I decided to listen as I have noticed this trend in young males. It gives some interesting information, but doesn't really address what you do if you already have a teenager. Better written for people with younger kids.
Excellent book, subject matter topical, and performance was excellent.
The information in general but I think what took me by surprise the most was the plastic bottle information and the environmental estrogens. I don't tend to buy into a lot of the reported "studies" but that seem to have a lot of merit.
No I haven't kinda new to the audio book experience.
If you have a boy get this book!!!
It was an excellent book. I think it should be read by anybody who has boys or who works with boys (educators coaches etc.). I could see my nephew in a lot that was illustrated. The only issue I had was the critism on video games. I don't think its a cause of the lack of motivation but more of a reaction to the other issues that lead to lack of motivation. Which Dr. Sax did kind of touched on but didn't expound on. I have a neice who's very motivated, honor student, athlete and who loves to play Call of Duty. Her brother is a case study of lack of motivation but his playing is to fill in the times he can't figure out what to do. As an outsider watching the parenting of boys in families of relatives and friends I see so many mixed messages given to the young boys today. Their families want them to be boys full of energy and toughness and the schools don't tolerate the adage boys will be boys and punish them for it if it surfaces. I was very glad to see Dr Sax address the problem very well, and why I have already recommended the book to all the teachers and administrators I know.
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I think the narration quality was top notch; didn't appreciate the character he injected into the section where Sax quotes a variety of listener emails he received.
Unless he revises his theory on how to help "boys adrift", no. Sax brings to light some serious issues that are contributing to boys "checking out" and "failing to launch" but, I feel, only penetrates the surface. I found his final chapter, where he outlines a possible solution to the problem, disturbing. His response to the boy epidemic boils down to shaming ie. "You're a big boy now, time to leave the video games behind."
Again, I think Sax has done a great thing and a wonderful job of shining a light on the state of boys in 2013, but he's not asking the essential questions. In regards to the lack of motivation around boys in school - perhaps being forced to attend could have *something* to do with it? The Unschooling movement has developed some great thinking in this area that helps address the plight of both genders, and offers an alternative that isn't actually new, but old! Before the prison we call "public schools" was developed, all children were essentially given much more free reign to learn what they wanted and exercise their natural volition as a human being. Sax, based on this reading, is entirely pro public school which is disheartening.
He barely grazes the surface of how the ideology of Feminism has demonized masculinity - this is another important factor in exploring "boys adrift."
Overall: An okay book on a serious issue in society that is *not* getting enough attention - but ultimately drops the ball by supporting public schools, not shining more of a light on how parenting can effect the motivation of boys, and ends up patronizing and shaming the very subject of the book. Maybe this topic is just too hard for an older generation to observe clearly. I highly recommend the work of Dr. Warren Farrell for a more comprehensive look at boys and men today.
ps. *way* too much pandering to a female audience and female issues. You could fill a library with literature that addresses Female Oppression. Considering the severity of Men's Oppression, and society's nearly total ignorance of it, we need all the focus and empathy to be on men if we want positive movement to occur.
Adopted a more objective, balanced tone when offering the ideas of the book - but this fault might lay more with the author.
Cut the feedback emails back a whole bunch - it went on and on (phew!).
A must listen for anyone who would like to understand teenage boys better and what makes them tick. It was well written and easy to listen to.
First, just about everyone will find that this book directly relates to them or a close relationship in their lives--a son, brother, boyfriend, husband, etc. I really like what this author has done. As a scientist, books in this genre often irritate me, because many authors promote a certain viewpoint--"the answer", and cherry-pick or skew the research and anecdotes presented to sell that veiwpoint to you.
But here, the author is a researcher who seems to sincerely care about the problem and suffering created, and he has spent years working logically to try and understand the causes. He presents research and compares interesting examples from all over the world and from a broad range of studies. He doesn't focus on one great answer, but presents compelling evidence supporting a range of factors contributing to the problem.
From one chapter to the next you become convinced, yes! That is "the" answer. But in the next chapter you say, wait. That is also the answer! I think that's the difference between real science versus a biased author promoting a viewpoint/agenca.
The book is very also very entertaining and listenable. Its not one of those where I have to rewind over and over to try to weed through the complexities. I think the knowledge will be new and valuable to a great many people.
Leonard Sax provides a detailed and original analysis of the problems facing boys and young men nowadays. I found his study to be audacious and practical at the same time. His thoughts are daring especially when he addresses the issue of gender in our society. I especially liked the last chapter where he describes practical solutions to address the problems facing boys.
I found this to be very practical and informative and easy to listen. I would recommend it to the parent of any boy.
I enjoyed listening to the first half of this book, but there was too much opinion in the second half. The book did little to add to my understanding of teenagers and there was very little inforation that could be used to change a teenager's behaviour.
Interesting ideas, but the author is a crack pot. This problem has been around since the beginning of recorded history. It just manifests itself in different forms depending on culture and what's popular at that point in history. In fact, from my observations, i think children, teenagers and young adults today are more well behaved and respectful than anytime in the past 50 years that i can remember. Lenny is definitely a master at misusing statistics and emotional string pulling. I stopped counting how many times he jumped to a conclusion from carefully selected pieces of information. Contradicted himself numerous times. The reading of the angry e-mails from man-hating females (who also contradicted themselves) to prove his point was beyond ridiculous. That being said, he is 100% spot on with promoting segregated male-female education. Unfortunately, with Lenny championing this cause it has little hope of succeeding.
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I was really disappointed with this one. I had such high hopes based on the reviews, but it squashed any enthusiasm I had pretty early on. The section on video games is ridiculous. And it’s not enough to have a whole section on video games. He brings them up in other sections over and over. The man obviously has some kind of vendetta against game companies. Me and my sons (10 & 15 years old, the 2 year old isn't a gamer....yet!) have had tons of laughing out loud fun and bonding moments while playing video games. He goes on and on about the horrors of gaming, while at the same time singing the praises of all competitive sports. He of course NEVER mentions any of the horrors of organized athletics. Spinal injuries resulting in permanent paralysis, blown out knees, elbows and shoulders leading to a lifetime of pain. Crazed parents yelling at the coach to take less "athletically gifted" kids out of the game cause his/her kid is awesome and they're being held back. He never mentions this. The last couple hours of the book are nothing but a man-hating rant. He reads letter after letter that he's received from young professional women who just can't find a real man these days, and what a of loser every single guy they date is. What? Where are all these losers? Apparently I'm just not meeting them. And guess what, the unhappy women are the ones that are going to write this guy letters, not happy women in fulfilling relationships. I only finished this book so that I could write this review, and it was really tough to make it through the last couple of hours. It also doesn’t help that the reader sounds like the narrator of a 1950’s sex ed film. Two thumbs down and a bronx cheer.