I love that Melody has written this book from both the standpoint of someone who has been an addict and a codependent. She understands wholly what it means to walk in both sets of shoes and therefore is qualified to give honest advice. She makes it clear what codependency is, how it occurs and how to get over it and move the hell on with your life. Those willing to face themselves and do the work will benefit tremendously from reading this book!
I hope I would never ever hear the word 'Codependent' again. I only heard first five chapter and 1/3 of it was just the definition and the word 'Codependent' itself. Worst book I have purchased from Audible. Waste of time, waste of money.
I owned this book for several years and had began to read it several times. I have been advised to read it by friends, professional over the past years but I never finished it as I learned reading this bookco-dependent's don't alway's take care of themselves. By buying this book from Audible.com I was able to download it to my phone and laptop which allowed me to listen to it while I was traveling, taking kids to the doctor, in bed at night etc. The biggest bonus was that found myself in this book and discovered so much about myself and my life and that I am not alone in struggling with Co-dependency. I'm looking forward to breaking the chains of co-dependency and I have already began my journey and practicing many of the techniques the Melody Beatties share's in her book Codependent No More.
"To forgive myself ."
She says that if we have made mistakes we have to forgive ourselves and know that we did the best we could at the time we made that decision in our life. This helped me to forgive myself for staying married to an alcolholic for twenty five years for my kids sake and wonder if they would have been better off it I would have left when they were younger.I have let go of the guilt of "What IF"
To let go of things that I can't control and take care of myself everyday.
I love Audible.com
At the top!
When I realized that I was co-dependent and why!
No I haven't but I certainly will.
Detach, Detach, Detach! And Start Living My Own Life!
Thanks to Christina for digging into what is ailing so many people and giving us a benchmark by listening to others who have already walked the path.
I have bought the paperback book, but have had no time to read it and now tha ti have the audiobook. I no longer have that excuse.
Not sure yet
The chemical dependent wife...
Taking care of everyone but myself
As a person who is in the middle of a seperation, I really needed something to help me in addition to the numerous cliches everyone and their uncle was giving me. Advice is appreciated and all, but wasn't helping me understand the "why's" or recognizing the pattern's of how I felt.
I gave the audio version a try after reading favorable reviews from the written version, and so glad I did.
For the first time in months, I really began to 'understand' what codependancy is, it's symptoms, its efffects. and its role in my life. So much so in fact that after listening to it once, I started to listen all over again and of course picking up things more insigtful the second time around.
Part self-help book, part feel good, part explanation, this audio version really does a fine job in helping any ailing, depressed, confused listener of the dealings in their life and not only puts it in perspective, but helps teach one how to identify self-issues and overcome them...one day at a time.
The performance can be a bit dry at times, and sometimes the narrator lost me in her monotonous one-note tone when reading off lists (sometimes repetitvely), but fortunately, these are few and far between. At times the narrator sounded empathetic and alive (favorable), other times dry and bored (unfavorable), thus my 3 star rating.
That being said, the content for the most part is favorable and inspiring (other than the aforementioned reading of lists).
All things considered, this is a must have audiobook for anyone suffering from or wants to learn more about codependancy. You'll be surprised how many thinsg you take for granted or didn't even notice before now make sense, and you can turn yourself around and get back to living life the way God designed you to.
It explains the reason for which we seek satisfaction through others, helps you separate yourself from others, identify your needs, and seek validation through oneself.
Relaxed but not monotone voice.
Independence, freedom from others, increased sense of self worth and thus self care...ultimately resulting in a better care for others, stronger relationships with the ones that are good for me.
Often times in the book it refers to 'alcoholism', which does not apply to me- and I feel, people associate codependents, but simply insert work or over-involved relationship of any sorts and the lessons and messages remain the same.
The book also talks about God a lot. I disagreed from some of it, religious or not, but again, just ignore it if it bothers you, an extremely minor part in this oh so important book.
I wish everyone would read this, literally everyone, such that self-care and caring for others are not in conflict, creating such a double standard in American society. I have listened to this book a few times, and will keep doing so, being independent and confident, not guilted or guided by fear of others/ expectations, truly feels liberating and just
Despite all of lifes difficulties,particularly in relationships with other people,the author brought me back ,to what do I need to do for myself to feel better.
Learning how to feel better about myself
This is the first time I heard Christina Moore-very good performance
This is a book that I wish it would have been presented as a must read in High School, very beneficial for the human experience
The author really made me look at my own behavior and how I was making things harder on myself.