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There were clear sections for husbands and wives specifically and how each could show their partner how they love and/or respect them.
It provided a lot of examples from real couples.
It was nice to hear the actual author reading his own work, so I didn't have to guess where emphasis should have been added.
I didn't realize it was the abridged version, so reading along to the Kindle book was hard (I'd have to stop for sections the author skipped over). Would love the unabridged version and for it to be Whisper-Sync ready.
So many Marriage Strengthening books are biased and bash men or women. This author does a great job of pointing out potential pitfalls and common issues affecting both men and women equally. He does a great job explaining men to women, and women to men, in ways which we can understand each other. I especially appreciate how he compared the problems affecting women in modern society with Gods instructions found in scripture.
Eggerichs does a good job identifying this fundamental need of men and women and has a fairly good approach to meeting those needs.
I found the first section quite repetitive, some of the terms corny ("crazy cycle" for instance) and some over generalization about the sexes.
However, his thoughts on how to meet your spouse's need for love and respect is very good.
The performance - B. Not terrible but an actor would have made it easier to distinguish between a section's title and the body. His intonation when reading headings made it difficult for you to realize that it was a sentence.
I would like to see this book written by a female. Even as the author reads it he makes the woman sound awful in the tone of voice he uses for her. His advice is a bunch of his own made up ideas like "the crazy cycle" and "the reward cycle". Acronyms he uses are difficult to remember. He advises women in difficult situations to tough it out. And tells women to be more giving in the intimacy department even when the man hasn't done anything to woo her. He barley touches on the idea that men should be sacrificial in their love to their wives.
Very practical and helpful because it:
- spleaks to real marriages not idealist fabrications
- it distinguishes the diffent needs of men and women.
My wife recommended to me and we have both found it very helpful
Our marriage has been positively impacted by this book.
Emerson speaks clearly about core emotional drivers of relationship conflict and satisfaction with one's spouse and life generally.
This is excellent reading for men and women raised in a modern politically correct society (which offers little of use for constructive relationship building).
I drew a lot of wisdom from this short book as it helped focus my understanding on the need for women to be loved and men to be respected. It definitely had a large effect on improving my girlfriend and I’s relationship as we better understand what each of us needs.