This is a great reminder of the simple fact that marriage is not an end but a journey. Regardless of our relationship status, we don't own the other. We must always earn our place. There are so many great examples of assumptions brought in to relationship which don't serve the marriage nor the people in it. She also does a great job of exposing our current myths and assumptions about relationship. It's not an easy book in some ways. Well worth it!
Esther Perel's voice is beautiful and captivating. I always enjoy having the author read their own book, but it works especially well in this case. Mating in Captivity combines Perel's true patient stories with her own views on monogamy, marriage, partnership, and eroticism. Eros, which plays a huge role in the book, is described in a way that makes it seem practical, necessary, too-often forgotten, and desired.
Although I have not listened to the audio version, I think Mating in Captivity could be compared to 'In my Daughter's Bedroom'.
Perel's voice and accent allow for a full range of emotional expression. Raw, soothing, dripping with sensuality, and sensitive.
People who are interested in the topic of eroticism and sexuality studies will be the major audience for this book. I think it's also appropriate for anyone who is in a relationship which prioritizes mutual communication, and/or those who want to expand their knowledge and understanding of desire and eros.
Overall I was disappointed with this book. It started off ok, giving great examples and explaining the background however I felt the book never really moved on from that point.
I understand the author spend a great amount of time getting some great research to put into the book however again it never really moved on from that point.
There was a lot of build... and no climax, just left hanging.
What I'm saying is that there is a great job done with the background (where the author is coming from and why you should listen to her), some great examples and stories (what the problem is and real life examples of the problem).
The problem? There is no solution. Ok, to be fair I might have missed it while driving and getting map directions or a phone call... There is no concise solution to the problems presented.
At the end I felt like I have a better grasp for what the problem is - sex, intimacy, attraction fades over time... where is the solution? What I got from the book is that the solution is to focus more on creating the intimacy, romance, attraction and hopefully sex. um great.
Nope- I know what the problem is, I was looking for solutions.
Nope - The accent was pretty thick, detracts from enjoying the book - Esther should have handed this one off.
Nope, not unless you want to better understand the problem of long term mating in captivity WITHOUT a solution.
Please send me an email or a message with some solutions to the problems presented, or a refund - Thanks.
Thoroughly enjoyed this book. It brought to light a lot of things I hadn't really thought about maybe ever, or didn't know about, or didn't really understand, and some things I had only partial knowledge of. Its enlightening to listen to someone who has so much vast knowledge about sexuality, coupling, intimacy and pleasure. I've listened to maybe 50 books on relationships in the last few years, and I want to give this one 7 stars.
Esther Perel has created an incredible book that is both illuminating and extremely well written.
Her heavy accent took a little bit to get used to, but by the end of the book I had grown used to it, and I found her reading to be engaged and passionate.
The book will not give your relationship a quick fix... but instead requires that you do work and that both partners examine closely their own dynamic.
Ms. Perel's accent is so annoying that it almost sounds fake. How can anyone possibly put up with this for hours? I'm going to have nightmares with that accent as a voiceover. Whoever came up with the idea of allowing Ms. Perel to narrate her own book ought to be laughing at us who purchased this title.