voice. The voice just seemed a little too intense. The subject matter requires a warmer voice.
Dealing with the growing epidemic of unmotivated boys and lazy young men
I wish Dr. Sax had written this book years earlier. I would have been a different parent had I read this book 15 years ago.
There are five key factors that affect the motivation of boys. It is important to know what they are and what you can do about it.
Nothing to change.
Excellent reader. This could have been a challenge, because this kind of book is sometimes read as matter of fact, but the reader knew how to render the tone of the book.
Kids and especially boys still need to learn by experimenting (kennen). It is therefore important to let them participate in activities such as boys scouts or hunting and fishing and not just learn wikipedia by heart.
I am not sure how realistic some of these recommendations really are, but considering the importance of the task at hand, you cannot abdicate without even trying. I also found that the recommendation to approach a teacher or school as a group of parents vs. alone was very wise.
I do not bother to rate many books but this one should be on your short list of books to read/listen to. If you have kids on the top of that list.
Yes, this audiobook helped me to understand a strange social phenomenon that I have observed in the young men of my generation and younger. As a highly motivated young woman, guys who are content with apparent laziness baffle me. I may not agree with everything Dr. Sax has to say, but he certainly presents some thought-provoking ideas. The book sheds new light on a situation I previously thought was cut and dry.
A trivial man
The audio book equivalent of an old man shaking his fist and yelling, "You kids get off my lawn". The author ignores the modern evidence that competition is the gateway drug to societal violence and longs for schools to return to a time when boys were real boys, girls were real girls, and ugly scary pedophile gym teachers were real ugly scary pedophile gym teachers.
The author would have kids abandon their modern video devices and return to the good old days of throwing rocks at each other. (Though maybe even the rocks would be a bad idea, lest the kids start banging them together and discover the Douglas Adam secret to becoming intelligent life.)
Unless you're looking for a read(listen) that will remind you why Luddites are getting increasingly hard to find in this modern world, don't waste your time.
If you are looking for a book to spark discussion and debate in your book club, This is it! Our Church has become very involved trying to solve the problem of our young boys needing mentors. Great Book! Give it a chance!
It is simply not proper or ethical to put all of those little boys on speed. The author makes a case that the speed that we put these kids on actually destroys or desensitizes the parts of the brain that control motivation. Personally, I think that there is plenty of anecdotal evidence to back him up. If someone was willing to do the research there would be plenty of statistical evidence also, but prescribing medication is seen as a simple and cost effective solution to make a teachers job easier, and doctors aren't going to go out of their way to prove that the methods they have used for the past 3 decades and still currently use are devastating the neural structures of the poor children whose neural structures have been devastated by these chemicals. Besides, handing out speed to kindergartners is a big business. It's a big business for the school psychologist who diagnose the kids with ADHD, it's big business for the pediatricians or psychiatrists who give the prescriptions, and it's big business for the pharmaceutical companies that produce the pills. So you'd better believe that none of these entities involved in the ADHD craze are going to go out of there way to produce a shred of evidence to debunk the whole charade. They want your children to be zombies, whatever happens when the kid turns 18 doesn't matter to them, they won't have to deal with him at that point, but when he is five or six they want a little boy who will sit in a chair and that's all, even if that's all he does. When he becomes an ambitionless man he will be gone from kindergarten by that time, so he's not their problem. Also the author is right. We have a neutered society. It has lost it's balls to feminism and political correctness, but oh well.
This was a wonderful book. I've read and listened to many books about raising girls, but I had never seen a good book that focused on boys today. This book has led to many thoughtful conversations about boys and young men. I highly recommend this book to parents, women dating men who just seem unmotivated, or anyone else interested in understanding some of the problems facing boys in America today.