This book was a great help to my family. If you have had dealings with a sociopath, and chances are, you have, you will be blown away by the similarities between your experiences and the composite examples from Dr Stout. Get ready for the goose bumps.
Hey Audible, don't raise prices and I promise to buy lots more books.
Wow, did I love this book. It was well written and well narrated. Not really at all technical, per se, it uses real life stories to illustrate the various characteristics of sociopaths. I have read in reviews that the reviewers saw the book as self-help. I would characterize it more as self-defense. Once upon a time, I had a colleague who was a complete scoundrel and who had hurt many people. I commented to one of my closest friends that what I could not understand was that I actually liked this scoundrel. My friend commented that amoral people often have that effect on us. This book helps us to identify those people. The book often reads more like one written by a science reporter than by one written by a social scientist. I am not complaining. On the contrary, it makes the book that much more readable. I think that the book helped me to understand the seemingly unfathomable why of what bad people sometimes do. Why are people sometimes totally insensitive to the feelings and needs of others. Why would one hurt another being for no apparent reason at all... not even for their own apparent personal gain.
I believe a reviewer should finish a book before submitting a review. What do you think?
I decided to listen to this book because recently I was introduced to an individual who seemed to be unable to express even a speck of empathy or compassion for her sick child. I was perplexed by this person and wondered if I was in the presence of a sociopath. In listening to this book Ms. Stout asserts that indeed I was right, this person fits the bill.
I found this book to be mostly interesting, and a bit more than discouraging to learn that according to this author, one in twenty four people in our culture are sociopaths.
Ms. Stout makes it fairly easy to determine who fits this profile and why.
The reader/listener learns that it is not only the murders and child rapists who are sociopaths but yes it's also our neighbors and co-workers, people leading "normal" lives.
This book may be very helpful for those of us who work with others, helping us to remember things are not always as they appear.
Ms. Stout does meander quite a bit in this book. I think it would have been a much better book if she edited out several chapters of "fluff" and stayed on topic more.
Overall I'm glad I listened. .
Martha Stout in "The Sociopath Next Door" has written a stiking book about sociopathy. In this text the listener will come to understand the characteristics of such individuals, their representative number in the population (4%) and behaviors, and how one might find protection from these individuals.
Pay particular attention to the "Thirteen Rules for dealing with Sociopaths in Everyday Life" and the sections related to avoiding manipulation.
The writing is good, the reading good, and the topic is timely. Inform yourself by listening to this book.
Starts with why the author decided to write it, includes how to recognize a sociopath and deal with the ones you will meet, why they are the way they are, and the consequences of their behaviour to themselves. Actually explains why you're better off with a conscience. Facinating and well written.
If you can ignore the handful of moral equivocations between terrorist sociopaths and (apparently) President Bush (perhaps I misunderstood the message), and slightly more frequent, obvious anti-war messages, this book is very interesting and insightful. I don't know the accuracy of the estimate that 4% of people are sociopaths, but the exploration of the characteristics of sociopaths was enlightening and convinced me I've unfortunately know a handful in my life. Redeeming herself, Martha Stout clearly establishes the link between psychological health and living a religiously moral life. A well written and easy to listen to audiobook I've already recommended to others.
Don?t expect uniformly good reviews, sociopaths won?t like this book. I loved it because I love enlightenment, when the puzzle fits together with an endorphin-like rush. Ready yourself for this exhilaration. The book is mainstream psychology, not paranoid delusions; trust me, I?m a doctor. We are all aware of prominent sociopaths, mass murderers including Saddam Hussein, Bin Laden, McVeigh and Rudolph; some priests and most villains, but most sociopaths are likable and even popular. We see only the tip of the iceberg. Some of the heroes of our success-driven culture are sociopaths. They are a spectrum of people joined together only by their lack of conscience and their often hidden cruelty, an inability to emotionally connect with other people, their deceptiveness and ability to put on an act, and their desire for our sympathy when they get caught. Our pity is their ultimate escape mechanism. They are particularly successful in some fields such as military and corporate American combat, especially corporate administration. You may work for one of them. They aren?t everywhere and they aren?t obvious but they are most places if you know where to look. They are 1 in 25 people and most are on the loose. They often yearn for power and have no conscience to interfere with their achieving whatever goals they desire. They convince us they are compassionate. They are wolves in sheep?s clothing. They are the predators among us, and they are dangerous. We all know at least a few and you should have no difficulty recognizing the ones who have most impacted your life. They make us doubt ourselves while making others also doubt us as they continue to victimize us, the objects of their interests. They are Alpha-males and passive-aggressive females and they may have been our siblings. They often reach positions of power over other people and they love to manipulate their victims like a cat playing with a captured mouse. You are the mouse in this analogy.
You simply need to understand and know how to deal with this personality type. Or else, you will most certainly be hurt, used or frustrated by them. I was recommended this book by a psychologist friend of mine. I thank him every time I see him for recommending it. As I said, a must read!
Having been married to a sociopath, this book has helped me a great deal. I had no idea this problem was so common.
And since it is so common, everyone please read this bbok.
I bought this audio book today, finished it today, and was very, very disappointed that this was the only book out by Dr. Stout!
She has amazing insight, not only as a Doctor, but as a human being, in general. Her stories were capitvating (especially the one of "Hannah") and I felt like I was listening to a novel - not because it was unbelievable or fantastical, but because she has this objective, yet vividly descriptive way of describing this disorder, and the people who are affected by it.
If you are like 96% of the population, and not sociopathic, I recommend this book. If you have children (especially if they are about to go out into the big, "bad" world) I recommend this book. If you are just interested in learning more about your disorder, I recommend this book :)