This book could have been titled 'How To Get Past Dysfunction and Live Life'. The author explains how dysfunction, small or large, in your life creates skewed perceptions. He explains how to get past these issues without having to dig up too many. He informs that it is okay to be a male, to have needs, and how to go about satisfying and meeting those needs. And, how important it is to satisfy those needs. All this done while being an integrated and responsible man. When he says 'no more mr. nice guy', he means no more whining and manipulation. He means direct effort with clarity for what it is that you truly desire, including sex, career, hobbies, vacation, etc. Excellent book.
Private intellectual, writer, and retired academic. Currently R&D director for Gravitational Systems Engineering, Inc.
A very adult look at what I have been doing wrong in my life. A lot of new information, and some very fresh perspectives. It's funny, I'm not a typical nice guy. I'm strong, successful and have had a life of successful relationships. But, I still find that the women in my life are not carrying their weight especially in the bedroom. This book helped me to realize that many of my methods are flawed with unhelpful pride and crushing shame.
I would hope that there is a similar book written for women. But this book is an often uncomfortable but important read.
He found the book and I read it. He said he expected to turn the book over and find his picture on the back of it. I read it and expected to see his picture on the back of it, too. It explained a lot of the conflict and explained a lot of how I fed, and feed, into the troubles in our relationship.
The book is written for nice guys but believe me, nice guys aren't all that nice. The hard copy is needed for the written exercises but the audible is great for refreshers. I'm constantly re-reading it and he's got his own copy.
I've listened to this book 4 times. It was tough to hear the first time, because so much rang true, but it's really helping me see my actions in a way that helps me change them to get what I want. Thank you Dr. Glover.
This is an excellent book on trying and just doing it without trying to be perfect all the time. Also the advice to team work is important and is suggested. But the most important is how to confront one's fear of failure, asking others for help and asking ones need to be met.
This is a self help book but, it really might be useful anyway. Being a nice guy does not appear to work in most relationships long term so this book may help one clearly see that trying harder will not help. Offers insights such as most men have been taught and reared by women nearly exclusively and this is not natural. Most importantly this book offers actual suggestions of what men could do differently to change their doormat persona.
This book as a good amount of information that is pretty accurate. It will certainly make you think and help you understand yourself a bit more. I have met the author and he presents the material better in person than the book.
Now the bad aspect of this audio book is that there is very little (and almost none) exercises for learning to improve yourself. I was listening to the book getting very frustrated that it was all information and no ideas on how to work on improving. Toward the end of the book there was a section that I thought would start giving ideas for exercises, but nothing really substantial. Really pretty disappointing in this respect.
My suggestion is that you buy the physical book that does have exercises at the end of each chapter.
If you can't appreciate this book, you're probably not a Nice Guy. from the first few paragraphs I started realizing that nearly all of my issues I've known about for years stem from this single issue, nice guy syndrome. this book confronts every problem nice guys face with great detail and often brutal honesty. Some parts were hard for me to even listen to but I've been needing to here these things all my life. Before even finishing this book I had already become better at resolving issues and even demanded and received a raise at work that I would never have gotten other wise. I still have a lot to work on but my progression is steady. I'm in my mid 20's and single. Honestly I picked this up initially trying to get more help in picking up women other books and pick up programs I've tried have suggested I read this. If picking up women is your only goal, don't bother. This book is worth so much more than that. Though I believe this is going to eventually help me in that department by simply becoming a more actractive man. I highly recommend this to anyone who already knows they are in deed a Nice Guy. I've seen a few reviews claiming there wasn't enough activities suggested in this book to help with changing the behaviors described. They obviously didn't read the same book because there are literally about 50 of them and most are relatively easy to implement. Bottom line: I've found this book immensely insightful and helpful even just within weeks of starting it. I'm sure it will be a great tool in my future success. Many thanks to the author.
I have listened to a lot of personal and professional self-improvement books. Unlike all of the others combined, this one has changed my paradigm - and I am a happier, stronger, healthier, and more confident man for it.
It was like a fog was lifted off of my brain. I could see that there is hope for me. I am going through a divorce and realize my contribution to the breakup does not have me wanting for answers. I see how my behavior and upbringing have made me successful and yet feel unsuccessful. I am going back to counseling and will continue to read the book. The journey has just begun. I think I have found the way to be a healthy male and contribute to society again.