I have listened to a lot of personal and professional self-improvement books. Unlike all of the others combined, this one has changed my paradigm - and I am a happier, stronger, healthier, and more confident man for it.
Didn't want to admit that I had a problem with being nice, but this nailed the reasons why I was sacrificing myself. Hard lesson and being selfish goes against my core, but ultimately helpful!
For many nice guys, it's difficult to hear the truth, because the truth brings to light some of the things that you want to avoid.
While listening to this book, I was tempted to stop listening because it brought to light so many of the characteristics and traits I've personally held sacred.
The book is a great introduction to to some of the faults of trying to be a "nice guy" but it is by no means a cure all. I believe that if you couple the teachings in this book with the exercises and some other books and methods, you'll truly be able to experience what the book offers.
Well done Dr Glover!
The only flaw was they did not give the website at the end of the book.
There needs to be a sequel to transition from nice guy to manhood.
I have needed this book for the last 15 years. I'm glad that I found it and it literally has changed my life forever. I am a new man with a better life ahead of me
Good advice and good program for self diagnosed recovering "nice guys". Not entirely confident of the claims in this book, many lack scientific support and are a matter of the authors personal opinions. Universal truths that I took took from this book include the importance of self care; placing one self first (diminishing dishonesty and covertness in relationships and interactions); clear direct communication; addressing the psychodynamic roots of "nice guy"/cowardice behaviour to become a more "whole" guy. Great book.
I wish I'd read this years ago. Never before have I had so much insight into myself and why I do (or do not do) the things I do.
This should be prescribed text to all men.
the material is explained in a concise, easy to understand, and fascinating manner. the presenter delivered the material in a serious, and meaningful way, perfectly conveying the knowledge. I am positive that I really absorbed something about the true nature of this condition.
I really enjoyed this book! Great examples, surprisingly funny and accurate stories. I just wish there were a few more examples of exercises to practice changing your actions.