I was just looking for a little insight into being more bold at work when the circumstance required.
this book is for guys with severe mommy/daddy issues and who allow themselves to be treated like a doormat.
I was looking for help with.."that deadline is unrealistic. you'll get it next Friday"
This book is more help for..."please love me. I'll let you run all over me and treat me like dirt"
I gave it a fair chance, just couldn't finish it.
I'm on my 4th listen and each time I've gone back it just hit home harder for me. One of the exercises was to say no when you don't want to do something. Being a nice guy, that killed me. I got through it and realized that it was ok for me to take actions based on my desires and decline things I don't want to do. I've learned that I have been lying to myself for years by trying to keep the peace with everyone, thus building up anger and resentment. No More Mr. Nice Guy put a name and a process for recovery in my face to open my eyes to an abundance mindset. This has given me the "it's ok" to have wants and it's ok to go after them. I needed that.
Didn't want to admit that I had a problem with being nice, but this nailed the reasons why I was sacrificing myself. Hard lesson and being selfish goes against my core, but ultimately helpful!
This book as a good amount of information that is pretty accurate. It will certainly make you think and help you understand yourself a bit more. I have met the author and he presents the material better in person than the book.
Now the bad aspect of this audio book is that there is very little (and almost none) exercises for learning to improve yourself. I was listening to the book getting very frustrated that it was all information and no ideas on how to work on improving. Toward the end of the book there was a section that I thought would start giving ideas for exercises, but nothing really substantial. Really pretty disappointing in this respect.
My suggestion is that you buy the physical book that does have exercises at the end of each chapter.
This book provides a refreshing insight to many men (including me)who's lives have been filled with the frustration of circumstances which seem to be rigid and unalterable. This condition is further exacerbated by a model of passive behavior which doesn't yield any changes to the situation. Dr Glover stresses becoming an unapologetically authentic man...A good Man rather than a "nice" guy.
For many nice guys, it's difficult to hear the truth, because the truth brings to light some of the things that you want to avoid.
While listening to this book, I was tempted to stop listening because it brought to light so many of the characteristics and traits I've personally held sacred.
The book is a great introduction to to some of the faults of trying to be a "nice guy" but it is by no means a cure all. I believe that if you couple the teachings in this book with the exercises and some other books and methods, you'll truly be able to experience what the book offers.
Well done Dr Glover!
The only flaw was they did not give the website at the end of the book.
There needs to be a sequel to transition from nice guy to manhood.
I am not a self-help kind of guy. I was given this book by a good friend who had read it, applied the principles and changed his life in a dramatic way. As we became friends, he recognized some of the same habits and actions in my life that he had changed and later, I realized that he shared and dared me because he truly was a friend. I’m not going to say it was easy, but it is truly worth exploring. The rest of your life is worth it.
My wife caught me listening to this dangerous book and threatened if i continued listening to this book that she will ask for a divorce. I stopped listening to please her.
(that was sarcasm)
Meh.. Could be shorter