He found the book and I read it. He said he expected to turn the book over and find his picture on the back of it. I read it and expected to see his picture on the back of it, too. It explained a lot of the conflict and explained a lot of how I fed, and feed, into the troubles in our relationship.
The book is written for nice guys but believe me, nice guys aren't all that nice. The hard copy is needed for the written exercises but the audible is great for refreshers. I'm constantly re-reading it and he's got his own copy.
Didn't want to admit that I had a problem with being nice, but this nailed the reasons why I was sacrificing myself. Hard lesson and being selfish goes against my core, but ultimately helpful!
This book as a good amount of information that is pretty accurate. It will certainly make you think and help you understand yourself a bit more. I have met the author and he presents the material better in person than the book.
Now the bad aspect of this audio book is that there is very little (and almost none) exercises for learning to improve yourself. I was listening to the book getting very frustrated that it was all information and no ideas on how to work on improving. Toward the end of the book there was a section that I thought would start giving ideas for exercises, but nothing really substantial. Really pretty disappointing in this respect.
My suggestion is that you buy the physical book that does have exercises at the end of each chapter.
I am not a self-help kind of guy. I was given this book by a good friend who had read it, applied the principles and changed his life in a dramatic way. As we became friends, he recognized some of the same habits and actions in my life that he had changed and later, I realized that he shared and dared me because he truly was a friend. I’m not going to say it was easy, but it is truly worth exploring. The rest of your life is worth it.
Had high hopes but couldn't get into it at all. Way to much gobbledy gook. If u want to toughen up, stop acting like a pumpkin pie hair cuttted freak and tell people to f off. Way to much whining and babbling excuses in this thing.
Read the book and change your life. Enough said. Practicle and extremely applicable ibformation by the author. Introspective you will say yep thats mean as he describes men that he has worked with. Great stories and examples. Read it! Read it! Read it! You will be thankful you did later. Good luck in being the best man you can be.
This book provides a refreshing insight to many men (including me)who's lives have been filled with the frustration of circumstances which seem to be rigid and unalterable. This condition is further exacerbated by a model of passive behavior which doesn't yield any changes to the situation. Dr Glover stresses becoming an unapologetically authentic man...A good Man rather than a "nice" guy.
For many nice guys, it's difficult to hear the truth, because the truth brings to light some of the things that you want to avoid.
While listening to this book, I was tempted to stop listening because it brought to light so many of the characteristics and traits I've personally held sacred.
The book is a great introduction to to some of the faults of trying to be a "nice guy" but it is by no means a cure all. I believe that if you couple the teachings in this book with the exercises and some other books and methods, you'll truly be able to experience what the book offers.
Well done Dr Glover!
The only flaw was they did not give the website at the end of the book.
There needs to be a sequel to transition from nice guy to manhood.