I started this book in the middle of an emotional time with my loved one. I have applied just a few key components and I can honestly say that, while there isn't a significant change, the curiosity floodgates have opened. My language is touch and hers is action. I cleaned house one day after an argument over the phone and didn't tell her and she was genuinely surprised, and responded. I can honestly say that the edge of the bitterness is gone, and it's been there for a while. It's a start in my opinion. I recommend giving the book a go.
Always like the Audio better.
The "Ragamuffin Gospel" because "The Five Love Languages :Men's Editionis" is an example of grace in action.
Acts of service is a love language.
This book has made me a better husband and father.
I have and will recommend this audiobook! It doesn't just give principles or concepts [which is fine to do], it details real life examples of applying each love language as well as the results from its application!
The Love Dare. Both prescribe reasonable, Biblical methods of focusing thought and action toward others instead of self, and the Five Love Languages also helped me learn more about myself.
Hearing the author's voice made it seem real for me; as though I was receiving personal counseling from the author himself.
First, listening to, and observing family members and friends to determine each one's love language (kind of like Studying Her from "The Love Dare"), and, secondly, coming up with creative ways to speak it!
A single father with two teenage kids. I am looking forward to a bright new future.
You can relate to some of the examples Gary refers to so easily. Listening to the book you cannot help but feel you've been there before...
We tend to focus on the negative side of the relationship - Gary has a knack for turning negative situations into positive ones. I have now a pack full of suggestions I am eager to put into practice.
Being Australian it probably took a few minutes to get into his accent - some of the pronunciations are quite humorous, for example "hunting" is pronounced like "hunning" and this took a time to sort out!
Love me like a man
Very empowering book - as a divorcee and now in a beautiful new relationship, I cannot afford to make the same mistakes again. This book will help and empower me to make sure my partner gets the better of me.
Author Gary Chapman's concept about the 5 love languages is an enlightening insight that everybody should know about. It's that important and valuable.
The concept is straightforward. Here are the 5 love languages:
2. Quality time - enjoying doing things together.
3. Physical/touch (n.b., don't confuse this with sex).
4. Affirmation or compliments.
5. Service (i.e., doing things to help the other).
Everybody has a primary love language. If you express your love to your partner in this language, they will feel loved. If you express your love in another language, especially one they don't particularly value, they will not feel loved.
It's natural to treat your partner as you would wish to be treated. Hence, you are likely to express your love to your partner via your preferred love language. That's great if you share love languages. You have no need of the 5 love languages concept. If not, you have a problem that understanding this concept can help.
Sadly, the best way to learn about the 5 love languages is Gary Chapman the writer, and in this case, the reader too.
Chapman writes at and reads to the high school dropout level. On one hand, that's a great thing, because this message needs to get to the people who seldom read books. On the other hand, for those who are accustomed to reading books, the writing and reading are something akin to reading a non-fiction children's book. While it's politically correct to reposition material to men as a target audience -- this book is just a modification of his original 5 love languages book to speak directly to men -- it's not politically correct to reposition the book to a more literate target audience. That's unfortunate, because for that audience the way the book is written and read is not only annoying, it could make readers think that smart, well-educated folks wouldn't make mistakes in the love languages.
For all people wanting a better understanding of human relations, couple or not, you must read it. My wife and I both read the book, and our relationship has improved tremendously. We did not have specific problems relating to each other, but since this book, we became even closer than before. Also, be aware than the principles in this book applies also in your relationships with everyone...
Not rocket science but a helpful refresher to remind one that all people do not value the same things in life.
Chapman writes about a common issue, miscommunications and misunderstandings between partners. He reminds the listener that what is of value to her may not be of value to him and that the
Quick and easy listen.
34 year old, married +2 wonderful kids. Like fantasy and self development: moral, humility, listening, relationship, kids education etc
The 5 love languages is a great book and when I bought this one I expected more examples of the same spirit but I got exactly the same stories and I feel I hear the 5 love languages book again. Gary Chapman is an excellent writer and and I recommend warmly about the 5 love languages that e wrote.
Great at helping understand why things sometimes go the way they do and why you feel certain ways. I'm not usually into the self-help type stuff, but I really enjoyed it and learned a lot.
Being a woman I also listened to this book with my husband and it really opened our eyes to see what we should of known all along. Sometimes you just need to be set on the right path.
If you are looking for some advice whether you are already in a relationship or not this book really helps you find your way and gives you great tips.