Very helpful in learning what is healthy in a relationship and what is not. Additionally helpful in practically learning to place boundaries on oneself to remain in a healthy place. Living in freedom is worth the work.
This book was good. Interesting, well taken advice from a biblical perspective. In retrospect, I think I would have liked a hard copy of this book since I am the type a person that likes to highlight and mark books like these to use for future reference. I am sure I will listen to it again.
Very destructive to the marriage relationship. Marriage "boundaries" invariably become "walls" that slowly (or quickly) drive a wedge between couples. Scriptural references are ignored, or shoe-horned into the text out of context very often. Not to say that there are not good ideas, but the overall view that successful marriages are built around "boundaries" is very harmful.
Unbiblical on many levels.The cover says 2 take control of ur life,rather than submit control of ur life 2a sovereign Lord.Its a classic example of lack of not reading exagetically.Using single versus to backup a premade thesis ignoring the big picture.Reading Philpians will show u how opposite 2 their thesis of boundaries the Bible is,die 2 urself? Boundaries has some validity when used in conjuction 2 moral law not on some patently ridiculous ideas that a husband coming home late to dinner should be given consequences, Not 2b about a spouse trying 2 get some need met. Ofcourse when life is in danger(morallaw,physical/threats)Church leaders & law b involved.
The book contradicts itself many times, 1eg is they say no triangulation but yet says 2 confide in safe people rather than asking Chruch leaders and or a counsellor you both see that can create reconcilliation be the central theme.This books veiw of forgiveness is directly opposed 2biblical teaching saying you should be the judge,what about 70x7?u would imagine any sound Biblical book on marriage would address Eph 5 &connected versus in detail instead a gloss ovr saying exactly the opposite,makeing sweeping claims that a wife in violation is due 2a controlling husband,overlooking the natural tendancy of the human heart to rebel against Gods word.If u were 2examine this issue the Bible very specifically says not 2play the blame game i.e. even if A is not a God follower to still adhere to Gods commands i.e. you cannot blame the other for your violation exactly what they r doing.A is controlling so B is not to be blamed.
Even from a non-Christian perspective the method they use 2try 2fix problems is bound 2make any person annoyed. If u want to learn how to resolve problems tactfully "Crucial Conversations" is ur book. Dr Laura has more Biblical concepts in her book series "the proper care and feeding of ..." than these authors who claim 2b presenting a Christian view.Sad!