I do not bother to rate many books but this one should be on your short list of books to read/listen to. If you have kids on the top of that list.
Yes, this audiobook helped me to understand a strange social phenomenon that I have observed in the young men of my generation and younger. As a highly motivated young woman, guys who are content with apparent laziness baffle me. I may not agree with everything Dr. Sax has to say, but he certainly presents some thought-provoking ideas. The book sheds new light on a situation I previously thought was cut and dry.
A trivial man
The audio book equivalent of an old man shaking his fist and yelling, "You kids get off my lawn". The author ignores the modern evidence that competition is the gateway drug to societal violence and longs for schools to return to a time when boys were real boys, girls were real girls, and ugly scary pedophile gym teachers were real ugly scary pedophile gym teachers.
The author would have kids abandon their modern video devices and return to the good old days of throwing rocks at each other. (Though maybe even the rocks would be a bad idea, lest the kids start banging them together and discover the Douglas Adam secret to becoming intelligent life.)
Unless you're looking for a read(listen) that will remind you why Luddites are getting increasingly hard to find in this modern world, don't waste your time.
If you are looking for a book to spark discussion and debate in your book club, This is it! Our Church has become very involved trying to solve the problem of our young boys needing mentors. Great Book! Give it a chance!
It is simply not proper or ethical to put all of those little boys on speed. The author makes a case that the speed that we put these kids on actually destroys or desensitizes the parts of the brain that control motivation. Personally, I think that there is plenty of anecdotal evidence to back him up. If someone was willing to do the research there would be plenty of statistical evidence also, but prescribing medication is seen as a simple and cost effective solution to make a teachers job easier, and doctors aren't going to go out of their way to prove that the methods they have used for the past 3 decades and still currently use are devastating the neural structures of the poor children whose neural structures have been devastated by these chemicals. Besides, handing out speed to kindergartners is a big business. It's a big business for the school psychologist who diagnose the kids with ADHD, it's big business for the pediatricians or psychiatrists who give the prescriptions, and it's big business for the pharmaceutical companies that produce the pills. So you'd better believe that none of these entities involved in the ADHD craze are going to go out of there way to produce a shred of evidence to debunk the whole charade. They want your children to be zombies, whatever happens when the kid turns 18 doesn't matter to them, they won't have to deal with him at that point, but when he is five or six they want a little boy who will sit in a chair and that's all, even if that's all he does. When he becomes an ambitionless man he will be gone from kindergarten by that time, so he's not their problem. Also the author is right. We have a neutered society. It has lost it's balls to feminism and political correctness, but oh well.
This was a wonderful book. I've read and listened to many books about raising girls, but I had never seen a good book that focused on boys today. This book has led to many thoughtful conversations about boys and young men. I highly recommend this book to parents, women dating men who just seem unmotivated, or anyone else interested in understanding some of the problems facing boys in America today.
I found this book to be a very helpful insight into the challenges facing our boys and young men.
For as long as I can remember, we have raised our boys/young men with the mindset of "Boys Will Be Boys", but in this day and age, we really need to pay attention to the "issues" and "challenges" facing our young men.
"Boys Adrift" will help you to realize what they are facing and what we can do to help.
This is one of the best books and overviews of the distressing state of our boys and young men in this country. There's a lot of work to do, but there are solutions, and this books offers up some great ones!
We need to take it seriously how our young men are losing ground and that something has to be done!
I highly recommend this book!
Definitely brings up many topics I want to research further. Bottom line is – there are many factors that affect our boys that need to be considered. Understanding gender differences may not solve everything, but might help in certain (aspects of) cases. I am looking forward to “reading” other works by this author.
Great book for insight on the ways boys think. I teach high school (mostly freshman), and I also have a nine-year-old son. I wonder how much video game play is appropriate, how to motivate my son and male students to want to achieve academically, and how to stay connected with my son. Dr. Sax picks up where Why Gender Matters left off. It's definitely worth the read.